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Wedding Woes
kimmiinthemitten
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Raise your hand if you woke up on the wrong side of the bed!
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Ugh, I'm in a funk today, but so are my coworkers, and all friends so it's actually helping.
Tomorrow is my birthday and I'm turning 38 and not happy about it. I'm not sure what it is about that number but I can't handle it right now. And we're going to a fundraising gala tomorrow night, and I tried on all of my dresses and I look like a sausage casing. That doesn't help. Plus I'm on my period. Overall, shit.
On the up side - 10 days to DC!!! We are doing a White House Tour. I was torn on it, but it was closed to tours when we last time, and at the end of the day I'm not going to let Cheeto run me out of the People's House. It's a weekend so he should be golfing anyways.
Tomorrow is my birthday and I'm turning 38 and not happy about it. I'm not sure what it is about that number but I can't handle it right now. And we're going to a fundraising gala tomorrow night, and I tried on all of my dresses and I look like a sausage casing. That doesn't help. Plus I'm on my period. Overall, shit.
On the up side - 10 days to DC!!! We are doing a White House Tour. I was torn on it, but it was closed to tours when we last time, and at the end of the day I'm not going to let Cheeto run me out of the People's House. It's a weekend so he should be golfing anyways.
Re: Raise your hand if you woke up on the wrong side of the bed!
I'm in a work related funk. I don't like being talked down to or told "when you're older/wiser/more experienced", like okay I get it I'm youngish, but I'm not fresh out of college, and yes I understand I have a lot to learn, but it's still obnoxious, and frankly a little unprofessional.
I'm also cognizant that 1. the weather is grey and miserable and it's starting to really mess with my mood now and
2. I'm firmly in the divorce remembrance period. I wish people would be more understanding; far too many people think that divorce BOOM everything is fine and I never think about this again. No. We were together for 16 years, 13 married...it might've blown up in barely 4 months, but there was a long shared history there. And there was a pretty ugly aftermath for me to live through, where I took a lot of social media name calling that hurt, badly. I kept all of that mostly all to myself. I'm still angry and bitter at some things (why do we still have mutual FB friends after he made a post calling me a trash person who took everything of value and his mother called me a wench on FB?), just at a lesser level.
3. Oh and I think I'm about to start my period. 4. And I'm about to turn 41 and while I dealt with 40 okay, 41 seems to be smacking me around.
Anyway, I'm in a pretty big funk.
DH always gets so bent out of shape with worry when the kids get sick (especially when they're under 10), so I also have him to make me batshit. (He was all snappy this morning when I pointed out to him that a teaspoon-spoon is not the same as the measured cups. He was all, "I couldn't find the cup!" *sigh* They're in the same spot they've been since we moved into this house.)
I went to bed early last night and tossed and turned, of course. So I'm almost more tired this morning than I was yesterday. Other than that, SSDD. Still cold out. Work is...work. Meh.
In case you're interested in sharing my outrage:
http://www.toledoblade.com/Courts/2018/02/06/Ohio-Supreme-Court-upholds-order-to-shut-down-Toledo-s-last-abortion-clinic.html
Spending the day reviewing drafts - BOGGLES THE MIND how no one can spell anymore. Adding letters to words, putting apostrophes on plural words, creating past tenses that don't exist...I'm smacking my head all over the place today.
Happy early bday also
@charlotte989875 That's not fair they're assuming your knowledge and/or experience.
@VarunaTT I think even if it's "a long time coming" or like yours, people don't really get what people deal with once they go through divorce
That's not fair of people to call you names. Definitely uncalled for!
Not a whole lot last night. I'm planning a day with my bff in March since she'll be in town. Once we figure out a day, I'm booking it off
Seeing another friend tonight - long overdue, since we've been trying to get together since June lmao!
I got a horrible foot cramp last night, and M had to help me massage it out because I couldn't grab and stretch my foot enough.
I've never had it before, and I'm pretty sure it's pregnancy related, but dear gawd that shit hurts!!
My mum said I was lucky I caught it before it turned into a charley horse like she had when pregnant lol
@kimmiinthemitten, Happy early birthday! Ain't nothing but a number. I'm sure you look beautiful in your dresses, I think the negative view you are having is really just your sub-conscious angling for a new fabulous dress
. Definitely do a White House tour! Think of it in terms of its history, as opposed to thinking of the current resident that can't be bothered to be there most of the time anyway.
@VarunaTT, happy early birthday to you also. Our memories can sometimes be chains worse than the strongest steel. I hope you get your mojo back and out of your funk.
@mrsconn23, I'm with you. I didn't get enough sleep the night before. Felt tired at 10:30 and went to bed. Yet was still awake until midnight. So now I'm going on Day 2 of less than 6 hours of sleep per night.
My H and I are having a fancy dinner tonight at one of our favorite restaurants. It's a mystery shop, which makes it even better because I'll get my meal reimbursed with my next payment from that company, lol.
Other than that, it's a fairly busy day at work, but I'm having trouble gathering up enough motivation, lol.
@charlotte989875, can you ever win? I hate age discrimination. The youngest person in our office is actually the most successful, she used to be in our department and moved to another department and I'm a personal cheerleader for her. Go her! She understood our industry so well she accelerated and made a great career move.
@varunaTT, divorce isn't easy. Even if you're on good terms, it's not easy! I see that a lot from my own H (I'm his third wife). Keep your head high!
