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Hump Day

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How's everyone?  Just some strawberry cooking/baking over here.  Hope all are well :)
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    I need to get to the local farm for Strawberries.   DH is going to Costco today and I think shortcake is needed.  NEEDED. 


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    How was the homemade ice cream @ei34??

    Even though it was storming last night we stopped by BILs 40th birthday dinner, stayed outside under their awning and got to catch up for a bit. We haven’t seen them since this all began so that was nice. MIL baked is a cake because she thinks we need snacks all the time. 
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    SSDD here. I slept terribly last night. I finally got up and took a melatonin but I am dragging this morning. Then my manager asked me to come in thirty minutes earlier. Which was do-able, just not preferable on my end. 

    I’m hoping to catch up on work today. The last few days have been absolutely insane. Makes me never want to be out of the office again. Otherwise it’s get home, take care of the kitten, exercise, and try to go to bed early. 


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  • CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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    @climbingwife, not sure why, but I get up around 2 every morning too.  I even took zzzquil (capsules) but its not helping.  Melatonin lost it’s touch.  

    Day camping @MyNameIsNot, sounds perfect.  And a great time “mid” week

    @ei34, you totally reminded me of fruit salsa. I LOVE a good fruit salsa! Thankfully I haven’t submitted my grocery pick up.

    With a set date for heading back into the office, I have to get back onto the groove of working out in the a.m. usually I wait till lunch or even after it, but once I get into a schedule I won’t be able to do it after work.  Also - I guess I should stop ordering things to be delivered at home.  

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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    I've been finding the melatonin helps me fall asleep, but yeah, it wears off quickly. 
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  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom member
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    Work is work and I'm just going through the motions.  I've been trying to organize my 1400 emails in my inbox and this morning, I've gotten down to 700!  Progress!

    Yoga tonight.  My brother put his Disney+ subscription on my TV and I hope he doesn't take away my usage until I can watch Hamilton!  LOL!  It's what I'm living for recently!

    DD had the sads going into daycare this morning, but they just posted a picture to the app an hour or so after dropoff and she is happily smiling in it!
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    climbingwife said:
    I've been finding the melatonin helps me fall asleep, but yeah, it wears off quickly. 
    Melatonin never worked for me to stay asleep. I’ve had chronic insomnia for years and the only things (OTC) that really helped were zquill or Benadryl. 
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    @OliveOilsMom you can stream Disney + on 4 devices at once so hopefully you can keep it since it is probably unlikely to have 4 at once unless he shared the login with others. My brother signed up for it and he has a login for him, my niece, my parents and me. It is nice to get it and not have to pay

    @ILoveBeachMusic not sure what style of books you guys read but mine read Whistling Past the Graveyard by Susan Crandall - she is a local author and even joined our zoom call. I read another book of hers The Myth of Perpetual Summer and liked it even more. Nice easy reads 
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  • missJeanLouisemissJeanLouise member
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    @charlotte989875 @climbingwife @CharmedPam from my understanding, melatonin is not meant to be used long term as it does lose it effectiveness but also that is it not, by it's self, a sleep aid. It was explained to me, that it is to be taken at bedtime (hopefully at the same time each day) for 4-5 days in a row to help reinstate a sleep pattern and might help with relaxation but not sleep. I always coupled it with Valerian Root and that seemed to work great. 
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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    Every week just seems like the longest week ever at this point.

    So, K didn't pass their smoking (cotinine) test.  They are completely bummed out.  I told them to sit on their pity pot for a few days and be bummed.  They still have a job with their previous employer (they'd just gone to a "fill-in" status that can be moved back to FT), and both the HR recruiter and the specific manager who hired them said to retry in the required 90 days and their position would be held until then.  I just told them, you haven't lost the slot, you have 90 days to fully quit (they actually had for almost 2 months, then a mania hit and neither one of us caught the symptoms early enough, so when they blew up, the smoked a cigarette I didn't know about.  This was about a month ago; we're still reeling from the effects on ourselves and our relationship, it was that bad), and shit has been stressful AF, give yourself some slack.  You still graduated, you still have a job, you're still studying for boards (and all practice tests are pulling it at 99% success rate), and take the damn break.

