My wedding went as well as it could have gone but now, after writing the thank you cards I need help address a bridesman who, quite frankly, I feel failed me last minute.
A tiny bit of backstory, I had a bridesmaid step down for legal reasons a few months prior to my wedding, completely understandable, so I asked another bestie to be a bridesman, he gladly said yes. Months passed and he avoided me, then missed the deadline for the suits, which wasn't a big deal as I knew he owned a few suits and he was standing as the only man on my side so it wasn't a big deal that he would be dressed differently. Then he avoided talking to me for the longest time and when I messaged him right before the rehearsal to make sure he was going to be there, he messaged me (he lives 5 hours away) and said he wasn't coming but then showed pictures the next week on social media of him going to the beach for a week on vacation.
Now I am going to send him the gift I had made for him anyway with a letter expressing my disappointment and how I'm hurt from his actions, but I don't want to completely ruin a friendship over this. I will take any suggestions on how to write this as tactfully as possible. Thanks in advance guys!