Monday, it keeps happening.

missJeanLouise · May 2020

Hi everyone! I hope everyone had a lovely weekend. MrsConn, I was thinking of you. I hope you are doing okay.
I am starting this thread a little early in order to remember to ask @short+sassy for recommendations on real estate blog/ forums. I stumbled upon DH and my <almost> dream property but idk if we should even think about purchasing something at this point.

ei34 · May 2020

I hope that everyone had a nice Mother's day.
AP exams begin today- they're going to be scaled down to 45 minutes long (usually 3 hours) and open book, which I think is the right call, but I'm interested to see how it goes. I feel bad for the 10th-12th graders having to feel this out.

banana468 · May 2020

ei34 said:

I hope that everyone had a nice Mother's day.
AP exams begin today- they're going to be scaled down to 45 minutes long (usually 3 hours) and open book, which I think is the right call, but I'm interested to see how it goes. I feel bad for the 10th-12th graders having to feel this out.

I feel the worst academically for anyone in upper grades. It's rough for those who prepared for something differently.

DH and I were talking briefly yesterday about what the impact of this is going to be on universities both due to the economy and current unemployment and how they have to adjust their educational models and the justification that can be used for some schools that are going to be charging double or triple the prices of some state ones that are teaching remotely.

Mother's Day was very nice. We knew it was going to be rough particularly for SIL and also for MIL long before we were in the middle of a pandemic and we had a nice video chat with them last night.

My kids fought all morning but the day was great, my postponed Easter dinner from Omaha steaks was DELISH and now I have leftovers for days. DH makes a killer mimosa.

VarunaTT · May 2020

I was lazy this weekend. Saturday, while K was at work, I honestly did sleep most of the day. I think I was a little short in the sleep bank, plus I'm getting mostly good healthy sleep now, which I hadn't been for a few months. We watched Cats (it's worse than you think), The Good Liar (better than okay, but had some super disappointing aspects) and the new Charlie's Angels (I loved it and it's totally a "women who love women" thirst trap). Sunday was just some house chores and watched part of Mulholland Drive with a friend (we kept getting distracted with gabbing and pausing the movie).

So, fingers crossed, it looks like K is all finished. They completed all of the assignments but one (the 12 weeks computer program that they received at the 6 weeks left mark). They got about half way through that one and said fuck it. It was worth 5% and K had a 96% overall already, so it should be okay. They basically just need to pass the class. I kind of laughed and told them, "I think every student has made this equation at least once in their academic career, for similar reasons." They also had to take a predictor test for their boards and they scored the highest in the class in both their score and the estimated probability of them passing their boards (99%).

Jen4948 · May 2020

Well, I saw my parents for the first time since before the Houston shelter-in-place order took effect, because we started social distancing around the middle of March, and the order was made sometime after that. It was nice, but we're still distancing to some degree so we're not back to the way we used to be and my dad in particular kept emphasizing how things are never going to be the same again.

MissKittyDanger · May 2020

Sorry I've been intermittent here, been kind of .... weird? at home. I can't explain it, but probably quarantine just getting to me. Also I had a dull headache for nearly a week, so I barely wanted to work let alone post anywhere.

We're in full process of getting shit done. Tried to get appliances out, but having serious issues. We may have to talk to the guy dealing with it and go from there.

BabyKitten has been starting to really act like 2 yr old. Upset over little things, pushing boundaries, but also wanting to do things solo and her speech is crazy.

She did the funniest thing on Saturday actually! M was talking about something and he gets quite passionate - also he talks with his hands {ancestry is French-Canadian} Anyways so mid-speech, BabyKitten starts just chattering and doing same hand gestures lol M tried to stop and put his hands under his chin and she mimicked that, continuing to chatter like him.
This was at dinner, so I'm watching them just cracking up.

Mother's Day was lowkey as expected. Factimed with my mum at the request of BabyKitten then later MIL/sFIL, BIL/SIL and M's grandpa.

M and I have been really into reading lately, so during her nap it was nice to have some quiet time.

We're not really celebrating until we can see my mum and MIL, which is HOPEFULLY soon .... another province has announced they're allowing hugs. So we'll see.

levioosa · May 2020

I feel weird this week. This was the first weekend that didn’t feel at least like a partial reset from the week before. I feel like this may very likely be the week and even the day I lose my job. So just ugh.

