DH and I haven't been invited to a wedding since DS was born. Over the weekend we received an invite to an out-of-town celebration of marriage for a friend of ours. It's later this year and we're trying to decide if we can manage all the logistics to go.
1) Would be rude/awkward to bring our own babysitter for DS? It looks like DS is invited to some day-time pre-events but not the main event/reception. It's an evening reception (6-11) and DS needs to be in bed around 7:30 so we'd want someone to put him to feed him and put him in bed. There are on-site sitters but the celebration site is not the hotel guests are being asked to use. Just leaving DS with a sitter for the weekend and going ourselves isn't an option for us.
2) If the dress code is formal, that means a suit for DH right? And a cocktail style dress for me? Because it's evening, is there an assumption that it would be a longer dress? I don't own a ton of formal wear so I'd want to start looking soon as I'm a short, busty, curvy lady who will likely need something tailored once purchased.
We've got about a month before the hotel blocks close and it would be harder to find accommodations. We'd likely opt only to participate in the main event day events and not anything the day before or day after, just to make it easier on us and DS.
Thanks in advance!