My son and his bride's early evening rehearsal dinner has been designated as wedding party only, but because all of my family is travelling a significant distance to help celebrate the wedding, I am also coordinating an informal dinner for family and out of town guests who are not part of the wedding ceremony. I was hoping that my son (at least--although bride is of course welcome) could make an appearance after the rehearsal dinner to greet family members at the other gathering. However, the bride has made it clear that this is a wedding and not a family reunion, so my son will not see his family until the reception. It is what it is, but was I unreasonable to make this request?