I called my mom and grandma yesterday. Usually we do a brunch or tea so not spending the day with them felt weird. Not too much else going on otherwise. I cleaned the entire house and laundered all of our linens yesterday which was time consuming.

charlotte989875 · May 2020

Weekend was good, quiet and could have been much longer! Taking Friday off was great and really reminding me I should be taking far more time off than I am. Part of me feels bad because I’ll be on maternity leave for 3+ months, but also I want more days off and will lose vacation time if I don’t use it.

I baked pretzels for the first time and they were average- not great but we’re too doughy and I don’t think I let it rise long enough. I took so many naps this weekend and slept better at night so I’m thinking I’ll try napping during lunch this week and see if that helps!

MyNameIsNot · May 2020

We were actually really busy this weekend. We got some projects done around the house, and then ILs came by. SIL and BIL are under contract to sell their house and will be moving some time in June. H is disappointed, but he'll adapt. Even being an hour away, we really only saw them every other month, and we'll still visit them. The part that kind of rubs me the wrong way is that we won't see his mom as much now. She used to visit us about once a year when SIL lived in FL. Since SIL has been up here, MIL comes 5x year. We all know this has a lot more to do with MIL seeing her granddaughter, but it still feels like a little favoritism.

Otherwise, SSDD here. Work is just annoying me this morning, so I went ahead and requested Friday off. We'll see if I can actually not work, or if I just wind up "checking in" all day. I need a little mental break.

On the bright side, I talked to my sister yesterday. She's an RN at the local hospital here that's really been taking the bulk of the most severe covid cases. They had converted other units to ICU and isolation rooms. Even though cases are still growing in the state as a whole, they've been able to back off of one of the converted ICU floors and other places in the hospital are starting to bring back some of the delayed surgeries and procedures that they'd been putting off. It sounds like the hospital is getting ahead of the curve in terms of staff, equipment and space. So hopefully this is a good sign about where we're headed, assuming we don't have a second wave after governor stupid reopened too soon.

short+sassy · May 2020

missJeanLouise said:

Hi everyone! I hope everyone had a lovely weekend. MrsConn, I was thinking of you. I hope you are doing okay.
I am starting this thread a little early in order to remember to ask @short+sassy for recommendations on real estate blog/ forums. I stumbled upon DH and my <almost> dream property but idk if we should even think about purchasing something at this point.

Is this a property in the UAE or the US?

The only real estate forum I follow is Bigger Pockets (www.biggerpockets.com). However, that is a forum devoted to the various kinds of real estate investing. With that said, it would still have useful nuggets for the non-investor. Especially on broad topics like financing and home inspections/repairs. While it is an international forum, the vast majority of information relates to either the USA or Canada. Edited to add: It's free to join and read the forums, though I think you have to sign up for the website. They'll send their own e-mails, but they don't spam at all or sell your e-mail address.

General advice. You don't want your housing note (including property taxes/insurance) to be more than one-third of your all's gross income. At least that is the advice I've read from every economist and personal finance guru, discussing the matter, lol. Also, unless you're feeling really solid about appreciation, it's a lot riskier to buy a house that you might only be living in for a few years.

Because these are uncertain times, I think it's more of a gamble right now to purchase real estate. I've read a few articles on the subject...though just for the US...and the general consensus is that prices might drop more in the immediate short-term. But it won't be by much. That the largest drops will probably be seen in large cities, because the conjecture is that some people won't want to live in such closely packed environments anymore and will move further out. Which, in turn, means that over the next year we might see housing prices in the suburbs, outside of large cities, going up. The articles that discuss this, specifically mention cities where prices are hyper-inflated and have severe housing shortages. Like San Fran and NYC.

Overall, the consensus I've read is there will be some up/down for the real estate market over the next year, but not swinging wildly. And property prices will still be higher next year than they are this year, but a lower percentage increase than what it historically has been from year-to-year. Oh! And don't buy higher-end properties. Those are expected to go down in price.

