Our wedding is a month away and sometimes I wish we eloped because my family is getting on my fucking nerves.
1. I am annoyed that people in my family don’t understand how RSVPs work. They think they can just bring however many people they want. They don’t care that there’s NO ROOM and NO MONEY to accommodate extra people. When giving this explanation, in the most polite way, it’s like they didn’t even understand my words. They think it’s a personal attack and get all offended. They don’t care as long as the result is what THEY want. FYI, I made the invitations include a line that states “X seats are reserved for you” and still had people expecting a plus one or scribbling in the number they thought they should have.
2. Also getting unsolicited advice from my aunt about how we are running our event is annoying me. She’ll give endless suggestions as if I only just started planning and researching my wedding plans yesterday. This is extra challenging since her husband is our officiant. Whenever we have sessions with my uncle she’s always hovering around some where being nosy. “No we don’t want a candle lighting ceremony, no we don’t want an aisle runner or ushers or a facilitator, no I don’t want a garter toss, no I don’t want your unsolicited advice.”
3. My immediate family is getting an Airbnb very far away from our event venue. The wedding is in San Francisco and they are staying all the way in San Raphael! This is instead of using the hotel blocks I booked for them only a few blocks from the venue. The hotels were not even expensive... we got deals with Holiday Inn.
If anyone knows the Bay Area, you know that traffic is a nightmare. I’ve tried explaining this to them to no avail. I even offered to give them two free suites (each with two queen beds and a pull out sofa) for the night right before the wedding. Even with that they declined!! The wedding is in the morning and I had planned on some special photo sessions that now have to be optional because I can’t trust them to be where they need to be on time.
So there’s a very high likelihood that my parents, ring bearer, maid of honor, one of the groomsman and a bridesmaid are going to be stuck in traffic and miss the wedding... all because they are too cheap, too proud and didn’t plan for an expense they knew about for an entire year.
Just feeling so tired of everyone and the lack of cooperation.