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CharmedPam
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Tuesday. Right?
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Drama in the Charmed household. My parents do a lot for all three of their kids - but really go above and beyond for my bro. He lives the closest to them at only 3ish hrs away. As a result my parents drive there a lot on weekends,
I guess they wanted my parents to babysit all day?!? I’m sorry, but they’re at a point in their life where they’re finally able to enjoying it. They both work VERY hard! My mom felt guilty so now they’re compromising and moving the mineral bath to 7 and staying with my brother till 5! But she got a real condescending text from my SIL “hey we thought you were coming in for the kids, but we can get a sitter and it’s not a big problem”. (Ummm then why write my mom that text?). My parents were going to give up their morning and early afternoon for them, and now they have to pretty much be guilted to stay till 5. She then blind copied me on the email to them with the new plans and my parents are even heading over for 2 or 3 hours on Sunday to help them out before heading home. Why does my brother do this to them?
Probably 2 of the 4 in a month. They do babysit a lot. My bro/SIL have a farm and do that and market stuff on weekends. It’s hard to do stuff around the farm with a 2.5 and 1 year old.
My mom told me they were going to be at my bro’s this weekend if I wanted to go too? I was like “cool! I’m only 1.5 hrs away from them actually. H and I are going to a (haunted) mineral springs hotel and spa. You should join us!” I had this planned for 2+ months.
Much to my surprise, they took me up on it! They said it looked neat and my dad was looking forward to a mineral bath.
Well, my mom told my brother the plans after booking a room. They were going to babysit till the market was over at 1 and then head out around 2 to go to the hotel with us. We had the mineral bath scheduled at 5. My brother was like “Thanks for letting us know ahead of time, we’ll have to get a sitter to do some stuff around the farm. We were hoping you’d be there till 6”.
My mom told me they were going to be at my bro’s this weekend if I wanted to go too? I was like “cool! I’m only 1.5 hrs away from them actually. H and I are going to a (haunted) mineral springs hotel and spa. You should join us!” I had this planned for 2+ months.
Much to my surprise, they took me up on it! They said it looked neat and my dad was looking forward to a mineral bath.
Well, my mom told my brother the plans after booking a room. They were going to babysit till the market was over at 1 and then head out around 2 to go to the hotel with us. We had the mineral bath scheduled at 5. My brother was like “Thanks for letting us know ahead of time, we’ll have to get a sitter to do some stuff around the farm. We were hoping you’d be there till 6”.
I guess they wanted my parents to babysit all day?!? I’m sorry, but they’re at a point in their life where they’re finally able to enjoying it. They both work VERY hard! My mom felt guilty so now they’re compromising and moving the mineral bath to 7 and staying with my brother till 5! But she got a real condescending text from my SIL “hey we thought you were coming in for the kids, but we can get a sitter and it’s not a big problem”. (Ummm then why write my mom that text?). My parents were going to give up their morning and early afternoon for them, and now they have to pretty much be guilted to stay till 5. She then blind copied me on the email to them with the new plans and my parents are even heading over for 2 or 3 hours on Sunday to help them out before heading home. Why does my brother do this to them?
Re: Tuesday. Right?
Is your brother the type to possibly take too much advantage of their goodwill? Because something like this would leave a bad taste in my mouth.
Have a farm. Do what you want with it. But don't live your life under the presumption that your parents provide free childcare as a way that you can advance your livelihood.
My mom had her CAT scan results for her elbow and it was looking as good as the doctor was hoping for! So no surgery! She can start working on doing some small exercises at home and then PT will start in 2 more weeks. She may never be able to fully straighten her arm again, but my mom is ok with that!
We had some crazy microburst storms roll through just around 5. Huge trees downed and lots of electricity out. Its days like last night that I am happy we moved into a neighborhood with underground wiring, nothing to pull down. So our neighborhood was spared, though FB friends all around us were out of power. Most has been restored already, thankfully for them!
I have an eye doctor appointment today, so I will get to leave work a tad bit early for that. Not sure what's going on after that, but I'm pretty sure my eyes will be dialated, so probably not much!
Yay on your mom’s arm! Great news
Entitlement to grandparents babysitting is just gross.