With all that said, I personally don't feel that anyone really knows what is going to happen with real estate. The biggest comparison people are making is to the housing crash in 2008, but there are a lot of differences. I take anything I read on the subject with a major grain of salt. I also don't think the articles I've read are paying enough attention to the "buying" side of the equation, though it's mentioned. Between rampant unemployment, people going through their savings, and banks now being very stringent on their lending...I think we're losing a chunk of potential buyers definitely over the next year and possibly for even longer.

short+sassy · May 2020

MyNameIsNot said:

We were actually really busy this weekend. We got some projects done around the house, and then ILs came by. SIL and BIL are under contract to sell their house and will be moving some time in June. H is disappointed, but he'll adapt. Even being an hour away, we really only saw them every other month, and we'll still visit them. The part that kind of rubs me the wrong way is that we won't see his mom as much now. She used to visit us about once a year when SIL lived in FL. Since SIL has been up here, MIL comes 5x year. We all know this has a lot more to do with MIL seeing her granddaughter, but it still feels like a little favoritism.

Otherwise, SSDD here. Work is just annoying me this morning, so I went ahead and requested Friday off. We'll see if I can actually not work, or if I just wind up "checking in" all day. I need a little mental break.

On the bright side, I talked to my sister yesterday. She's an RN at the local hospital here that's really been taking the bulk of the most severe covid cases. They had converted other units to ICU and isolation rooms. Even though cases are still growing in the state as a whole, they've been able to back off of one of the converted ICU floors and other places in the hospital are starting to bring back some of the delayed surgeries and procedures that they'd been putting off. It sounds like the hospital is getting ahead of the curve in terms of staff, equipment and space. So hopefully this is a good sign about where we're headed, assuming we don't have a second wave after governor stupid reopened too soon.

I've been really worried about Georgia. I think your all's governor has been appalling while, at the same time, I can only pray that he ends up being right.

We had some friends who were planning to go to GA this last weekend to visit a friend. They haven't been taking things seriously and I suspect part of the reason for the trip is because GA loosened up. My H told me about it and I ranted a bit to him about how incredibly reckless and stupid that was, on both sides of the coin. Then I remembered the next day that they don't have a car and asked my H how they were getting there. He tells me they ended up not going. Because they were going to take the bus, but the buses aren't running. Good! (eyeroll)

Jstump2 · May 2020

My weekend was okay. I feel like my emotions are on a pendulum with the quarantine between feeling fine and anxious. We got a few things done around the house. We installed a new glass storm door and porch light. We are wanting to move in about 3 years and starting to think about what projects will be most cost-effective to make the most impact.

In the 8-years we have lived here we remodeled the bathroom and kitchen. Painted neutral colors, replaced AC/HVAC unit, new hot water tank, updated all inside light fixtures, put wood fence in backyard, built deck and countless other small projects. Roof and windows are in good shape. I want to focus on curb appeal and general sprucing up. Lol

We had a low-key mothers day. Lots of snuggles with my girls and H made homeade cinnamon rolls that were awesome! I am back in the office today which is a mixed bad because it feels good to get out of the house. We have a pretty small office and I sit in my own space so I can avoid people beyond 6ft for the most part.

MyNameIsNot · May 2020

short+sassy said:

MyNameIsNot said:

We were actually really busy this weekend. We got some projects done around the house, and then ILs came by. SIL and BIL are under contract to sell their house and will be moving some time in June. H is disappointed, but he'll adapt. Even being an hour away, we really only saw them every other month, and we'll still visit them. The part that kind of rubs me the wrong way is that we won't see his mom as much now. She used to visit us about once a year when SIL lived in FL. Since SIL has been up here, MIL comes 5x year. We all know this has a lot more to do with MIL seeing her granddaughter, but it still feels like a little favoritism.

Otherwise, SSDD here. Work is just annoying me this morning, so I went ahead and requested Friday off. We'll see if I can actually not work, or if I just wind up "checking in" all day. I need a little mental break.

On the bright side, I talked to my sister yesterday. She's an RN at the local hospital here that's really been taking the bulk of the most severe covid cases. They had converted other units to ICU and isolation rooms. Even though cases are still growing in the state as a whole, they've been able to back off of one of the converted ICU floors and other places in the hospital are starting to bring back some of the delayed surgeries and procedures that they'd been putting off. It sounds like the hospital is getting ahead of the curve in terms of staff, equipment and space. So hopefully this is a good sign about where we're headed, assuming we don't have a second wave after governor stupid reopened too soon.

I've been really worried about Georgia. I think your all's governor has been appalling while, at the same time, I can only pray that he ends up being right.

