Are you really attached to the name?

MissKittyDanger · October 2019

banana468 said:

The other thing we opted to do was not go with something that was popular because it trended due to something we weren't fans of. Twilight came out and now Chiquita's grade has plenty of Cullens, Isabellas and Jacobs. Sorry - not into it.

We also giggled when friends named their daughter Abbie and not Abigail because they were going to call her Abbie. We laughed and thought, "But you know you can give her a name and call her something else, right? That's how you two are called!"

Like the past 6yrs I've known a kid born named Jack/Jax/Jackson - other than the fact M's cousin's son is named Jack, we had planned on Jack being a middle name.

Fun fact - BabyKitten has 2 middle names because we couldn't decide lmao I wanted both but it was M that made the final decision because he knew the 2nd middle name was something I wanted

cupcait927 · October 2019

We went classic with our name choices. We're having a girl and the name we landed on was Abigail. It's common enough that people will know it and how to spell it, but it's not so common that she'll have 5 other Abigails in her class (like I suffered with my name - a Caitlin born in the 80s). My mom also swore she had no idea how popular my name was yet here I am, knowing more Caitlins than I do probably any other name from my generation.

Now if we were having a boy, he would've been named Jack. Long story but it's a nickname of a middle name because baby would've been a Junior. Jack is super, super popular but it's literally the only boy name we could agree on. H hated everything I like and I hated everything he liked.

MissKittyDanger · October 2019

cupcait927 said:

We went classic with our name choices. We're having a girl and the name we landed on was Abigail. It's common enough that people will know it and how to spell it, but it's not so common that she'll have 5 other Abigails in her class (like I suffered with my name - a Caitlin born in the 80s). My mom also swore she had no idea how popular my name was yet here I am, knowing more Caitlins than I do probably any other name from my generation.

Now if we were having a boy, he would've been named Jack. Long story but it's a nickname of a middle name because baby would've been a Junior. Jack is super, super popular but it's literally the only boy name we could agree on. H hated everything I like and I hated everything he liked.

At least with a boy it could be nicknamed J.J ... or something to differentiate him from others

short+sassy · October 2019

banana468 said:

The other thing we opted to do was not go with something that was popular because it trended due to something we weren't fans of. Twilight came out and now Chiquita's grade has plenty of Cullens, Isabellas and Jacobs. Sorry - not into it.

We also giggled when friends named their daughter Abbie and not Abigail because they were going to call her Abbie. We laughed and thought, "But you know you can give her a name and call her something else, right? That's how you two are called!"

This was actually what my mom did. The name she actually liked was Jenny. So that what I was always called. But my "official" name on my birth certificate is Jennifer. My parents did that so I could chose later on if I wanted to stick with Jenny or use Jennifer instead.

As a child, I always went by and introduced myself as Jenny. But, as an adult, I tend to use Jennifer with people I don't know well and "official" things (for lack of a better term). Like resumes, applications, calling customer service for whatever, etc. But people who know me well call me Jenny. Especially my family, since that's the name they've always used.

Personally, I don't really have preference. I like Jennifer and Jenny equally as well (shrug). Overall, I like my first name. I just would have liked it a lot better if it had been more unique.

levioosa · October 2019

short+sassy said:

banana468 said:

The other thing we opted to do was not go with something that was popular because it trended due to something we weren't fans of. Twilight came out and now Chiquita's grade has plenty of Cullens, Isabellas and Jacobs. Sorry - not into it.

We also giggled when friends named their daughter Abbie and not Abigail because they were going to call her Abbie. We laughed and thought, "But you know you can give her a name and call her something else, right? That's how you two are called!"

This was actually what my mom did. The name she actually liked was Jenny. So that what I was always called. But my "official" name on my birth certificate is Jennifer. My parents did that so I could chose later on if I wanted to stick with Jenny or use Jennifer instead.

As a child, I always went by and introduced myself as Jenny. But, as an adult, I tend to use Jennifer with people I don't know well and "official" things (for lack of a better term). Like resumes, applications, calling customer service for whatever, etc. But people who know me well call me Jenny. Especially my family, since that's the name they've always used.

