I don't know if this is happening to anyone else or it just be me. My best friend were being engaged recently, i'm very happy for her. After discussing wedding details together we came up with the same idea that why don't we do a double-wedding. but after searching and studying we both found its a quite complected stuff to do. So, i was wondering if anyone been through all this, any advice would be appreciated.
Re: Has anyone here actually had a double wedding?
Two friends sounds way more complicated though. What if the only time her grandparents can come is a bad time for your sibling? How will you split up finances? Honestly, it just sounds like a recipe for disaster, imo.
I know you're not supposed to plan your own bachelorette or shower, but if the same people might be working on both of yours, you could have those events together!
I wouldn't do this in a million years. No way, no how. The only way I see this actually working out is if:
1) the couples are the only ones paying (no family contributions/opinions);
2) each couple pays the same amount;
3) each couple gets the same number of guests;
4) if the couples' families are generally local;
5) if all 4 people have ZERO reservations about a joint wedding;
6) if all 4 people generally have the same wedding vision; and
7) if all 4 people are generally chill and not type A. Or maybe one type A person of the 4.
Otherwise, I just don't see that working out.
I recall a thread a while ago where the bride's FMIL wanted a double wedding for her kids, since they were both engaged at the same time. They were humoring her at first, but then she thought it was a go. In the end, I think the bride posting was told to present a united front to FMIL that the double wedding was a no go, as neither couple wanted one.
I think a double wedding with siblings could/can work. But I would say HELL NO to a double wedding between friends. That is a recipe for an ended friendship.
Depending on the friendship, it could work. It could also turn disastrous.
I think it could, but is unlikely to work. At least with friends. I would have all the same caveats that @southernbelle0915 listed as to it maybe working.
I know I'm going way back in time. My grandparents had a double wedding in the late '40s, with grandma's sister and her FI. As far as I know, they were all happy to have done that and don't regret it. There is a pic I love from their wedding that is the two couples, in their wedding finery, standing in front of the church. Four joyful looking people. Two handsome men and two beautiful brides, in their beautiful dresses. But I might be biased
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When I first read this, I thought "nope" but then PP made valid points with twins/siblings. If all four involved is OK with it, why not?
Wedding planning can be challenging enough for one couple getting married, so having to accommodate two couples at the same event could get very complicated and lose its charm very fast. I hate to be a downer, but I think this is something that could end up as a fight with your friend rather than a fun shared experience.
So I wouldn't go for it.
Just saw this today. I think it would better with siblings since at least that side have shared guests. 4 unrelated people would have more sets of family. Sounds like a nightmare.
I hope you both have beautiful and wonderful wedding days!
And it can still be fun to bounce ideas off each other and talk about planning, since you will both be in "wedding mode".