Adressing invites/STD help!!

Re: Adressing invites/STD help!!

• ahoywedding member

  

  October 2017

  redoryx said:

  ahoywedding said:

  CMGragain said:

  banana468 said:

  But you're advocating for something that's blatantly favoring the men.
  
  You can certainly say that's the way you like to be addressed.   But it seems like you're changing the argument to suit your answer.   The traditional way is sexist and patriarchal.   If someone wants to use a different format while knowing that YOU prefer something different, the new way isn't wrong if the books haven't caught up yet.

  There is nothing wrong with Ms. Jane Doe and Mr. John Doe.  I never said that there was.  I just personally prefer tradition, as do many women.  That doesn't reflect on our position on women's rights.  To equate politics with a preferred form of address is judgemental and often incorrect.  Choices, ladies!  Choices!
  

  This is your stance every time this situation comes up here, and you pretend everyone is taking away your choice in how you prefer to be addressed. Literally no one is saying that. All we're saying is the etiquette "rules" haven't caught up to society yet, and it's okay to acknowledge that and choose the more inclusive option as the default. If someone has a preference, we honor that. 
  
  There are some etiquette rules that should never be broken, like inviting significant others or not asking for money, and then there are things that are a little more flexible. 

  This reminds me of people who were/are against gay marriage, acting like people of the same gender getting married would suddenly make hetero marriages invalid or some bullshit.
  

  YES. What's that saying...when you're used to privilege, equality feels like oppression? 

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