We had some friends who were planning to go to GA this last weekend to visit a friend. They haven't been taking things seriously and I suspect part of the reason for the trip is because GA loosened up. My H told me about it and I ranted a bit to him about how incredibly reckless and stupid that was, on both sides of the coin. Then I remembered the next day that they don't have a car and asked my H how they were getting there. He tells me they ended up not going. Because they were going to take the bus, but the buses aren't running. Good! (eyeroll)

I just don't know what to think. Of course I think pushing the reopen was too soon and calculated to get people off unemployment. But I'm also wondering if it was kind of moot anyway. Most of metro-Atlanta was closed even before the order, and many businesses are choosing to stay closed or are just starting to partially reopen now. Then on the flip, especially as you get away from metro, people were completely ignoring the stay at home orders the whole time anyway. e.g. hair stylists with their shops were closed, so they were cutting hair from home or making house calls. The order wasn't enforced really at all. So, if people are just going to do what they're going to do anyway, does it even matter?

I am glad your friends aren't travelling, but I'm actually shocked that the buses aren't running! Also, not sure where they were going, but that sounds miserable. We've driven from ATL to NOLA a few times and it's about 10 hours of flat and boring. A bus must be 12 hours of flat, hot and boring.

missJeanLouise · May 2020

@short+sassy it's in the US. It would be a vacation/retirement property for us since we don't know where we will eventually call home.
https://www.realtor.com/realestateandhomes-detail/252-Pleasant-Grove-Rd_Vonore_TN_37885_M74013-39499
Technically it checks all of our boxes. Rustic but with running water/ electricity, has water, land, within a hour from an airport, TN is our ideal area.
But I would prefer an hour from Nashville not Knoxville, the pond could be bigger and we know nothing about it, it is more land than we were thinking about.

Basically, if we were ready to buy this is what we would be looking for so I am just looking for resources to become more ready, if that makes sense. Buying anything was not in our plan for this year but maybe the next time something pops up it could be. Idk, that's why I like to lurk forums, to learn what I don't know I don't know.

short+sassy · May 2020

MyNameIsNot said:

short+sassy said:

MyNameIsNot said:

We were actually really busy this weekend. We got some projects done around the house, and then ILs came by. SIL and BIL are under contract to sell their house and will be moving some time in June. H is disappointed, but he'll adapt. Even being an hour away, we really only saw them every other month, and we'll still visit them. The part that kind of rubs me the wrong way is that we won't see his mom as much now. She used to visit us about once a year when SIL lived in FL. Since SIL has been up here, MIL comes 5x year. We all know this has a lot more to do with MIL seeing her granddaughter, but it still feels like a little favoritism.

Otherwise, SSDD here. Work is just annoying me this morning, so I went ahead and requested Friday off. We'll see if I can actually not work, or if I just wind up "checking in" all day. I need a little mental break.

On the bright side, I talked to my sister yesterday. She's an RN at the local hospital here that's really been taking the bulk of the most severe covid cases. They had converted other units to ICU and isolation rooms. Even though cases are still growing in the state as a whole, they've been able to back off of one of the converted ICU floors and other places in the hospital are starting to bring back some of the delayed surgeries and procedures that they'd been putting off. It sounds like the hospital is getting ahead of the curve in terms of staff, equipment and space. So hopefully this is a good sign about where we're headed, assuming we don't have a second wave after governor stupid reopened too soon.

I've been really worried about Georgia. I think your all's governor has been appalling while, at the same time, I can only pray that he ends up being right.

We had some friends who were planning to go to GA this last weekend to visit a friend. They haven't been taking things seriously and I suspect part of the reason for the trip is because GA loosened up. My H told me about it and I ranted a bit to him about how incredibly reckless and stupid that was, on both sides of the coin. Then I remembered the next day that they don't have a car and asked my H how they were getting there. He tells me they ended up not going. Because they were going to take the bus, but the buses aren't running. Good! (eyeroll)

I just don't know what to think. Of course I think pushing the reopen was too soon and calculated to get people off unemployment. But I'm also wondering if it was kind of moot anyway. Most of metro-Atlanta was closed even before the order, and many businesses are choosing to stay closed or are just starting to partially reopen now. Then on the flip, especially as you get away from metro, people were completely ignoring the stay at home orders the whole time anyway. e.g. hair stylists with their shops were closed, so they were cutting hair from home or making house calls. The order wasn't enforced really at all. So, if people are just going to do what they're going to do anyway, does it even matter?

