Robes for bridesmaids

dh961182 · January 2018

hello
i am looking to get robes for my bridesmaids to get ready in Just wondering where everyone bought from and how good of quality and comfort they were for the price?
amanda

ernursej · January 2018

MandaLang said:

hello
i am looking to get robes for my bridesmaids to get ready in Just wondering where everyone bought from and how good of quality and comfort they were for the price?
amanda

I would recommend against. Most are personalized and very short. The only robe I would be comfortable in is a long terry cloth robe.

MobKaz · January 2018

MandaLang said:

hello
i am looking to get robes for my bridesmaids to get ready in Just wondering where everyone bought from and how good of quality and comfort they were for the price?
amanda

Hello. I thought I might save you some time.....
http://forums.theknot.com/search?Search=robes+for+bm&CategoryID=66

The gist.......
It will be a waste of time and money.
People do not need to wear coordinating outfits to "get ready".
Not everyone is comfortable having their photo taken in a robe.
Everyone has distinct and differing tastes when it comes to robes, so purchasing a matchy robe for all is impractical.
It's a photo op shot that is never seen or hung.
Let your friends dress comfortably.
If you are purchasing the robes as a "gift", you are mistaken. If it is for YOU, or something to use a photo op, then it is not a gift.

short+sassy · January 2018

A good piece of advice that I picked up from the Knotties on here is to wear a button-down shirt to get ready.

Robes sound like a cute idea, but they just aren't practical. Most people don't want to be accidentally flashing their friends. Especially assuming that a photographer is nearby.

Just let people wear whatever they are the most comfortable in.

CMGragain · January 2018

Skip the robes. They are not necessary, and not needed.

ei34 · January 2018

Ooh bath robes for BMs! Nice! Here’s my bath robe recommendation

I can’t promise your BP will like it though...I put robes in the undergarment category, which is highly personal.

short+sassy · January 2018

eileenrob said:

Ooh bath robes for BMs! Nice! Here’s my bath robe recommendation

I can’t promise your BP will like it though...I put robes in the undergarment category, which is highly personal.

I know you're kidding but, oooofff...$200 for a robe. That only has 3/5 stars.

southernbelle0915 · January 2018

I’m not sure where people buy these but just keep in mind that anything you buy for them to wear the day of the wedding is not a gift - it’s part of the uniform.

The BM gift is thanking your best friends and family for standing next to you on the most important day of your life. It should be something that’s for/about THEM - not something for cute insta pics.

ETA: Not only that but this trend trend is like 8 years old and wayyy over done. Plus the robes are usually junky, too short, and have the look of grandma’s floral sofa. Just no all around.

levioosa · January 2018

Please don't. Let me get ready in something I feel comfortable in....like sweatpants and a button up shirt. Use that money to buy me something that tells me you actually appreciate me, instead of just trying to angle for cutsie pictures.

kahluakoala · January 2018

I'm of two minds on this. On one hand, I think they're pretty overdone and basic, but on the other hand, you want the same "cute" pictures everyone else has, I get it I'm not immediately jumping to berate you. Every wedding I've been to and seen photos of in the past 4 years has had robes. I think we need to lay off brides who think this is a relatively normal thing to do, because, at least in my experience, it is.

When I've done it I got the robes on etsy, they were like $15 per robe, which was fine for a photo prop, IMO. I think this is a know your crowd thing too - My FSIL was disappointed when I told her I wasn't interested in doing matchy matchy getting ready photos. Depending on your girls, that kind of stuff can make the BP feel special, you know?

If you do want to do it, again IMO the button down flannels are way cuter and more original. I plan to tell my BP "wear something to get ready that you feel comfortable having a few photos taken" and letting them do their thing.

MissKittyDanger · January 2018

I agree with @KahluaKoala - they're cute photos, everyone wants them.

Instead, if you really want to get them a top - ask if a button up top would be enjoyed. You could put their name on the sleeve is you really want.