    Otherwise, SSDD.  Work is just chaos and I have no idea when things will settle down.  I've been on remote with one of our tech guys for problems.  He's at a loss and is going to get with one of the programmers to see what's up.  We're going out to dinner with a friend tonight, but I'm trying to find someplace I feel comfortable right now.  They're supposed to be at 50% capacity, but so many places are not following the rules and so many people are not masking and going out w/ and w/out symptoms.  It's mind bottling, for sure.
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    @VarunaTT they won’t let their employees smoke cigarettes? Don’t get me wrong, I’m totally anti-smoking/vaping/chewing, but that’s crazy. 


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  • banana468banana468 member
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    CT just announced a quarantine for anyone arriving from a hotspot. 

    DH and I are now officially monkeys in the middle for this vacation.   Upside: continuing to plan it means we always have something to look forward to.   
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    That sucks for K @varunatt, they can retake it within 90 days? How long do they have to go without a cigarette to pass? I’ve never heard of “drug” testing for cigarettes before. 
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    I know that this health care system has basically a zero tolerance for smoking in new employees.  Once you pass the entrance exam, to my knowledge and other people I know in this system (and I used to work in it), you're never retested.  But there is absolutely no smoking within 500 feet of any of their properties (which I think has an interesting effect of pushing people almost a mile away from the center b/c of how large their footprint really is).  I mean, I get it.  As a health care provider, being a smoker is odd.  Also, it affects their insurance.  I can see the other side which is people have vices sometimes and as long as it doesn't interfere with their job performance, is this something your employer really has a right to be all up in.  IDK, but K knew the deal upon accepting the offer and screwed up.

    They can retake in 90 days, which must be long enough for the cotinine to break down, even for a habitual smoker.  And really, they're young and they should stop now.  I'm down to vaping in my car to/from work with a super low nicotine level and nothing else.  So I was like, let's just freaking quit.  It'll save money and our health.  And they really want this job, so there's a definite goal at the end. I've put a countdown on both of our phones as to when they can reapply and K has agreed to throw all the stuffs away on Sunday.

    ETA:  I know this sounds a little heartless.  I just made sure to tell them I wasn't disappointed or anything, this is probably best worse case scenario we could've hoped for in this situation.  Take it as the warning it is.
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    I have found that periodically switching between different OTC brands that have melatonin in them seems to keep it working.

    The sky didn't fall at work yesterday afternoon.  So I did take a much-needed vacation day today.  Apparently I picked a good day for it.  It was storming and raining hard all morning.  It was great to sleep-in some, but not as much as I wanted to.  My dog Izzy took care of that.  When it started thundering, she came back to the bedroom to be comforted and was almost climbing on my head, lol.

    I have a full day planned of watching daytime court TV, eating snacks, and drinking yummy drinks.  Not even alcoholic ones, lol.  I'm just more limited at work with my beverage choices.
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    charlotte989875 said:
    That sucks for K @varunatt, they can retake it within 90 days? How long do they have to go without a cigarette to pass? I’ve never heard of “drug” testing for cigarettes before. 
    I applied for a job years ago that required their employees to be non-smokers and they tested for it.  I don't know if they only tested on hiring or if it was ongoing/random like a drug test.  But that is the one and only time I've run into it.

    Their HR called me for a precursory phone interview and I took the opportunity to ask about it, simply because I was so curious.  She told me they got a huge discount with their medical insurer if they only hired non-smokers.  That was it.  That was the only reason, at least from what she said.

    This was weird also.  I was invited to the next phase, which I thought was going to be a second interview.  But it wasn't.  There were about 30-40 of us and all we did was take a test.  They never clarified what the test was.  However I recognized it as an IQ test!  Growing up, we had a family friend who was getting her PhD in psychology.  One of her assignments was giving IQ tests to a particular number of people and my sister and I were some of her guinea pigs.  IQ tests are a lot of pattern recognition and so was this company's test.