I am glad your friends aren't travelling, but I'm actually shocked that the buses aren't running! Also, not sure where they were going, but that sounds miserable. We've driven from ATL to NOLA a few times and it's about 10 hours of flat and boring. A bus must be 12 hours of flat, hot and boring.

I didn't mean to imply that all the buses aren't running. I'm not sure about that. But apparently not the one from NOLA to ATL. Though I'd guess if that route isn't running, most are not.

I agree. I'm not saying I'd never do it if it was a substantially better price. But a 4-5 hour drive is about the max. I can tolerate.

MyNameIsNot · May 2020

@missJeanLouise Cute! I don't know Vonore, but we visit nearby sometimes and it's absolutely beautiful for a getaway.

I'm seriously curious about the sellers. I've never seen a house with both a confederate flag and a conch republic flag. They must be.. interesting.

short+sassy · May 2020

missJeanLouise said:

@short+sassy it's in the US. It would be a vacation/retirement property for us since we don't know where we will eventually call home.
https://www.realtor.com/realestateandhomes-detail/252-Pleasant-Grove-Rd_Vonore_TN_37885_M74013-39499
Technically it checks all of our boxes. Rustic but with running water/ electricity, has water, land, within a hour from an airport, TN is our ideal area.
But I would prefer an hour from Nashville not Knoxville, the pond could be bigger and we know nothing about it, it is more land than we were thinking about.

Basically, if we were ready to buy this is what we would be looking for so I am just looking for resources to become more ready, if that makes sense. Buying anything was not in our plan for this year but maybe the next time something pops up it could be. Idk, that's why I like to lurk forums, to learn what I don't know I don't know.

I love it! High ceilings and windows to soak in that great view of your own pond and land, along with that great balcony. Sweet! There are a few dated things, like the kitchen and some of the flooring. But they look serviceable and could be changed over time if you all wanted or not at all and still be fine.

The sunken-in wood burning fireplace is definitely unique! Not necessarily a bad unique, I've just never seen anything like that, lol. I kinda like it, though. If it were me, it would fall into the category of "keep it for now and see how much we use it". I wouldn't think it would be that hard to take out, raise that area back up, and redo the flooring. Though it will still be thousands to do and possibly going into the 5-figures. But don't quote me on any of that, lol.

Okay, a vacation/retirement home! That is a bit of a different discussion, lol.

Vacation homes are one of the first properties to have their values drop like a stone, during an economic recession/depression. Which, right now, would be an advantage for buyers. They're typically a luxury...and a big expensive one...so they are one of the first things people sell. If you all start feeling more serious about it, reach out to a local agent. But if that's a "typical price per square foot" for that area before the pandemic, I'd expect the price to be going down.

There are a lot of "cons" to owning a vacation property. You have to consider how "worth" it, it is to be paying the note, insurance, taxes, and maintenance on a house you're not primarily living in. And here's the other catch with that. If you aren't going to be living there for more than 50% of the year, most banks will consider it a non-owner occupied property and require a large down payment (20-50%), as well as charge you all a higher interest rate. Your insurance will probably be higher also.

A "pro" is you all could potentially rent it out when you all aren't using it on sites like VRBO and AirBnB. But if this is something you all would want to do, you'd need to establish a relationship with a local agent or property management company to do that for you. Just to be extra cautious, you all shouldn't rely on that income and see it more as a "bonus". In the current pandemic, people who own short-term rentals watched their business dry up overnight. Just like a lot of the travel industry.

Last, but not least, if it isn't a good time for you all, then hold-off. Don't feel pressured because you all feel like this is the "perfect" house and you don't want to lose it. I promise there will be other ones that you all like as much, if not more!

missJeanLouise · May 2020

@short+sassy the sunken fireplace is one of the things I love, lol. I would do that place up like a 70s chalet, it would look so dope.

The down payment thing is good to know. That's the sort of stuff I want to learn.

kvruns · May 2020

My "neck guy" is back open - woohoo! It has gotten really bad to wear it is causing headaches again. Basically back to square one from when I started going in December which sucks but I hope it is a shorter time to get it fixed again.