But 100% ask. I would be the BM to say yes, but I know some of my BM's would have said no if I wanted to do that.
{plus button ups - like PPs have said - are easier to put on and off without risk of messing up hair/makeup

}

TrixieJess · January 2018

I've never been in a wedding that had "getting ready pictures". The photograper usually showed up just as the bride was finishing her hair and makeup and started doing her pictures. I've always just worn schleppies.

thisismynickname2 · January 2018

Ugh, guys, I saw getting ready photos on Facebook where the bride had a bridesman and yes, he was in a robe with all the ladies too.

I have seen quite a few matchy-matchy getting ready photos posted to FB, in fact. So the argument against isn't that "no one's going to see them anyway," it's more like, "a shit ton of strangers that are friends-of-friends WILL see them when the bride inevitably makes her album public and her husband's old colleagues see them in the tagged album."

bld17 · January 2018

I have been in two weddings in which we did robes. One wedding, the bride gave them to us as a gift, and then we wore them for pictures. It wasn't practical, and I haven't worn the robe since.

For the other wedding, we knew what the bride was giving us as our gift, and it did not include a robe. However, the bridesmaids did buy robes ourselves and for the bride for pictures/ to get ready in. We ordered them off of amazon, and surprisingly they were cute, floral, and silk and under $20. However, again, I haven't worn the robe since.

If you are doing them just for pictures, I would buy them for your BM, but not as gifts, as others have said (and go on the cheaper side, not worth the money).

I have thought about the button/up pajamas, but I think as a BM I would rather where what I want while getting ready.

missfrodo · January 2018

I had a male photographer. We didn't have professional hair and makeup or anything, but if I had forced my friend to be half-naked in front of him anyway, she would have smacked me so hard upside the head my brain would have come out my ear. Before you purchase robes, why not ask each girl, individually, what she would be happiest to wear while getting ready?

knottie69fc6038b39dc651 · January 2018

I'm doing zip-up hoodies instead of robes. They are warm, comfortable and we are getting our hair/makeup done in a salon and they probably don't want to be out in public wearing a robe. At some point we will probably do Starbucks run or quick stop to pick up lunch or something. I don't want to be wearing a robe.

thisismynickname2 · January 2018

You know... I'll also point out that those getting ready photos now look so staged. Honestly, one of my favorite non-professional photos is a selfie- me and my BFF with our hair and makeup done making crazy faces in the full-length mirror. I'm wearing a pink button-down with jeans and she's wearing yoga pants and an old sorority t-shirt. There are no pictures of us girls toasting with champagne or anything, but that picture embodies the spirit of our friendship way more!

Jen4948 · January 2018

It's been my experience that "getting ready" for a wedding is not a positive "bonding" experience. Everyone, the bride especially, is under stress to get uncomfortable outfits and accessories on and arrange their hair and makeup, and it's somehow more like a high school locker room than a "fun" time with one's female nearest and dearest. I wouldn't want to pose for photos while getting ready for a wedding -- especially in a robe chosen and mandated by someone else. Not even if my closest female associate is the bride.

I'd rather have photos of truly happy moments.

vikinganna87 · January 2018

I'm with @ernursej and @eileenrob. If you want to buy a practical gift that your BMs will use after the wedding, I recommend a nice fluffy bathrobe. I do believe they're pricey but last time I checked you could find 100% cotton ones for under $100.

Another alternative is a silk or cotton kimono, which IMO look nice and are practical, but it all depends on what your BMs' preferences are.

My house has hardwood floors and I'm perpetually cold, so I wear my fluffy bathrobe or cotton kimono almost daily after taking a shower and walking around the house before I get dressed.

As for the photographer documenting the getting ready session, I don't see it as a contentious topic. If the bride wants it, why not? If you have a BM that you know is particularly sensitive about photos you may want to check in advance. Maybe I'm an outlier here, but I really don't see a big deal with a trusted professional male photographer seeing me in a robe. Rather that than a friend posting a grainy ridiculous compromising stupid pic of me on social media during a night out.

FWIW we didn't do any getting ready photos with our photographer for the wedding. All the ladies just met in the back room of the church with the groomsmen before the ceremony.

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