Personally, I don't really have preference. I like Jennifer and Jenny equally as well (shrug). Overall, I like my first name. I just would have liked it a lot better if it had been more unique.

Lol. My grandparents did the opposite with my dad (by accident). They wanted to give him an “American” name (they immigrated here from Italy and were trying to fit in). When my Nona was at the park she would hear the popular names of the kids and she named my dad after one of those names not realizing it was a nickname.

ei34 · October 2019

Casadena said:

banana468 said:

MissKittyDanger said:

Serious/off topic question to those with kids, planning kids, etc - do/did you look at popular names when thinking of names?

We did take some of it into account. We are a bit old-school when it comes to names we like so we glanced at some of the popular names to attempt to avoid them but wanted names that were traditional. Now in classes Chiquita may be the only one with her name but there are often variations that sound SO similar. Soccer games this year were fun.

Also, one thought we had was "how will this sound when this kid is older?"

We're definitely aware of the more popular names both from the actual social security name lists and anecdotally just people we know. If we really like a name I don't think popularity would stop us from using it, but if it came down to a few that were equal, I think we'd lean toward the less common ones.

Ava, for example, has been in the top 5 girl names in the US for at least a few years, so we know it's super popular - but we actually don't know anyone named Ava at all. I'd be more apt to use a super popular name if we don't already know a million people with the name.

Ava, Olivia, Sophia, Emma...I know they're the top names but my kids never actually have classmates with those names. So I'm not sure where they all are, lol

Casadena · October 2019

ei34 said:

Casadena said:

banana468 said:

MissKittyDanger said:

Serious/off topic question to those with kids, planning kids, etc - do/did you look at popular names when thinking of names?

We did take some of it into account. We are a bit old-school when it comes to names we like so we glanced at some of the popular names to attempt to avoid them but wanted names that were traditional. Now in classes Chiquita may be the only one with her name but there are often variations that sound SO similar. Soccer games this year were fun.

Also, one thought we had was "how will this sound when this kid is older?"

We're definitely aware of the more popular names both from the actual social security name lists and anecdotally just people we know. If we really like a name I don't think popularity would stop us from using it, but if it came down to a few that were equal, I think we'd lean toward the less common ones.

Ava, for example, has been in the top 5 girl names in the US for at least a few years, so we know it's super popular - but we actually don't know anyone named Ava at all. I'd be more apt to use a super popular name if we don't already know a million people with the name.

Ava, Olivia, Sophia, Emma...I know they're the top names but my kids never actually have classmates with those names. So I'm not sure where they all are, lol

Right?! The only Emma i know is 30 and the rest I don't know any - and we are in prime early 30s, all our friends are having kids mode.

ETA: however, I do know at least 5 Blakely, Evelyn, Briah/Brielle, and Addison's. So weird!

banana468 · October 2019

ei34 said:

Casadena said:

banana468 said:

MissKittyDanger said:

Serious/off topic question to those with kids, planning kids, etc - do/did you look at popular names when thinking of names?

We did take some of it into account. We are a bit old-school when it comes to names we like so we glanced at some of the popular names to attempt to avoid them but wanted names that were traditional. Now in classes Chiquita may be the only one with her name but there are often variations that sound SO similar. Soccer games this year were fun.

Also, one thought we had was "how will this sound when this kid is older?"

We're definitely aware of the more popular names both from the actual social security name lists and anecdotally just people we know. If we really like a name I don't think popularity would stop us from using it, but if it came down to a few that were equal, I think we'd lean toward the less common ones.

Ava, for example, has been in the top 5 girl names in the US for at least a few years, so we know it's super popular - but we actually don't know anyone named Ava at all. I'd be more apt to use a super popular name if we don't already know a million people with the name.