Baby B has a dentist appt tomorrow. Going to be interesting since he's horrible at them and this will be even weirder since we need masks, no toys in the waiting room, etc. I need to pack some stuff to try to entertain him I think to take his mind off of it a bit.

cupcait927 · May 2020

Good luck with Baby B tomorrow, @kvruns

@charlotte989875 Don't feel guilty for taking the time now! Yeah, you'll be off for 3+ months when baby is born but it certainly isn't a vacation or relaxing. You'll be so happy that you took the time for yourself while you still could.

My weekend was all right. Saturday it snowed like crazy so there were no walks outside and a whole lot of nothing. Yesterday I was a lot more emotional than I anticipated for my first Mother's Day and cried for a lot of reasons. H gave me my present a couple weeks ago but nothing yesterday - no card, no flowers, not even an offer to make breakfast (he's normally all over that stuff). So that made me sad. Then my mom didn't even wish me a Happy Mother's Day when I FaceTimed with the baby - I wasn't surprised but it stung. My in-laws did end up coming over and hanging out in our mudroom, staying 6 feet apart, so they could see the baby and my MIL had flowers, champagne and steaks for me so that was nice. The baby was extra cuddly yesterday (normally she's not a cuddler) so I soaked all of that in.

On a cautiously optimistic note, our region of NY was given the green light to start reopening this weekend. We've met all 7 of the metrics outlined by the governor and it will happen in phases. Now all we can do is hope that people don't screw it up and cause another huge outbreak when everyone starts going back into public spaces.

climbingsingle · May 2020

Had an OK weekend. Watched all of season 2 of Dead To Me on Saturday. It was good.
My lawyer is sending out today the separation agreement. My STB exH should have it by Wednesday. Will be interesting to see his reaction.

ETA: Hope everyone had a Happy Mother's Day!

missJeanLouise · May 2020

FX for an easy separation Climbing wife. I know it isn't easy but I hope he doesn't make it harder. ((Hugs))

kvruns · May 2020

hugs Climbing! Are you still living under the same roof?

CharmedPam · May 2020

That place sounds amazing @missJeanLouise! love love love TN!
i did a 12ish hour bus ride from Memphis to Here. chicago. I wont do it again. Planes all the way man!

glad everyone had a good mother’s day. I finished season 2 of Ozarks (was behind) and tomorrow start 3. I can only walk, no weights for awhile, so I kill an ep and a 1/2 every day.

I just realized have zoom/virtual chats lined up every day this week. 2 are therapeutic. Rest are social.

climbingsingle · May 2020

kvruns said:

hugs Climbing! Are you still living under the same roof?

Yes, we are currently living in the same house. With his brother, who decided to leave his wife in January and has been living here since.

charlotte989875 · May 2020

climbingwife said:

kvruns said:

hugs Climbing! Are you still living under the same roof?

Yes, we are currently living in the same house. With his brother, who decided to leave his wife in January and has been living here since.

Yikes, that’s got to be tough.

charlotte989875 · May 2020

cupcait927 said:

Good luck with Baby B tomorrow, @kvruns

@charlotte989875 Don't feel guilty for taking the time now! Yeah, you'll be off for 3+ months when baby is born but it certainly isn't a vacation or relaxing. You'll be so happy that you took the time for yourself while you still could.

My weekend was all right. Saturday it snowed like crazy so there were no walks outside and a whole lot of nothing. Yesterday I was a lot more emotional than I anticipated for my first Mother's Day and cried for a lot of reasons. H gave me my present a couple weeks ago but nothing yesterday - no card, no flowers, not even an offer to make breakfast (he's normally all over that stuff). So that made me sad. Then my mom didn't even wish me a Happy Mother's Day when I FaceTimed with the baby - I wasn't surprised but it stung. My in-laws did end up coming over and hanging out in our mudroom, staying 6 feet apart, so they could see the baby and my MIL had flowers, champagne and steaks for me so that was nice. The baby was extra cuddly yesterday (normally she's not a cuddler) so I soaked all of that in.

On a cautiously optimistic note, our region of NY was given the green light to start reopening this weekend. We've met all 7 of the metrics outlined by the governor and it will happen in phases. Now all we can do is hope that people don't screw it up and cause another huge outbreak when everyone starts going back into public spaces.