My best friend's sister is/was like that. Actually 2 of her sisters. It was ridiculous but the whole family enabled it so they never changed.
Crazy storms last night too and lots of rain today. Thankfully we have not lost power at home or work.
I’m glad your mom’s arm is better than expected @OliveOilsMom!
Pretty much SSDD today. I have a friend coming over the next two days to study so I have to do some stuff around the house to get ready and meal plan a bit since she’s vegetarian. At some point today I want to go through my closet and get rid of things. I’m tired of looking at the same shirts I never wear all the time. I’m just really tired of clutter in general.
Omg he totally guilted them into coming back
Still haven't heard from condo corp, so I'm gonna leave a voicemail shortly. The lady I typically speak to could be on vacation and not set up her email as such.
It's at the point where they'll have to send the money back to me because AC Company won't pull back the money.
Side note, in my random search of houses that I'm not buying - I entertained a small town with potential of yard.
The house in general has the same colour palate we are currently using {grey, dark wood and teal/turquoise}
Down side? 4 bedrooms, 1 bathroom
Not a huge fan of how the rail for the staircase, but I'm more viewing it as issue with a child or one of my stupid cats forgetting there's no space and falling.
But that built in hutch! The flooring! The kitchen! Ahhh
https://www.century21.ca/Property/ON/K7S1V1/Arnprior/25_BURWASH_STREET_11420742386
@charmedpam that’s super annoying. My sister does stuff like that; they asked my mom to watch my niece a few weekends ago because they were going out to dinner and to a boat ride happy hour. So it was going to be a later night for my mom. My sister initially said my mom had to be there by 5 so they could make dinner. So that’s what my moms plan was. Well sister texts at like noon asking where she was. Sister thought mom would just come early to hang out with niece so that her and husband could get things done before their night out. Uh, no. It doesn’t work like that. You can’t expect her to be there ALL DAY!
@OliveOilsMom, glad your mom's CAT scan came out well for her elbow! Especially good news she won't need surgery.
We have more showings at noon today, though my H is handling them. Hopefully, it will be as busy this Tues. as it was last Tues. And not the almost complete failure that Sat. was.
I forgot to mention yesterday. We did have one amazing turn of events over the weekend. Actually on Fri. And I can 100% thank Bigger Pockets (forum about real estate investing)! We need a lot of flooring for the new duplexes. We decided on waterproof luxury vinyl plank (LVP) clickable floating floor in a wood-look. But the cheapest we could find for the quality we want was $2.69/sq. ft. I happened to be cruising through the forums on BP and saw a post about LVP and another user looking for recommendations. I had no idea but, apparently Sherwin Williams...the paint folks...have opened 160 flooring stores over the last year or so. One of them is in my area. My H and I went down on Friday. Found exactly what we wanted for $2.00/sq. ft.!! Huge difference! We'll be saving over $3K.
My stepbrother, who usually lives in CA, is in town for training this week. He came over last night and we gave him the tour of our house and neighborhood. Then we all went out for classic New Orleans poboys (sandwiches on French bread) and walked along a nearby bayou. It was fun to catch up, but was a bit of a shorter night because we hadn't made definite plans, so it was more impromptu and started a little later. But we'll all be going out again on Wed. We're taking him to one of our favorite restaurants (The Palace Café) that's on the border of the French Quarter. I assume we'll toodle around the FQ after that.
Good news about your mom;s scan @OliveOilsMom and your outing with your stepbrother sounds nice @short+sassy
SSDD around here...our storms were wild last night too.
Love the hardwood floors on the main level. Really nice house, overall! But, ugh...while you're imagining...re-do the stairway rails and stairway flooring anyway, lol. They should have matched the stair flooring to the downstairs flooring. Not the upstairs. Makes the foyer so weird looking. And I'm not even sure if it matches the upstairs either, lol.
@MissKittyDanger, I’d be so pissed! That’s a lot money to be out while you have to wait for them to fix it/give it back to you.
I've never had one, but you can also get French Fried poboys. Those include just French fries, gravy, and mayo. Sometimes cheese. I've never had poutine either, but that poboy type reminds of how poutine has been described to me.
For front door, we'd prob do same as we're currently planning for our mud room is get a mat fitted to the area. Cover everything and keeps the dirt, etc off.
