A close friend of mine and her fiance decided to elope. She's part of a pretty close knit group of friends from high school and they are throwing her a bridal shower. I am very involved the bridal shower and spending about $250 on decor, accessories and running the games/ gifts.
The couple is registered, and I don't know if I should buy her a gift as well. I do think it's a little taboo to register when you're eloping, but since there's a bridal shower I figured she was looking for gifts from the party.
Normally, I'd just spend the money and do the thing that over compensates into what is nice... but I'm 8 months pregnant. This friend didn't come to my baby shower, due to distance, but didn't give me a gift either (understandable). And honestly she hasn't even asked me about how I'm doing, sent a random text to check on me and when we do talk on the phone doesn't even bring the baby up. So I don't know if my bitterness is preventing me from just buying something or actual propriety is.