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Robes for bridesmaids
hello
i am looking to get robes for my bridesmaids to get ready in Just wondering where everyone bought from and how good of quality and comfort they were for the price?
amanda
i am looking to get robes for my bridesmaids to get ready in Just wondering where everyone bought from and how good of quality and comfort they were for the price?
amanda
Re: Robes for bridesmaids
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The gist.......
It will be a waste of time and money.
People do not need to wear coordinating outfits to "get ready".
Not everyone is comfortable having their photo taken in a robe.
Everyone has distinct and differing tastes when it comes to robes, so purchasing a matchy robe for all is impractical.
It's a photo op shot that is never seen or hung.
Let your friends dress comfortably.
If you are purchasing the robes as a "gift", you are mistaken. If it is for YOU, or something to use a photo op, then it is not a gift.
A good piece of advice that I picked up from the Knotties on here is to wear a button-down shirt to get ready.
Robes sound like a cute idea, but they just aren't practical. Most people don't want to be accidentally flashing their friends. Especially assuming that a photographer is nearby.
Just let people wear whatever they are the most comfortable in.
I can’t promise your BP will like it though...I put robes in the undergarment category, which is highly personal.
The BM gift is thanking your best friends and family for standing next to you on the most important day of your life. It should be something that’s for/about THEM - not something for cute insta pics.
ETA: Not only that but this trend trend is like 8 years old and wayyy over done. Plus the robes are usually junky, too short, and have the look of grandma’s floral sofa. Just no all around.
When I've done it I got the robes on etsy, they were like $15 per robe, which was fine for a photo prop, IMO. I think this is a know your crowd thing too - My FSIL was disappointed when I told her I wasn't interested in doing matchy matchy getting ready photos. Depending on your girls, that kind of stuff can make the BP feel special, you know?
If you do want to do it, again IMO the button down flannels are way cuter and more original. I plan to tell my BP "wear something to get ready that you feel comfortable having a few photos taken" and letting them do their thing.
Instead, if you really want to get them a top - ask if a button up top would be enjoyed. You could put their name on the sleeve is you really want.
But 100% ask. I would be the BM to say yes, but I know some of my BM's would have said no if I wanted to do that.
{plus button ups - like PPs have said - are easier to put on and off without risk of messing up hair/makeup
I have seen quite a few matchy-matchy getting ready photos posted to FB, in fact. So the argument against isn't that "no one's going to see them anyway," it's more like, "a shit ton of strangers that are friends-of-friends WILL see them when the bride inevitably makes her album public and her husband's old colleagues see them in the tagged album."
For the other wedding, we knew what the bride was giving us as our gift, and it did not include a robe. However, the bridesmaids did buy robes ourselves and for the bride for pictures/ to get ready in. We ordered them off of amazon, and surprisingly they were cute, floral, and silk and under $20. However, again, I haven't worn the robe since.
If you are doing them just for pictures, I would buy them for your BM, but not as gifts, as others have said (and go on the cheaper side, not worth the money).
I have thought about the button/up pajamas, but I think as a BM I would rather where what I want while getting ready.
I'd rather have photos of truly happy moments.
Another alternative is a silk or cotton kimono, which IMO look nice and are practical, but it all depends on what your BMs' preferences are.
My house has hardwood floors and I'm perpetually cold, so I wear my fluffy bathrobe or cotton kimono almost daily after taking a shower and walking around the house before I get dressed.
As for the photographer documenting the getting ready session, I don't see it as a contentious topic. If the bride wants it, why not? If you have a BM that you know is particularly sensitive about photos you may want to check in advance. Maybe I'm an outlier here, but I really don't see a big deal with a trusted professional male photographer seeing me in a robe. Rather that than a friend posting a grainy ridiculous compromising stupid pic of me on social media during a night out.
FWIW we didn't do any getting ready photos with our photographer for the wedding. All the ladies just met in the back room of the church with the groomsmen before the ceremony.