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I hate my sister's haircut :(
Just a vent:
My sister is one of my BM's. She's shaved her head on both sides and left a strip down the middle that she parts on either side. It's hideous.
I get that my sister is gender fluid and wants to be comfortable in the summer. I don't even care that her hair is short. But this particular style I don't like at all
I know she can do whatever she wants since I'm not paying for her hair.
I just want to say on tk. I really hate it!!!!!
My sister is one of my BM's. She's shaved her head on both sides and left a strip down the middle that she parts on either side. It's hideous.
I get that my sister is gender fluid and wants to be comfortable in the summer. I don't even care that her hair is short. But this particular style I don't like at all
I know she can do whatever she wants since I'm not paying for her hair.
I just want to say on tk. I really hate it!!!!!
Re: I hate my sister's haircut :(
I'm glad you vented on TK. It's OK to dislike yet respect someone's choice.
Okay, calling her hair "gross" is a bit much. I'm not going to say anything to her about it, or anywhere else except for the safety of this thread. I just really, really dislike it. And you would have to know my sister; it's not just her personal style...she likes to be passive aggressive when it comes to making a statement. And her buzzing her hair off this close to the wedding means she is trying to prove a point or protest something. She had asked about wearing a suit, for example. I told her, "you wore a dress to 2 of our friends' weddings. I will buy you your bm dress, but if you want a suit, you have to rent/buy the same color tux as the guys, out of your own pocket."
She's wearing a dress. I feel like her hair choice is her way non-conforming. *sigh* good for her. But. I won't show my dissatisfaction to start an argument with her, or hurt her feelings. Not worth it.
I'm a butch lesbian. I've worn dresses in friends' weddings before. It was incredibly, incredibly uncomfortable and awful for me, but wasn't out at the time. My mother insisted that I wear a dress as her bridesmaid as well, after I came out. The result? All the pictures with me in them just look awkward and awful because it is unmissably visible how uncomfortable I am. Do you want to look back at your wedding and at your photos and see how miserable you made your sister, out of spite?
I've had parts of my head shaved at various times and 90% of the time have a buzz cut. I think it looks hot and it makes me feel attractive and comfortable. Your issue is that you're judging your sister by heterosexual beauty standards when those probably don't apply to her.
Honestly, you are being very shitty to your sister and I'm sorry that she was cursed with such a homophobic family.
And I know my sister. I did tell her she could wear a tux. But that I would buy her the dress, unless she wanted to pay for the tux rental herself, simply because the tuxedo rental was more expensive.The other party members purchased their own dress or rented their own tux.
Clothing choices aside; my sister likes to make a statement whether it concerns her sexuality or not. She's artistic. Marches to the beat of her own drum. She can think I'm boring because I follow gender stereotypes. I don't care.
But she could have at least had a professional cut her damn hair. I'd rather it was completely shaved off because it looks awful.
PP at the end of the day, you can think whatever you want about her hairstyle. Whatever you think, keep it to yourself. Whatever reason she decided to cut it is hers and she will live with the consequences (if there are any). Venting on a forum like this is probably okay.
Be the better person if you do think she is doing this to stir the pot and don't let it get to you. Be kind and considerate. I've found that people that tend to stir the pot are actually very uncomfortable and the best thing we can do for that is to show they that they belong and we care for them.
I'm curious though why it matters so much to you what her hair looks like? She likes it, that's what matters.
If you're going to frame photos of your family, of the hundreds you'll receive I'm sure you can find one of you and sis that you like- more because of the expressions of happiness and love and celebration, that will overshadow any hair choices.
The idea that getting a haircut is somehow a passive aggressive attack on OP is absurd. It's her hair and she can do what she wants. You're free to have an opinion, but the idea that it impacts anyone but the sister is ridiculous.
I think it's more than fine to not love the hairstyle of a WP member but the way you plan to handle her attire tells me that a lot of this may be more about your control.
If you said, "I'm paying for the tux she wants" then I'd be far more likely to roll with the comments but this seems a little more of a desire to see your sister conform.