Hi everyone! I have a two part question. They're a bit long, so to sum it up:
1. Outfit change locations during reception?
2. How to negotiate for more reception time?
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1.
My venue is at a historic vineyard. The venue comes with a mansion that's open to the wedding party (bridal & groom suites) 2 hours prior to the ceremony to change/take pictures, etc. They suggested we do hair and makeup prior to getting to the venue & to just change into our outfits when we get there. Once the ceremony (outdoors) starts, the mansion gets locked up and no more access is permitted. We are to take all of our things out of it and either put it in someone's car or need to figure out what to do.
We are able to buy extra time $X/30mins, but that's just not realistic.
*Note: I fell in love with the outdoor look (mansion/ceremony site), but I really don't love the reception hall (on site). LOL, but we figured that it's really about having fun at the reception any way so......
Anyway, my concern is that my makeup/hair package comes with 3 outfit/style changes and it's very inconvenient without a proper place to store my things and get ready after the mansion locks up.
My venue told me that most brides have their bridesmaids guard the bathroom while the bride does outfit changes in the reception hall bathroom... Though they did mention that most brides they've worked with just stayed in their wedding dress all night.
I mean, I wouldn't mind doing minor hair/makeup touch ups in the bathroom, but to do outfit changes in/out of big gowns and change of hair/makeup in a small, not well lit bathroom just doesn't seem too appealing to me. (I'm also a bit of a germaphobe...)
The reception venue isn't too big (it can probably fit 15 tables?) and it being a historic building, the bathrooms (men/women) are not super fancy/updated or big. I think it's a one or two stall bathroom for each gender.
Someone suggested to me that there are beauty trailers that we can rent. Kind of like the ones that celebrities get ready in on set of a movie. I'm obviously not looking for a FANCY one, but the idea of having one of those as oppose to a small bathroom definitely tickles my fancy. lol.
I think it's also wise to mention that the closest hotel to our venue is about 15-20 mins. out, so doing changes in the hotel wouldn't be ideal due to the distance.
*Edit: The reason why I (actually the groom too, but his are just shirt changes) have multiple outfit changes is due to us having a multicultural wedding with certain traditional outfits/customs in our reception program. Our guests are mainly of the same cultures, so I'm sure it's something they're accustomed to.
This is also why I feel like we wouldn't have enough time during our reception to actually have fun and mingle with our guests.
So my questions are:
- Does anyone know where I can rent one of those trailers in the Bay Area, CA?
- Aside from the trailer, does anyone have any suggestions as to what they did at their wedding to change or what I can do in my situation?
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2.
My venue gives us 4 hours for reception. Any extra time after is $5/pp/30mins. Let's say I'm having 100 people, that means it's $1000 every extra hour! (This applies to every person and doesn't matter if it's an adult or child.)
We are having an open bar at our wedding and our venue said if we want to close the bar after the initial 4 hours, then it's $4/pp/30mins. That's still alot!
4 hours really wouldn't be enough to get everything done. Our wedding is in December (it gets dark early), so our ceremony will be either 3ish or 4ishpm, then cocktail hour, then reception at 5ish or 6ish...either way, our reception would end at 9ish or 10ish depending on when we start the ceremony. We are both in our 20s so our friends love to party! We don't want to spend all the time, effort, and money planning our wedding just for it to end at super early. For that reason, we've thought of having an after party somewhere else...but why move the party when all the vendors are already set up at the venue?
We're planning everything ourselves so we don't have a planner to help negotiate....Any negotiating experts out there that can help us out?
Thanks in advance!!