Full disclosure, I think everyone was right about the dress/tux thing. I could've handled it differently.
I saw my sister last weekend; for our mom's birthday. I hadn't said anything to her about her hair. No likes or dislikes, nothing on social media. (other than privately to my MOH and here on tk)
She decided to ask me "So, you haven't said anything about my hair"
I say " I was taught that if I don't have anything nice to say, to not say anything at all"
Sis: "So you don't like it"