Friggen hand rail just annoys me.
@kvruns don't get mistaken, there are much higher places. This is a small town and they can vary pretty good. Our place is suburbs of older area and it was 198K
Down the street from us can get up to $500K and that's minimum when looking at new builds and we don't talk about downtown.
@CharmedPam I am forever grateful for the fact I built savings prior to mat leave. It's better that I know I'll eventually get the money back - it's just a matter of time. Don't get me wrong, I'm still friggen pissed this happened and kicking myself for not asking for confirmation on the money sent. That's stupidity on my part that I will not do again
I teeter on this. The ILs live close but I try to not rely on them for sitting. That said we don't push for it, don't make it out for them to do this too often and they say, "This is why we're here! Please ask!"
But if they said no we'd get the picture and would figure it out with a different sitter.
edit: i'm more curious for the poutine reference
Yay for the mama, Olive.
Worky, work. Tomorrow is my day off.
We're dog-sitting for FIL this week. She's a good dog, but reminds me why I don't want one full time. She did close herself in our laundry room on Sunday night while we were at my parents and peed on the floor. Thankfully, it's the best place in the house for her to do that since it has a drain and whatnot.
So glad the weather has settled and is much more pleasant. DefConn and I have some running around to do tomorrow and maybe we'll go see a movie or something. Or find a park to visit. We'll see. Maybe I'll drop the dog off to chill at her house for a few hours. LOL
Popular kinds of poboys are roast beef debris or fried shrimp. Roast beef debris is bits and pieces of roast beef in a gravy.
Here is NOLA lingo. Do you want your poboy "dressed"? That means, do you want it with lettuce, tomato, and mayo.
The sandwich got it's name from way back in history when this was the typical kind of meal that anyone could afford. Even a "poor boy"...eventually shortened to poboy.
My poutine reference was for a specific type of poboy called a French Fried poboy. Which is a sandwich with French fries (in it), gravy, mayo, and often cheese. That reminds me of how I've had poutine described to me; however, I've never had poutine or even that type of poboy.
I wouldn't really consider it similar to a poutine - mainly because a classic poutine is just fries, gravy and cheese curds. Google is being stupid, so googling "classic poutine" will give you best image.
There are many different kinds, so minus the bread you could get a pulled pork poutine, beef poutine, etc.
{ex: still in diapers, so sending diapers for them}
We try to balance BabyKitten babysits it between my mum and MIL/sFIL so it's not always one sided
The texture of "roast beef debris" would be similar to pulled pork, but not the taste at all. Pulled pork is usually mixed with a sweet BBQ sauce. Roast beef debris isn't sweet. The keep all the juices of the roast beef and it makes like a brown gravy sauce.
There is a restaurant near my house that has poutine as an appetizer...I've never seen it anywhere else on a menu...and I've been meaning to get a to-go order of it. So I can finally try it! I just looked it back up on their menu, but it seems like it's their own version of poutine. Because...are you ready for the irony, lol...they put roast beef debris on their poutine!
Never mind (sigh). If I'm going to try poutine, I'd rather try a more traditional version. Plus, I don't care for roast beef debris.
Typically in poutine it's beef gravy, but my mum LOVES when turkey gravy is an option .... it's rare but we know the few places that do it
It is a disorganized combination of either cheeseburger, hamburger, Italian sausages, steak, chicken, white or red hots, a grilled cheese sandwich, fried fish, or eggs, served on top of one or two of the following: home fries, fries, beans, and mac salad. A plate is always made to order. Then, the plate is adorned with optional mustard, onions and Rochester's version of hot sauce. Some restaurants will charge for extra helpings of hot sauce, and the hot sauce varies widely in flavor and spiciness. A plate is usually served with a side of white bread and butter, though some restaurants charge extra for bread. It is said that the purpose of the bread is to soak up the grease left after you've eaten the garbage plate.
One of these days, I will need to take an extended culinary road trip. Here are my wishful stops (these are all local dishes, not the restaurant names):
--Hot Brown in Louisville, KY
--Garbage Plate in Rochester, NY
--Buffalo Wings in Buffalo, NY
--Lobster Rolls in coastal Maine
--Poutine in Canada (I'll add in Ottowa specifically, thanks to you @MissKitty Danger)