@mrsconn23, good move for leaving defconn home. I don't understand why people dont stay home if they're sick! don't spread the germs. H's company is the worst. They don't get sick days so EVERYONE comes into work sick. Give them sick days dammit (although in his company, it would be abused)
Yesterday we got a call from a plumbing company saying they had our dog. I was like WHAT?!? Milo has never escaped before! H picked him up and went home (we were both working) and found out that our electric company hired tree trimmers to get to the telephone pole and they left our gate open! wtf! H had words with them, but I'm still thinking of putting in a complaint. Poor Milo is 16 years old and deaf and blind - he could have been hit by a car!
@mrsconn23 It's hard to say which of us will be more panicky when our kid is sick, but it seems like there's always one parent that gets more wound up when a kid is sick.
@charlotte989875, I am angry all over again hearing about the shutting down of the only abortion clinic for such a large area. Back a few years ago, Louisiana...always one of those states looking for outlawing abortion loopholes...was trying to pass that only doctors with hospital privileges could perform abortions. I don't remember exactly, but I think the courts or maybe even SCOTUS shut that kind of s**t down before the law ever passed anyway.
Most gyns who specialize in that don't have hospital privileges. Why? Because you need to have so many patients in a hospital over a course of a year to have privileges and it is exceedingly rare that an abortion performed by a medical doctor EVER requires a hospital visit. In the entire state, there was only ONE doctor who both performed abortions and had hospital privileges...because he also specialized in high risk pregnancies. His office was in Shreveport. Hundreds of miles from the NOLA area, where 80+% of the population is. He also went on record as saying that, if the law were passed, he would no longer perform abortions. Purely out of fear for the safety of his family, his staff, and his patients.
@CharmedPam, thank goodness Milo is okay!!!! I'm glad the plumbing company took good temporary care of him and reached out so quickly.
I'm here and with a decent night's sleep last night, so I didn't get up on the wrong side this morning.
Varuna - Hugs to you. I hope you can find peace with your divorce thoughts and keep your funk from spreading to work.
Kimmi - Go get a new dress! I would tell you to RTR, but its probably too late!
Charlotte - That is so frustratingly sad about the clinic.
MrcConn - Healthy vibes for DefConn
MKD - Look up some yoga stretches for your feet and legs, it will probably help keep you from cramping up. Also if a charley horse ever starts, stand up and put your foot flat to the floor as best you can. It helps to calm down the muscle. Also, there is a specific vitamin that helps with muscle cramps. I can't recall which one it is - maybe Vitamin D? Try drinking some extra milk to get some above what your prenatal is providing.
H is working late tonight, so I will be picking up DD. Depending on how she does after work, we may go to the mall so I can make a return and then some bulk food shopping at BJs. I'm heading to Wegmans at lunch, so at least I will get an easy dinner for myself from there.
There are so many horror stories of women who don't get the necessary care because of their intrusiveness that I'm actually relieved that I can't have children. I would be scared to get pregnant, find out that either I or the baby has a terrible condition and I can't carry it to term and then have people deciding that I have to risk my own life to give birth to a child who won't live long and will never see the outside of a hospital.
Work has been so busy and I have received every special case in the school, for reals.
My niece is 9 months and so funny. I love that little peanut, and she is truly a blessing in my life. I thought I would end on a high note.:)
@charlotte989875 just saw your post about the clinic. WTAF. This makes me livid. I really hate this country sometimes.
@CharmedPam On sheer fact that they left the gate open - even if Milo was in good health, also even if you didn't have a dog - is a no-no for them. Definitely file a complaint! Glad pup's ok though!
Today's my mom's birthday. I have a delivery sent to her with a note saying, "You're pretty HIP. No BONES about it!"
Hopefully she enjoys my puns. :-)
Yes! Dehydration can cause charley horses.
My H swears that potassium also helps, though I've never done the research. Both bananas and coconut water have lots of potassium.
Apparently if it continues to be an issue, it could be magnesium. I think it was a one-off though.
@charlotte989875 - that is awful (about the clinic). Can people PLEASE stop policing women's organs? No one tries to police dicks and balls ("don't tread on me!" *eyeroll*). No one is like "any doctor prescribing ED meds or performing prostate exams must be extra highly regulated because we really CARE about men's health just as much as women's health." No. You don't. Please, spare me the patronizing bullshit on top of regulating my body. It's just insult to injury.
{ps - i spent more time than i should looking for this gif}
Oh my goodness! My college, Cal State San Marcos, changed their mascot!
It's possible it happened a long time ago, lol. I pay very little attention.
When I was there, we were the Tuquawts. Probably spelling that wrong. Pronounced TOO-quats. It is a local Indian name for a California Mountain Lion. Our logo, at the time, looked suspiciously like a Penn State Nittany Lion. By suspiciously, I mean exactly like it, lol.
Apparently now we are the Cougars. New logo also. At least they aren't stealing from Penn State anymore.
I wonder if you could still make a drinking game out of how many times the word "diversity" is in their Mission Statement. Now that the mascot has gone more normal and mainstream, lol.
{pronounced TOO-ques for those not familiar with French lol}
In my perfect, though unlikely, world. I will someday have a Republican politician say to me in re: to abortion rules/laws that it's a concern for women's health. So I can give him/her a shocked, quizzical look and reply, "I'm really confused. Since when has the Republican party cared about anyone's health?"
Maybe in Louisiana, lol. But not in CA.
The "quats" part of the word sounds like squats, without the "s".