Obvious B-list is obvious

Re: Obvious B-list is obvious

• Jen4948 member

  

  November 2018

  Pockets143 said:

  *posting from an old account, since my regular one was lost in the ether*
  
  On Friday, I received a wedding invitation postmarked the 7th from an ex. We're friends-ish now, the relationship ended 10 years ago. We haven't had any meaningful conversation outside of the occasional FB comment in over 3 years. Obviously, not expecting an invite, and probably wouldn't be planning to go if I received one. They've had the date set for nearly a year.
  
  Y'all. The wedding is next week. On a weekday. An entire state away, and I live in Texas, so that's saying something. Taped to the back of the RSVP card is their honeyfund link. So, not only was I obviously invited after the first round of RSVPs came in and numbers were low, because weekday wedding the week of a holiday, but I'm 99% sure I was only sent an invite as a fish for money in their honeyfund. 
  
  I'm amused, and somewhat impressed at the gall it takes to be this tacky. 
  
  
  

  Hope you can go...if only because I at least love wedding train wreck stories, and this one's sure to be a doozy. :-)

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• banana468 member

  

  November 2018

  Well, if it's next Wednesday at least that's sort of like a Friday  night wedding - only worse if you're a grown up who is planning to cook a Thanksgiving dinner!
  
  Sounds like you're going to give them well wishes. 

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• MairePoppy mod

  

  November 2018

  Guess they didn't get enough contributions to cover a honeymoon.
  
  

                     

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• Pockets143 member

  

  November 2018

  As it happens, I am off all next week, but I won't be attending, local trainwrecks only I had already sent a small gift before receiving the invite, so their fishing expedition was in vain. 

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• ei34 member

  

  November 2018

  Your last sentence is everything.  I’ve been blown away by all-out brazen tackiness soo many times and it still shocks me.

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• downtondiva member

  

  November 2018

  Haven't used this term since my earliest days on TK...
  
  You were not B-listed. You were Z-listed!

  
  

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• Cookie Pusher member

  

  November 2018

  I received an obvious B-list invitation a few years ago. Invitation arrived on 1/31. RSVP date was 2/1 - except they hand-wrote "2" in front of the 1. Everything about this wedding was an etiquette fail. Outdoor ceremony in the morning in mid-March in the DC area with a dress code of long gowns and lawn shoes for women. Evening dinner cruise 6 hours later with a "cocktail" dress code and cash bar. Color palettes were provided for both events. Also included their honeymoon fund info with the invitation. OH! And the bridal shower was a brunch where attendees would assemble the centerpieces and bouquets. We couldn't nope fast enough.

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• Pockets143 member

  

  November 2018

  Cookie Pusher said:

  I received an obvious B-list invitation a few years ago. Invitation arrived on 1/31. RSVP date was 2/1 - except they hand-wrote "2" in front of the 1. Everything about this wedding was an etiquette fail. Outdoor ceremony in the morning in mid-March in the DC area with a dress code of long gowns and lawn shoes for women. Evening dinner cruise 6 hours later with a "cocktail" dress code and cash bar. Color palettes were provided for both events. Also included their honeymoon fund info with the invitation. OH! And the bridal shower was a brunch where attendees would assemble the centerpieces and bouquets. We couldn't nope fast enough.
  
  
  SITB
  
  Ugh, that sounds awful! Also, I hate when people dictate dress code as though adults can't dress themselves. 

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• CharmedPam member

  

  November 2018

  Pockets143 said:

  Cookie Pusher said:

  I received an obvious B-list invitation a few years ago. Invitation arrived on 1/31. RSVP date was 2/1 - except they hand-wrote "2" in front of the 1. Everything about this wedding was an etiquette fail. Outdoor ceremony in the morning in mid-March in the DC area with a dress code of long gowns and lawn shoes for women. Evening dinner cruise 6 hours later with a "cocktail" dress code and cash bar. Color palettes were provided for both events. Also included their honeymoon fund info with the invitation. OH! And the bridal shower was a brunch where attendees would assemble the centerpieces and bouquets. We couldn't nope fast enough.
  
  
  SITB
  
  Ugh, that sounds awful! Also, I hate when people dictate dress code as though adults can't dress themselves. 

  First off, that is a Z list! nope
  
  I find that when people list a dress code - no one follows that anyway (I mean I've never been to a black tie wedding where it would be obvious) 

  
  

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• MesmrEwe member

  

  November 2018

  Yea - you weren't B-listed, you were "Crap - she thinks us significant enough that she sent us a gift we should have thought enough of her to invite her" Z-list...  

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• knottie287b81bfd484b6c4 member

  

  November 2018

  Pockets143 said:

  As it happens, I am off all next week, but I won't be attending, local trainwrecks only I had already sent a small gift before receiving the invite, so their fishing expedition was in vain. 

  
  Maybe they sent the invite after receiving your gift and it felt like an obligation invite?
  

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• Pockets143 member

  

  November 2018

  MesmrEwe said:

  Yea - you weren't B-listed, you were "Crap - she thinks us significant enough that she sent us a gift we should have thought enough of her to invite her" Z-list...  

  I doubt it, as based on the postmark, they sent the invite before they received the gift, and I didn't tell them I had sent it. It was a small thing anyway. 

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