Ava, Olivia, Sophia, Emma...I know they're the top names but my kids never actually have classmates with those names. So I'm not sure where they all are, lol

Really? I'm pretty sure they're in Chiquita's class, at the marina or in our family.

kvruns · October 2019

MesmrEwe said:

And THIS is why you NEVER tell ANYONE the name of the baby until it's officially on the Birth Certificate! REALLY! Because then everyone's got an opinion instead of after the fact when it's "That was the name I'd given my lost child - it is a beautiful name!"... But also, the Mom shouldn't have told the Sister the name, so that's where the anger needs to be. But at the end of the day, it's still the parent's decision whether to have cousins the same name (even though one is deceased).. I also agree with the PP that the next thing will be LW will be writing to say this individual also objects to her having a baby shower, baby things, baby parties, etc. because of her grief. (Happened not only on Prudie but on TN and other Mommy Boards as well!)

Evelyn with the 100% plan to call her Ava/Eva is the way to compromise at this point...

this is where I was when reading this. And it made me wonder what if they had not told anyone until the baby was born. Would they have changed the name then after the sister told them? Would the sister hate LW forever because of it?

kerbohl · October 2019

No word of a lie, my husband is a teacher and once had a Sailormoon in his class. That is a name that no one else will have ...

MissKittyDanger · October 2019

kerbohl said:

No word of a lie, my husband is a teacher and once had a Sailormoon in his class. That is a name that no one else will have ...

Weird question .... was the family Asian?
I ask because I did co-op in a kindergarten class and there was a little Asian girl named Kitty. She was sweet.

ei34 · October 2019

kerbohl said:

No word of a lie, my husband is a teacher and once had a Sailormoon in his class. That is a name that no one else will have ...

One year (like 20 years ago) my mom had twin brothers named Jack Daniel and Harley Davidson

kerbohl · October 2019

MissKittyDanger said:

kerbohl said:

No word of a lie, my husband is a teacher and once had a Sailormoon in his class. That is a name that no one else will have ...

Weird question .... was the family Asian?
I ask because I did co-op in a kindergarten class and there was a little Asian girl named Kitty. She was sweet.

You know, I didn't ask. That's a good question! I feel like hubby wouldn't remember at this point.

lovesclimbing · October 2019

MissKittyDanger said:

Serious/off topic question to those with kids, planning kids, etc - do/did you look at popular names when thinking of names?

Yup. We look at the lists and say, "ok, those names are off the table." We will not give our kid a name that's in the top 10 no matter how much we like it.

lovesclimbing · October 2019

MissKittyDanger said:

kerbohl said:

No word of a lie, my husband is a teacher and once had a Sailormoon in his class. That is a name that no one else will have ...

Weird question .... was the family Asian?
I ask because I did co-op in a kindergarten class and there was a little Asian girl named Kitty. She was sweet.

Huh, I have always thought of Kitty as very British. I have a friend who lives in England who named her daughter that. She says it's a normal name over there, as opposed to here in the US where it'd seem a bit odd.

ILoveBeachMusic · October 2019

lovesclimbing said:

MissKittyDanger said:

kerbohl said:

No word of a lie, my husband is a teacher and once had a Sailormoon in his class. That is a name that no one else will have ...

Weird question .... was the family Asian?
I ask because I did co-op in a kindergarten class and there was a little Asian girl named Kitty. She was sweet.

Huh, I have always thought of Kitty as very British. I have a friend who lives in England who named her daughter that. She says it's a normal name over there, as opposed to here in the US where it'd seem a bit odd.

As with everything, there are more popular names at different times. There were more Kittys when I was a kid (probably because of Miss Kitty on Gunsmoke lol). I had a sorority sister named Kitty- I think it is a nickname for Katherine?

lovesclimbing · October 2019

ILoveBeachMusic said:

lovesclimbing said:

MissKittyDanger said:

kerbohl said:

No word of a lie, my husband is a teacher and once had a Sailormoon in his class. That is a name that no one else will have ...

Weird question .... was the family Asian?
I ask because I did co-op in a kindergarten class and there was a little Asian girl named Kitty. She was sweet.

Huh, I have always thought of Kitty as very British. I have a friend who lives in England who named her daughter that. She says it's a normal name over there, as opposed to here in the US where it'd seem a bit odd.

As with everything, there are more popular names at different times. There were more Kittys when I was a kid (probably because of Miss Kitty on Gunsmoke lol). I had a sorority sister named Kitty- I think it is a nickname for Katherine?

In this case, Kitty is her given name.

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