So i'm not engaged or even planning to get married but i'm an aspiring wedding planner in the UK and found the knot when looking up somethings that can go wrong in a wedding as part of my preliminary studies for a course i'm hoping to go on next year.
My problem is that my friend is (hopefully) getting married next year and because we've been friends for a decade she's asked me to advise and help but promised that she wont make me be a MOH as she knows I can't stand the idea of being in a bridal party again ( different story for a different day). So I agreed to be her unofficial wedding planner/personal assistant because she wont be able to afford a one at all so my planning help will be in lieu of a gift which she and her other half are grateful for as he has multiple medical issues that means he's not able to help as much as he'd like.
The issue is that when we went dress shopping I had bought my friend a tiara as a present as she'd never owned one but in my family its a thing. Well the maid of honour was late to the girls night my friend planned and then when in the shop she huffed a puffed about not being allowed to try any of the dresses on even though she's not engaged, not got a bf and has expressed she doesn't want to settle down. She didn't even stop when the sales lady informed her that it's actually seen as bad luck in our area to try on wedding dresses before being engaged.
To top it off while the bride was trying on a dress the MOH pinched the tiara out of its box and put it on with a veil. I was too distracted taking notes on the dresses and changing the batteries in my camera to notice until the bride came out and her face dropped for a second before she plasters the fake smile on her face so the MOH doesn't notice.
The MOH also go ratty when the Bride said that even though I wasn't a BM she wanted to honour me in some way and have me in a really pretty dress...
Am I out of line for feeling that the MOH is ruining my friends experience?
I know from lurking that all shes meant to do is get the appropriate dress and show up sober ( although i think for her that's going to be an issue) but surely if your agreeing to come to these shopping trips you should know they're not about you...I'm not expecting her to be as excited as my friend or even as i am because i'm a wedding person but id have though she would have at least not actively tried to take away the attention...
Also before it gets mentioned there was never any question about the MOH being the brides MOH it's not that I turned it down so the bride asked her it was always going to be her or me and her.