Hi everyone,
I need some advice on how to approach this situation. I'm getting married late next summer so I'm still early in the planning. I'll have 5 maids and my MOH. Her and I have been very close for the past 5 years. She's an amazing friend and very supportive. My other maids are my 2 sisters, and 3 very close (if not AS close as my MOH) friends. Well, my MOH has been showing what I think are some red flags and the feeling in my gut is not a warm fuzzy one.
Here's a few things she's done that are making me anxious-
-One of my maids (who I kind of regret not asking to be my MOH now) suggested we plan a bridesmaids dinner to get to know one another. I told my MOH and instead of agreeing she got annoyed and said she was the one who was supposed to be planning things and asked if I planned this or someone else. I told her one of the other maids suggested it because she wants to get to know you. She said well I should be the one who wants to get to know her! Then she asked me if the maid that suggested the dinner was a b***h! Then she said if she doesn't like any of the other girls not to worry because they'll never know. I was so thrown off I had no idea how to respond!
-We were discussing wedding details and she told me she sees my wedding with dark colors and silver accents. I said I want darker colors but with gold accents. Her Response? "Ew, gold is ugly but it's your day so whatever you want." Again, didn't know what to say.
-We had made plans to get together this week and she wants to go wedding dress shopping. I said I don't want to shop for my dress unless my step mom and future MIL can come as well. She got annoyed and said I was the one that wanted to go try on dresses. She then said she wants to go get a makeover, spray tan, hair done etc. I again say no I'm trying to save money for the wedding! Can't you just come over and talk about the plans with me? She got annoyed and said we planned this day a month ago are you kidding (we did NOT plan any of this!).
-I've sent her my other maids contact info FOUR TIMES because her phone was broken. I also sent all the maids her email and she never responded to their emails. She is impossible to get a hold of and sometimes doesn't call me back for days at a time. She still hasn't reached out to any of my other maids.
My other girls have been so easy going and extremely flexible.
How should I handle my MOH's unreliability and controlling-ness? It's causing concern for me because we haven't really started the hardcore wedding stuff yet. My other bridesmaids want to plan a bridal shower and bachelorette party but with what happened with out bridesmaids dinner, I'm afraid my MOH will fly off again if it's not her idea.