I have been putting together my bridal party over the past couple of months thinking over everyone who is in it very carefully. I have a core group of girl friends (4 of them) that I spend time with. One is married (lives nearby), one is pregnant (lives nearby) and one is pregnant & recently moved away. I see & talk with the ones nearby often. The one that moved not as much but we visit when we are near each other. I asked the one other girl (married) to be a bridesmaid and she said yes. I initially told myself I wouldn't ask the other girls for couple a reason. They will be having their babies in the next couple of months and their lives and that's a major change. The other concern I have is that our friendship could change... I had some friends (good friends), that once they had their babies they stopped being friends. They are friends that I would have asked to be in my wedding party if it was a couple years ago. I said I'd drive to them, meet for lunch, do whatever it would be to make things easier for them but the friendship ran dry. We are still friendly but I am over trying to make the effort. They hang out with other families with kids (which can be easier I know). I know that just because I had this happen with a couple friends doesn't mean it will be the same situation because I have other friends that are still great friends with kids.After all getting together for the first time in a year I'm thinking I can need to reconsider it - if it helps their babies will be approx 9 months at old at the time at the wedding and we are having a no children wedding. They are great friends now and i love the time we spent together but idk if thats because it's a fresh feeling. I also don't want to put this on them financially or with their schedule. I I'm comfortable with the one girl I asked since we are the closest.Not that it really makes a difference but I wasn't in any of their weddings.
I've never been a "best friends" kind of person I've always had a lot of really good friends so my wedding party is made up of a mix of family, a couple long time friends and current friends - it's in January
KnottieOP, you just drew a lot of attention to an innocent enough post