I’m currently debating whether if I should step down as a bridesmaid. I was asked to be her bridesmaid in Dec 2017. 4 bridesmaids and 1 MOH total. Her wedding isn’t until December 2019. We went bridesmaid shopping last weekend and the dress they picked out was $275 (including taxes) however me and one other girl needs to get it altered so it will be an additional $80. I’m super laid back and understand it is her day and she can pick out what she wants. Previously, I have told her my budget was $150. I have mentioned it again and it seems like she didn’t acknowledge my budget. Additionally, we all are responsible paying hair, makeup, (because we all have to get it done by this salon - their quote was $125 per girl), shoes, and accessories. A lot has been adding up. Thoughts? Should I continue to be her bridesmaid as I do love her as a friend just financially I’m not able to afford it? Will she be able to understand if I stepped down? I’m on the fence.
My fiancè is also a groomsmen. Their tux rental was quoted $175. We cannot drop $800-1000 on their wedding when we are planning ours. He just proposed as we haven’t set a date.
Note: I have not paid my bridesmaid dress yet as the rest of the girls are waiting until I put the money down.