Help a military couple!

firsttimersluck · July 2011

hahaha yes... I know you can't join without a ged or diploma.. that's why I made the comment. He needs a smack in the face to get motivated.. not the military to make life financially better for him. slacker kid..

ah, I see. That's a pretty good excuse for your grandparents then haha. They will just have to simmer and wait.

and yes, it's a little off for an e and o to marry, because an e and o are not suppose to fraternize.. and if the two are getting married, it usually means some rule regarding that was broken. There are a LOT of little things that need to be addressed regarding that. (ie, when each got in, did they meet through the military, same branch, etc etc.. the list is messy). That being said, I know a few couples that are e/o or e/e or o/o off same branches, diff branches, etc. (all my friends are military pretty much, since we were all military brats it just kinda happens)

KendallR10 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]hahaha yes... I know you can't join without a ged or diploma.. that's why I made the comment. He needs a smack in the face to get motivated.. not the military to make life financially better for him. slacker kid.. ah, I see. That's a pretty good excuse for your grandparents then haha. They will just have to simmer and wait. and yes, it's a little off for an e and o to marry, because an e and o are not suppose to fraternize.. and if the two are getting married, it usually means some rule regarding that was broken. There are a LOT of little things that need to be addressed regarding that. (ie, when each got in, did they meet through the military, same branch, etc etc.. the list is messy). That being said, I know a few couples that are e/o or e/e or o/o off same branches, diff branches, etc. (all my friends are military pretty much, since we were all military brats it just kinda happens)
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

<div>You have no idea. My grandma called me three times in one day to find out when I was getting married
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</div><div>Well thats going to be weird... Cause one of us will be an e and the other an o at some point. Hopefully we'll be married before then. but just in case we aren't its going to get messy</div></div>

kyrgyzstan · July 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help a military couple! : I'm my grandparents only grandchild. My grandmother is horribly annoying about when I'm getting married and having kids. Well enlisting I can't get pregnant. :D FI will both be in. And as of right now the same branch. Once he gets his degree we won't be. Is it weird for an officer to be married to an enlisted?
Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

<div>It'll present some interesting challenges. You'll have to keep your work life very, very separate. You shouldn't be seen in uniform together, you'll have to be mindful of your public behavior. You would never want to do anything that would give anyone an excuse to believe anyone is acting inappropriately, even people who don't know you (<a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_sarahp">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_sarahp</a>). Being in a dual service couple is a huge challenge, and I'd be willing to argue that being in a married in a couple that involves an officer and an enlisted member is even more of challenge.</div>

kyrgyzstan · July 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help a military couple! : You have no idea. My grandma called me three times in one day to find out when I was getting married Well thats going to be weird... Cause one of us will be an e and the other an o at some point. Hopefully we'll be married before then. but just in case we aren't its going to get messy
Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

<div>You absolutely have to be married before then or you're violating the UCMJ. </div>

firsttimersluck · July 2011

yeah you won't be able to make that happen.. in fact I know e/e couples where one was turned down from ocs for the very reason of their situation.. just the way it goes.

kyrgyzstan · July 2011

See section 2b

http://usmilitary.about.com/od/army/a/fraternization.-u3q.htm

You have to be married first.

firsttimersluck · July 2011

Stan always comes through with the websites

kyrgyzstan · July 2011

It's more polite than lmgtfy, which I often consider.

ETA: And a lot of these are bookmarked for me from back when I was doing my research. Of course, I googled, but whatever.

shan87 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help a military couple! : It'll present some interesting challenges. You'll have to keep your work life very, very separate. You shouldn't be seen in uniform together, you'll have to be mindful of your public behavior. You would never want to do anything that would give anyone an excuse to believe anyone is acting inappropriately, even people who don't know you ( <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_sarahp" rel='nofollow'>http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_sarahp</a> ). Being in a dual service couple is a huge challenge, and I'd be willing to argue that being in a married in a couple that involves an officer and an enlisted member is even more of challenge.
Posted by WishIcouldbeinthe'stan[/QUOTE]

Thus why I decided not to join the military.

KendallR10 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help a military couple! : It'll present some interesting challenges. You'll have to keep your work life very, very separate. You shouldn't be seen in uniform together, you'll have to be mindful of your public behavior. You would never want to do anything that would give anyone an excuse to believe anyone is acting inappropriately, even people who don't know you ( <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_sarahp" rel='nofollow'>http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_sarahp</a> ). Being in a dual service couple is a huge challenge, and I'd be willing to argue that being in a married in a couple that involves an officer and an enlisted member is even more of challenge.
Posted by WishIcouldbeinthe'stan[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Hopefully the E/O won't be for very long. I plan on starting school when I get back from AIT

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firsttimersluck · July 2011

So wait.. Kendall is your situation that your guy is an officer and your enlisting? It's going to take a lot longer than you think to POSSIBLY get selected for OCS

KendallR10 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]So wait.. Kendall is your situation that your guy is an officer and your enlisting? It's going to take a lot longer than you think to POSSIBLY get selected for OCS
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]
No. My guy is enlisted and I'm enlisting. We are both thinking about becoming officers. I know that I can go through ROTC instead of OCS. I haven't offically decided if I'm even going to

firsttimersluck · July 2011

um.. you can't .. go enlist.. and do rotc at the same time?
I.. don't even know how that would work. You either do rotc in college before you join, then you go ocs and commission.. or you enlist and start working on the packets/classes to get you selected for ocs, or you join, get out, use the gi bill for college and during THAT time you can do rotc, and join back up as a commissioned officer.
I guess I'm a little confused as to what your exact plan is, and maybe I'm totally following this all wrong? O.o

KendallR10 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]um.. you can't .. go enlist.. and do rotc at the same time? I.. don't even know how that would work. You either do rotc in college before you join, then you go ocs and commission.. or you enlist and start working on the packets/classes to get you selected for ocs, or you join, get out, use the gi bill for college and during THAT time you can do rotc, and join back up as a commissioned officer. I guess I'm a little confused as to what your exact plan is, and maybe I'm totally following this all wrong? O.o
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]
I'm doing national guard. From what I've been told. I can be enlisted and do ROTC as I go to school. I haven't decided what I'm doing yet. Most likely going to do OCS

firsttimersluck · July 2011

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOH
haha that's the piece I was missing. I felt like I was missing something to this story. NOW I getcha

KendallR10 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOH haha that's the piece I was missing. I felt like I was missing something to this story. NOW I getcha
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]
Sorry. I should have made that clear. my bad. I might be an officer in the NG and then go active. FI wants to go active

zimgsgirl26 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]um.. you can't .. go enlist.. and do rotc at the same time? I.. don't even know how that would work. You either do rotc in college before you join, then you go ocs and commission.. or you enlist and start working on the packets/classes to get you selected for ocs, or you join, get out, use the gi bill for college and during THAT time you can do rotc, and join back up as a commissioned officer. I guess I'm a little confused as to what your exact plan is, and maybe I'm totally following this all wrong? O.o
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]
You can do ROTC and enlist at the same time. ROTC people from the school I attend and my fiance is going to attend have called him to talk to him about

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