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Wedding Recap and Withdrawal
Post Wedding Blues
After all my wedding planning, my wedding didn't go exactly as planned and I feel as though I let my guests down. Although, two of my close friends said the ceremony was beautiful and the reception entertaining; I almost feel as though the guests were cheated. My ceremony started late due to two of my bridesmaids showing up late for hair and makeup. Then the officiant kinda rushed through the ceremony because he had to officiate another elsewhere (wish I knew this prior to). I have no idea what time the reception began (I left my phone in the room) but it felt really long and some guests left before it ended. I know people don't come to a wedding expecting to be "pleased" but I am just saddened by the thought they may not have enjoyed themselves.
Re: Post Wedding Blues
Focus on the wonderful things about the day. Congratulations on your marriage and best wishes for a wonderful life together.
Did you and your spouse have a good time? You say it felt "long", but maybe we're you just tired? Weddings are really long days. As long as you hosted everyone well (food, drinks, places to sit) you're fine. And there are always people who leave early in my opinion.
How late did the ceremony start?
I won't pretend like it isn't disheartening when an event you spent so much time planning doesn't go quite like you expected, and I'm truly sorry you're going through that right now. It's okay to feel a bit bummed about it for a while, but don't let it ruin or take focus away from the really great thing going on right now - a new marriage and an exciting new chapter in your life.
Did a lot of people leave early? Even with a start that late I'd be surprised (unless your wedding was a really late ceremony or on a weeknight) that many people left that early. Were there long toasts or anything?
People are weird sometimes. Do you have any sneak peak shots from your photographer or from friends and family? Hopefully those will remind you of all the fun.
Yes, try to move your mind to other things, like ... now you're married! Yay! What other fun stuff do are you both thinking of planning for your future together?
For the benefit of lurkers, I will point this out- if your bridesmaids were so late that your ceremony ended up starting about 45 minutes late... not cool. Those ladies should have done their own makeup and simple hairstyles to get the group out on time. I was a BM once when the two hired stylists/MUA were taking so long on other ladies that three of us just did our own makeup to move things along.
You can't go back and fix that OP and it's not at all worth dwelling on. People always leave weddings early no matter how well they're hosted, and people know ceremonies start late for any variety of reasons. It sounds like you hosted well so try to focus on being married!
Hubby and I are already talking about babies and our vacation plans for next year.
A reception style event? What do you have in mind? There is nothing wrong with an anniversary party, but if you are trying to redo your reception that didn't go as well as you had hoped, I would think twice.
Personally, I'm not into public announcements of a pregnancy. A lot can happen in nine months, and you might regret making a big deal about this if things don't go as you are hoping.
I'm sorry, but I have to completely agree with this. I think you are overreacting at how your wedding went, and I don't really see why you feel the need to already start planning a one year anniversary party.
You're putting the cart way before the horse. Don't put this kind of pressure on yourself to be able to get pregnant right away/the moment you want. What if you're not pregnant by your one year anniversary? As CMG said, there can be many things that happen during a pregnancy. I've seen many friends go through the ups and downs. Just something to keep in mind.
Thanks for the advice and helping me find my way back down to earth.