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OurWildKingdom · September 2017

Hi everyone!

We were shorthanded today; the senior clerk took the day off and so did both the secretaries. Also, apparently everyone in Cleveland lost their minds over the holiday weekend, and we had several emergency custody filings today. I didn't get to take a break till 3:30 today, and that was because my boss made me take one and asked the paralegal to cover the phone for 15 minutes.

The holiday weekend was great for the most part. The only hiccup was Saturday afternoon, when I went to a salon about community living hosted by a Meetup for lesbians and bisexual women over 40 (although as a bisexual woman, I'm pretty sure I'm in the minority). I heard some classism and ableism during the discussion, and even a little transphobia toward the end. I'm seriously considering leaving the group. The organizer apologized for the tone of the discussion, but I'm still bothered by it.

sparklepants41 · September 2017

MissKittyDanger said:

flantastic said:

@MissKittyDanger- In reading your posts before, I actually thought that's what was going on, but didn't have enough information about the timeline to say "Oh you might have a luteal phase defect" - which is where the time post-ovulation but pre-period isn't long enough for baby to implant. That's not the only reason implantation wouldn't happen, but it's common especially with major hormonal changes (like getting off BP, or being postpartum). The hormonal changes never pose the same issues for everyone, and if that does occur the LP usually just takes a few cycles to lengthen back out.

I'm sorry you're not pregnant, and glad you're hopeful. Best of luck to you in the next few cycles

I actually never heard of it until it happened to myself but apparently it's not uncommon. My dr said it's a lot easier on the body {physically and mentally} than having a miscarriage.

Basically if it happens again, we're not holding out breath again lol

So I had this exact situation. 5-week cycle with late ovulation and short timeframe between ovulation and period. @MissKittyDanger I'm more than happy to give advice/answer questions/be a shoulder to lean on - feel free to PM me.

WinstonsGirl · September 2017

@MissKittyDanger So sorry to hear that your not pregnant. But at least the Dr.'s advice sound like a positive.

@mrsconn23 Congratulations on the offer!

kaos16 · September 2017

CMGragain said:

kaos16 said:

and I just learned that MIL ordered our son a play kitchen that is way to expensive and way to big for our house. It is 5.5 feet long. . . it's going to take up all available wall space in his bedroom and require me to rearrange his toy bins. I am sure he'll love it, but I'm annoyed that she doesn't respect my desire not to have a zillion toys covering every inch of the house. I would be ok with her getting him a smaller, more reasonable one.

Have you talked to her about this? Maybe she would like to change her order for something that would work better for all of you? I always check with DD before I buy anything for the grandkids.

She specifically only emailed DH about it because she knew I'd say no, like I said no to the 5 foot teddy bear. He showed me it and I told him to tell his mom that it was too big, but she could get him something smaller. He apparently didn't, and the sale was ending so she bought it. She and I don't have the best relationship. I don't think she really likes me because DH is her only child and it was the two of them on their own since he was about 7. People who have interacted with our family often mention to me that she seems obsessed with him, and that it's uncomfortable to watch. I have tried many, many times to have a relationship, but after a few years I kinda gave up, which probably isn't good. Anyway, all that rambling is just to explain why I asked DH to tell her. She doesn't seem to respect anything I request when it comes to my son. (Today for instance, I told her that I do not want him watching tv while eating meals, I think it is a bad habit to be forming. I have found myself throwing on a show for him, and he asks for TV when I'm setting up his meals. I think we all need to make an effort to make sure we are engaging with him during meals and not just setting him in front of a show. She rolled her eyes, and told me it gets him to eat)

banana468 · September 2017

kaos16 said:

CMGragain said:

kaos16 said:

and I just learned that MIL ordered our son a play kitchen that is way to expensive and way to big for our house. It is 5.5 feet long. . . it's going to take up all available wall space in his bedroom and require me to rearrange his toy bins. I am sure he'll love it, but I'm annoyed that she doesn't respect my desire not to have a zillion toys covering every inch of the house. I would be ok with her getting him a smaller, more reasonable one.

Have you talked to her about this? Maybe she would like to change her order for something that would work better for all of you? I always check with DD before I buy anything for the grandkids.

She specifically only emailed DH about it because she knew I'd say no, like I said no to the 5 foot teddy bear. He showed me it and I told him to tell his mom that it was too big, but she could get him something smaller. He apparently didn't, and the sale was ending so she bought it. She and I don't have the best relationship. I don't think she really likes me because DH is her only child and it was the two of them on their own since he was about 7. People who have interacted with our family often mention to me that she seems obsessed with him, and that it's uncomfortable to watch. I have tried many, many times to have a relationship, but after a few years I kinda gave up, which probably isn't good. Anyway, all that rambling is just to explain why I asked DH to tell her. She doesn't seem to respect anything I request when it comes to my son. (Today for instance, I told her that I do not want him watching tv while eating meals, I think it is a bad habit to be forming. I have found myself throwing on a show for him, and he asks for TV when I'm setting up his meals. I think we all need to make an effort to make sure we are engaging with him during meals and not just setting him in front of a show. She rolled her eyes, and told me it gets him to eat)

It sounds like you may need to pick more battles with your DH.

Believe me I've been in situations with DH and our ILs where I've had to tell him that this was HIS deal and it needed to be addressed.

VarunaTT · September 2017

The only hiccup was Saturday afternoon, when I went to a salon about community living hosted by a Meetup for lesbians and bisexual women over 40 (although as a bisexual woman, I'm pretty sure I'm in the minority). I heard some classism and ableism during the discussion, and even a little transphobia toward the end. I'm seriously considering leaving the group. The organizer apologized for the tone of the discussion, but I'm still bothered by it.

I would ask that you stay in for a just a little while. I know it's hard, but having an advocate there who speaks up, "Hey all, just an FYI, this and this is not okay for a queer community to be engaging in," is important. I think especially ableism is one that most people are not educated about at all. I still work on my language daily to address that.

See what the organizer does to change it. If nothing, oh yeah, walk the hell away.

OurWildKingdom · September 2017

VarunaTT said:

The only hiccup was Saturday afternoon, when I went to a salon about community living hosted by a Meetup for lesbians and bisexual women over 40 (although as a bisexual woman, I'm pretty sure I'm in the minority). I heard some classism and ableism during the discussion, and even a little transphobia toward the end. I'm seriously considering leaving the group. The organizer apologized for the tone of the discussion, but I'm still bothered by it.

I would ask that you stay in for a just a little while. I know it's hard, but having an advocate there who speaks up, "Hey all, just an FYI, this and this is not okay for a queer community to be engaging in," is important. I think especially ableism is one that most people are not educated about at all. I still work on my language daily to address that.

See what the organizer does to change it. If nothing, oh yeah, walk the hell away.

I did send a message to the organizer, to the effect of, "I'm really bothered by what I heard on Saturday, and to be honest, I don't feel all that welcome in the group." No reply yet.

kvruns · September 2017

@kaos16 that's super frustrating. And I'm sure it isn't as simple as returning the big kitchen set for a smaller one. I'd definitely try to get DH on board to shut that one down.

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