That sucks @cupcait, did he know you were upset? And is this par for the course for your Mom?

You all must be some of the first to pass reopen. We’ve only got 5/7 metrics here so I think it will be a while for us. Not that I’m complaining because I really won’t go anywhere. My company has already said regardless of any reopening we’re WFH until at least June 15 and we’ll reassess then. Even then it will be a phased back to office for us.

cupcait927 · May 2020

@charlotte989875 He did but I don't think he understood. It took us a long time to get pregnant, and then I had some pretty severe PPD/PPA after the baby was born. I'm in a really good place now and just needed to be supported by him yesterday. And yes, par for the course with my mom. I let it go because it's not worth the fight any longer. She has Parkinson's and I'd rather put my feelings aside and let her enjoy her grandchild because there's no telling how quickly her disease might progress.

We are among the first to reopen - I think the Southern Tier and Central NY have also met their metrics. We'll also be phased back into work and I don't anticipate being back in my office until around mid-June, and even then it will only be for 3 days a week with the other 2 working from home.

ILoveBeachMusic · May 2020

The weekend was ok. Last of porch stuff arrived so it is all ready for warm weather if it ever gets here. DD and her family had dinner carried out for us - we picked the restaurant. It was delicious. She also added in desserts (which we didn't request) so that was a nice surprise. I also got really cute cards from her and the grandsons. H never does anything for me for mother's day nor do my sons (usually). DS1 called. DS2 is here. He bought me lunch today which was great. He wanted to buy it yesterday, but since dinner was already "eating out" I thought it would be better today. I zoomed with sorority sisters on Saturday. One of our sisters died last week so we were toasting her and sharing memories. She was only 55 - so young. Metastatic breast cancer. Ugh!

I'm having computer/tech issues - I can't open audio files that my Italian tutor sends except on my phone. When I save them on the phone, I can't find them anywhere else. Also, she sends me emails and they don't show up. I just tried to email her and it was returned as undeliverable. I've been emailing her at that address for years. I texted her to ask if her address had changed. I can't imagine it has because she is really good at updating stuff. She's in Germany so I don't know if that has anything to do with the weirdness. I can't think of a good reason it should though.

My hip/hamstring is killing me. I think I've strained a tendon or something because it hurts like hell. I need to get back to my chiropractor but am unsure of doing so even though they are open again. I don't know how long I can take it though. It is really affecting my workout schedule.

Good luck @climbingwife. I hope your STBX takes it well. @charlotte989875 use should definitely take time off and take care of yourself. Once the baby is here you won't have a lot of time for yourself for a while! DD was home a week or more before the boys were born and she just sat around and read. She was so glad she took that time.

short+sassy · May 2020

The Louisiana governor (Edwards) announced this afternoon he will allow the Stay At Home order to expire on May 15th and we will enter Phase 1, which is: social gatherings limited to 10 people. Restaurants (not bars), movie theaters, churches and gyms to reopen with strict physical distancing protocols.

Phase 2 will not be allowed until at least June 5th.

Cities and parishes (counties) can choose to be stricter, if they want. The NOLA mayor has a press conference tomorrow afternoon that will go into more details. Our city's Stay At Home order expires on May 16th. She has already said she will let it expire and enter Phase 1, but that our Phase 1 will be stricter than the rest of the state. It also sounds like face masks are going to be required in public for a long time to come.

TBH, the only way this is going to affect me directly is I'll probably have to go back to the office next week. But I'm still going to avoid going out in public, unless I have to. I suspect it will be a long time before I feel "normal" again. I hate feeling like I have to wear a mask for the simplest things and being paranoid about everything I touch. It stresses me out to run errands because of it, but it would stress me out more if I didn't. That's what I'm looking forward to the most. When things are safe enough so that I don't feel the need to take all these precautions anymore.

I was joking to my H the other day that, I may not have ever had kids, but now I know what it's like to haul a "diaper bag" every time I leave the house. Except, instead of diapers, mine has: disinfectant spray, paper towels, my mask, hand sanitizer, and a box of disposable gloves.

Like some of you all have worried about and mentioned, I'm also concerned that "letting up" even a little bit is going to result in people behaving in riskier behavior than they already are.

levioosa · May 2020

@ILoveBeachMusic I’m sorry for your loss

Monday, it keeps happening.

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