Bonus from Prudie chat: This guy... ... ... smh

TrixieJess · April 2018

MissKittyDanger said:

banana468 said:

I will say that I can be somewhat sympathetic that being a new dad can be a lot to handle. I think DH had no clue about the hormonal surges I'd face, the inability to sit or bathe our kid (I was seriously anemic post partum and nearly passed out in the bathroom just putting Chiquita in the baby bath) but he stepped up because that's what non assholes do.

That said, I think there may need to be coaxing and support especially if you are ill equipped to deal with change or just don't know how to process it.

That doesn't mean I have any sympathy for a dude who is an asshat.

This. On top of being over tired and overwhelmed.

Also .... yikes I didn't know you could become anemic in post pardum, is it common? {i've never heard of anyone dealing with that}

It depends on your delivery. I've had a few friends who had to have transfusions after.

You can become anemic too if you are breastfeeding as well as through the final few weeks of pregnancy. I had bloodwork every 2 weeks to check (I have a history of anemia). I took flurodix because the pills make me very sick.

banana468 · April 2018

MissKittyDanger said:

banana468 said:

I will say that I can be somewhat sympathetic that being a new dad can be a lot to handle. I think DH had no clue about the hormonal surges I'd face, the inability to sit or bathe our kid (I was seriously anemic post partum and nearly passed out in the bathroom just putting Chiquita in the baby bath) but he stepped up because that's what non assholes do.

That said, I think there may need to be coaxing and support especially if you are ill equipped to deal with change or just don't know how to process it.

That doesn't mean I have any sympathy for a dude who is an asshat.

This. On top of being over tired and overwhelmed.

Also .... yikes I didn't know you could become anemic in post pardum, is it common? {i've never heard of anyone dealing with that}

I had blood loss in delivery that combined with nursing / fatigue resulted in the anemia. I was anemic in my early 20s and that was NOTHING compared to PP.

sparklepants41 · April 2018

banana468 said:

MissKittyDanger said:

banana468 said:

I will say that I can be somewhat sympathetic that being a new dad can be a lot to handle. I think DH had no clue about the hormonal surges I'd face, the inability to sit or bathe our kid (I was seriously anemic post partum and nearly passed out in the bathroom just putting Chiquita in the baby bath) but he stepped up because that's what non assholes do.

That said, I think there may need to be coaxing and support especially if you are ill equipped to deal with change or just don't know how to process it.

That doesn't mean I have any sympathy for a dude who is an asshat.

This. On top of being over tired and overwhelmed.

Also .... yikes I didn't know you could become anemic in post pardum, is it common? {i've never heard of anyone dealing with that}

I had blood loss in delivery that combined with nursing / fatigue resulted in the anemia. I was anemic in my early 20s and that was NOTHING compared to PP.

This was me as well. Severe blood loss in delivery and anemia postpartum. Fun. Times.

MissKittyDanger · April 2018

TrixieJess said:

MissKittyDanger said:

banana468 said:

I will say that I can be somewhat sympathetic that being a new dad can be a lot to handle. I think DH had no clue about the hormonal surges I'd face, the inability to sit or bathe our kid (I was seriously anemic post partum and nearly passed out in the bathroom just putting Chiquita in the baby bath) but he stepped up because that's what non assholes do.

That said, I think there may need to be coaxing and support especially if you are ill equipped to deal with change or just don't know how to process it.

That doesn't mean I have any sympathy for a dude who is an asshat.

This. On top of being over tired and overwhelmed.

Also .... yikes I didn't know you could become anemic in post pardum, is it common? {i've never heard of anyone dealing with that}

It depends on your delivery. I've had a few friends who had to have transfusions after.

You can become anemic too if you are breastfeeding as well as through the final few weeks of pregnancy. I had bloodwork every 2 weeks to check (I have a history of anemia). I took flurodix because the pills make me very sick.

My mum had issues afterwards {transfusions} but I don't believe she was ever diagnosed as anemic.

Good to know this is something to look out for!

thisismynickname2 · April 2018

To the question of how the SAHM is handling it... She seems to be powering through. She's in the anger phase. But, she gets the house (and she's trying to be enthusiastic about her redecorating opportunity because she always had to respect what he wanted). She also gets half his salary ("graciously given"- the attitude behind the offer infuriated her). If I recall correctly she'd alluded in prior months to the fact that they'd had some issues but I don't know if those pre-dated the baby.

Makes you all the more thankful for the men in your life who are good husbands and fathers.

PrettyGirlLost · April 2018

thisismynickname2 said:

To the question of how the SAHM is handling it... She seems to be powering through. She's in the anger phase. But, she gets the house (and she's trying to be enthusiastic about her redecorating opportunity because she always had to respect what he wanted). She also gets half his salary ("graciously given"- the attitude behind the offer infuriated her). If I recall correctly she'd alluded in prior months to the fact that they'd had some issues but I don't know if those pre-dated the baby.

Makes you all the more thankful for the men in your life who are good husbands and fathers.

I would bet that they had issues before the baby, and baby only exacerbated them. . . her comment that he had to respect his wishes regarding decorating the house is kinda telling.

kerbohl · April 2018

PrettyGirlLost said:

thisismynickname2 said:

To the question of how the SAHM is handling it... She seems to be powering through. She's in the anger phase. But, she gets the house (and she's trying to be enthusiastic about her redecorating opportunity because she always had to respect what he wanted). She also gets half his salary ("graciously given"- the attitude behind the offer infuriated her). If I recall correctly she'd alluded in prior months to the fact that they'd had some issues but I don't know if those pre-dated the baby.

Makes you all the more thankful for the men in your life who are good husbands and fathers.

I would bet that they had issues before the baby, and baby only exacerbated them. . . her comment that he had to respect his wishes regarding decorating the house is kinda telling.

Depends on how demanding he is. DH is really particular about what the inside of our house looks like, but in exchange I get to do whatever I want on the outside. We still talk to the other before we change something, but if I had my own house, I would be excited about getting to change things around.

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