Hi all! I want to start by saying that I know this is still several months away (10ish?) but my mom and bridesmaids have started working on my bridal shower. They think that it is best for my bridal shower to be on the Wednesday or Thursday before my wedding, which will be that Saturday. I would say 80% of our guest list is out of town, and at least 50% is out of state, and across the country. For example, we live in Montana, and all of my Fiancés' family as well as my extended family live on the East Coast.
Anyways, I get a call from my grandmother about this shower a few days ago, complaining about it being right before the wedding. And that a Bridal shower on Thursday, Rehearsal Dinner on Friday and Wedding on Saturday sounds "exhausting". Her words, not mine.
I am trying to "keep my hand out of the cookie jar" so to speak, and not be involved whatsoever, but I am just wondering if this is a normal reaction that most of the people invited will have as well. I would also love to know what people did in this situation, whose family was so far away, and would be unable to attend if it wasn't a few days before the wedding.
My mom keeps turning to me about this, as she eloped and didn't have any "wedding festivities" and I keep referring her to my bridesmaids but none of them have been in this situation either.
I really want to do what is convenient for everyone, but I would also like my FMIL to be able to attend, as well as other family and friends.
Would really love to hear thoughts on a bridal shower a few days before and if it seems/feels "gift grabby" (as my grandmother so lovingly put it)!! thx