My boyfriends roommate and good friend is getting married in march. We are all about the same age having went to college together and a good number of our friend group are currently in graduate school. My bf is the co best man and is not in school but three other members of the bridal party are still students along with many guests. I am also still a student but not in the bridal party.
The wedding was planned for the beginning of march. It just so happens to be right in the middle of the 2 combined weeks of spring break for all those still in school. According to my Bf this was to ensure that people would have time off to come. Personally I thought of it as being inconsiderate and told my boyfriend before knowing the specific date that if it conflicted there was chance I would not make it to the wedding. (I travel independently for spring break every year that I have had a break) (this is my last year before graduation where I will go back to working full time and these opportunities will not come as easily) While I disagree with the planning tactic for date choice, I think people should choose whatever date they prefer and know that people plan things accordingly and sometimes conflicts just happen. In this case, knowing that there are so many of your VIP guests (not myself) that are having to make a choice to attend your wedding over something they may have already considered doing, that feels really tough to me and poor planning to assume that your best friends want to use their time off for your special day.
At the end of the day, my side of it I got out pretty unscathed since it falls at the beginning for me and essentially still get a travel week. My other friends will not be able to travel the week prior unless for a long weekend only.
My friends seem to be okay and all is well, but my boyfriend thinks im being unreasonable with even the suggestion that I or anyone would miss the wedding to go on some hypothetical trip that hasn't been planned yet.
Is this crazy?