    So realizing the kind of test it was made me feel extra bad when I wasn't called for an in-person interview, lmao.
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    short+sassy said:

    This was weird also.  I was invited to the next phase, which I thought was going to be a second interview.  But it wasn't.  There were about 30-40 of us and all we did was take a test.  They never clarified what the test was.  However I recognized it as an IQ test!  Growing up, we had a family friend who was getting her PhD in psychology.  One of her assignments was giving IQ tests to a particular number of people and my sister and I were some of her guinea pigs.  IQ tests are a lot of pattern recognition and so was this company's test.

    So realizing the kind of test it was made me feel extra bad when I wasn't called for an in-person interview, lmao.
    I had to take one of those tests too (and you're right, it is all pattern recognition and I'm really good at those).  It was all just multiple choice though, so I was blowing through it, b/c I just skipped the ones I could figure out quickly.  When the woman came back I was basically finished and she was really surprised.  I still think that's why I didn't get the job (that and they wanted me to create a litigation paralegal position for them at a salary that made me laugh out loud).
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    short+sassy said:
    charlotte989875 said:
    That sucks for K @varunatt, they can retake it within 90 days? How long do they have to go without a cigarette to pass? I’ve never heard of “drug” testing for cigarettes before. 
    I applied for a job years ago that required their employees to be non-smokers and they tested for it.  I don't know if they only tested on hiring or if it was ongoing/random like a drug test.  But that is the one and only time I've run into it.

    Their HR called me for a precursory phone interview and I took the opportunity to ask about it, simply because I was so curious.  She told me they got a huge discount with their medical insurer if they only hired non-smokers.  That was it.  That was the only reason, at least from what she said.

    This was weird also.  I was invited to the next phase, which I thought was going to be a second interview.  But it wasn't.  There were about 30-40 of us and all we did was take a test.  They never clarified what the test was.  However I recognized it as an IQ test!  Growing up, we had a family friend who was getting her PhD in psychology.  One of her assignments was giving IQ tests to a particular number of people and my sister and I were some of her guinea pigs.  IQ tests are a lot of pattern recognition and so was this company's test.

    So realizing the kind of test it was made me feel extra bad when I wasn't called for an in-person interview, lmao.
    The hospital system that I worked for years ago had a smoking ban for new employees and tested along with drug testing as a condition of hire.  I always just assumed most large healthcare systems were the same way.  

    I've also had to take a drug test for every job offer I've ever gotten.  I think it's interesting though that no job H has ever had has tested.  Different industries, but both "corporate" type settings. 

    I'm getting fat and unmotivated and i'm super PMSing too. Other than that SSDD.
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Interesting about the testing.

    Both DH and have had to be drug tested for our jobs.   I was tested as a new hire and I believe they can recall me at any time however I haven't been in 5 years. 

    DH has a different clearance and technically he can be told to take a test and and clearance revoked if he was found with an illegal drug in his system.   No issues with smoking though.

    With my prior employer, employees could smoke however some higher ups in our sales team had high value life insurance policies and if they smoked it invalidated the policy. 
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    Burned out. Too many demands on me and making me feel like I can never measure up.
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    Most jobs I've had require drug testing for new-hires and periodic, random drug tests.  They'll also do a drug test if someone is physically injured on the job.  Because if a worker is drunk or high when their accident happens, that is strong evidence to deny a worker's comp claim.

    I've also heard that if a company has or wants government contracts (military, federal, state, city, whatever) that a drug testing program is usually a requirement to be considered.
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    Ha.  Our company drug tests when we get hired but no drops. I was tested twice.  Once with the temp agency to get me into the job, and 13 months later when they officially hired me.  Drug test.  Not smoking.  Never heard of a tobacco test!

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    @OliveOilsMom you can stream Disney + on 4 devices at once so hopefully you can keep it since it is probably unlikely to have 4 at once unless he shared the login with others. My brother signed up for it and he has a login for him, my niece, my parents and me. It is nice to get it and not have to pay

    @ILoveBeachMusic not sure what style of books you guys read but mine read Whistling Past the Graveyard by Susan Crandall - she is a local author and even joined our zoom call. I read another book of hers The Myth of Perpetual Summer and liked it even more. Nice easy reads 
    We have read that book (the graveyard one) and another book of hers but can't remember the name. Crandall is a high school friend of one of our members and has told us we should have her call in or attend sometime. @m@missJeanLouise we read The Silent Patient. Pretty good - big twist at the end.
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