So my fiancé's mom mentioned a few months ago that she wanted to do a choreographed with my fiancé. I would have been fine with that, that could have been their mother-son dance. My fiancé refused, which I figured he would and is why I said that would be okay in the first place. Fast forward to today, a man I work with, his wife is good friends with my future MIL, told me that the women got together to practice "the mom's" dance...what?? I thought she would have dropped it after my fiancé said no. Now she's planning a dance with her friends? Neither my fiancé nor I want her to do this, but we're not sure how to approach her about it. She hasn't mentioned it to us since that first time. I think she's thinking we'll think its funny and their creative, but we just think she's taking some of the spotlight. Yes, both sets of parents are helping to pay for the wedding, but my fiancé and I are paying for more than them.
Any ideas on how to approach a future MIL without hurting her feelings? My fiancé said he would talk to her, but who knows if that will happen.