Freaky Friday

CharmedPam · December 2020

That’s a cool idea @kvruns!

@missJeanLouise, not to take sides but I get a ton of mail. Sometimes Im so excited to see whats on my doorstep I rip into it.
sometimes it’s not for me.

now..... I can’t say it’s happened with packages but it has with letters.

kerbohl · December 2020

MyNameIsNot said:

kerbohl said:

banana468 said:

kerbohl said:

Aside from cross-country skiing (in which I will fall repeatedly) I don't have too many plans for the weekend. I'd like to give my house a deep clean. Maybe put up our mini tree for once. My rabbit's cage is right beside where it will go, so maybe he will enjoy it.

I'm miffed at my MIL. I'm pretty sure once again she didn't listen to hubby at all about what he wants for Christmas or what he would like to do for Christmas. She knows he WILL NOT go out unnecessarily for this pandemic. We go grocery shopping about once every three weeks at this point to reduce exposure because that makes him more comfortable. So, it sounds like she bought him gift cards for Christmas? Because, yeah, he's really going to use those before the pandemic is over. It's a small thing to be miffed at, but this comes from years and years of her buying completely thoughtless gifts that just rub in the fact that she either doesn't know her son at all or doesn't like who he is and is trying to make him into something else. Why, why are we even doing gifts? We have also asked repeatedly to stop doing gifts, but that's also not something MIL will even consider. I thought gift giving was supposed to be "I saw this and thought you would like it", not "I don't like your taste in clothes so here is a gift card to a clothing store that you will never go to".

Sorry, rant over. And it sounds like we're still doing Christmas even though hubby clearly feels uncomfortable about it. His family just doesn't care about what he thinks.

"Oh thanks Mom. We'll look forward to using these this summer."

Yep, your way is better than what I would say.

Or sell them. There are websites where you can sell giftcards for like 90% of value or something.

I gave my sister a gift I got from my ILs for her to regift. She is in the opposite situation, where she is expected to give ridiculous gifts that people don't really want to her ILs, so it worked nicely in that scenario.

Maybe, maybe next year is the year we finally don't give gifts. For me, Christmas as an adult is about being with each other and enjoying each other's company, and hubby agrees. But he needs to tell them this and talk with them, and either he doesn't or they ignore him.

Edited because it is Friday afternoon and words.dont.work

ILoveBeachMusic · December 2020

CharmedPam said:

That’s a cool idea @kvruns!
@missJeanLouise, not to take sides but I get a ton of mail. Sometimes Im so excited to see whats on my doorstep I rip into it.
sometimes it’s not for me.

now..... I can’t say it’s happened with packages but it has with letters.

I opened a package once that wasn't for us. In my defense, it was our address and our name. The sender just had the wrong Dr. and Mrs. John Smith's address. Imagine my surprise when I opened a baby gift for boy and girl twins (at the time my youngest was in elementary school). I did figure out who it belonged to based on the note enclosed. Of course, when H returned home that day, I asked him if there was something he wasn't telling me LOL!

missJeanLouise · December 2020

CharmedPam said:

That’s a cool idea @kvruns!
@missJeanLouise, not to take sides but I get a ton of mail. Sometimes Im so excited to see whats on my doorstep I rip into it.
sometimes it’s not for me.

now..... I can’t say it’s happened with packages but it has with letters.

The amazon packaging, and even the gift wrap, I understand. But then to open the box that is clearly not the toy and not say anything until my dad went to their house looking for the item, makes me think they were trying to keep it. They had already thrown away the box too.

charlotte989875 · December 2020

missJeanLouise said:

CharmedPam said:

That’s a cool idea @kvruns!
@missJeanLouise, not to take sides but I get a ton of mail. Sometimes Im so excited to see whats on my doorstep I rip into it.
sometimes it’s not for me.

now..... I can’t say it’s happened with packages but it has with letters.

The amazon packaging, and even the gift wrap, I understand. But then to open the box that is clearly not the toy and not say anything until my dad went to their house looking for the item, makes me think they were trying to keep it. They had already thrown away the box too.

That really sucks. We’ve had a situation where we get a package for another house and they’ve gotten ours. They accidentally opened ours once from target and wrote us a note apologizing that they opened it because they were also expecting something from target. That’s what you do if you accidentally open something that isn’t yours. Not throw away the packaging and start using it.

CharmedPam · December 2020

Oh exactly! They didnt own up to their errors!

MissKittyDanger · December 2020

kerbohl said:

MyNameIsNot said:

kerbohl said:

banana468 said:

kerbohl said:

Aside from cross-country skiing (in which I will fall repeatedly) I don't have too many plans for the weekend. I'd like to give my house a deep clean. Maybe put up our mini tree for once. My rabbit's cage is right beside where it will go, so maybe he will enjoy it.

I'm miffed at my MIL. I'm pretty sure once again she didn't listen to hubby at all about what he wants for Christmas or what he would like to do for Christmas. She knows he WILL NOT go out unnecessarily for this pandemic. We go grocery shopping about once every three weeks at this point to reduce exposure because that makes him more comfortable. So, it sounds like she bought him gift cards for Christmas? Because, yeah, he's really going to use those before the pandemic is over. It's a small thing to be miffed at, but this comes from years and years of her buying completely thoughtless gifts that just rub in the fact that she either doesn't know her son at all or doesn't like who he is and is trying to make him into something else. Why, why are we even doing gifts? We have also asked repeatedly to stop doing gifts, but that's also not something MIL will even consider. I thought gift giving was supposed to be "I saw this and thought you would like it", not "I don't like your taste in clothes so here is a gift card to a clothing store that you will never go to".

Sorry, rant over. And it sounds like we're still doing Christmas even though hubby clearly feels uncomfortable about it. His family just doesn't care about what he thinks.

"Oh thanks Mom. We'll look forward to using these this summer."

Yep, your way is better than what I would say.

Or sell them. There are websites where you can sell giftcards for like 90% of value or something.

I gave my sister a gift I got from my ILs for her to regift. She is in the opposite situation, where she is expected to give ridiculous gifts that people don't really want to her ILs, so it worked nicely in that scenario.

Maybe, maybe next year is the year we finally don't give gifts. For me, Christmas as an adult is about being with each other and enjoying each other's company, and hubby agrees. But he needs to tell them this and talk with them, and either he doesn't or they ignore him.

Edited because it is Friday afternoon and words.dont.work

Another option - if everyone cannot get on board with no gifts - is pulling names. Secret Santa style.
Keeps it small and less expensive

kerbohl · December 2020

MissKittyDanger said:

kerbohl said:

MyNameIsNot said:

kerbohl said:

banana468 said:

kerbohl said:

Aside from cross-country skiing (in which I will fall repeatedly) I don't have too many plans for the weekend. I'd like to give my house a deep clean. Maybe put up our mini tree for once. My rabbit's cage is right beside where it will go, so maybe he will enjoy it.

I'm miffed at my MIL. I'm pretty sure once again she didn't listen to hubby at all about what he wants for Christmas or what he would like to do for Christmas. She knows he WILL NOT go out unnecessarily for this pandemic. We go grocery shopping about once every three weeks at this point to reduce exposure because that makes him more comfortable. So, it sounds like she bought him gift cards for Christmas? Because, yeah, he's really going to use those before the pandemic is over. It's a small thing to be miffed at, but this comes from years and years of her buying completely thoughtless gifts that just rub in the fact that she either doesn't know her son at all or doesn't like who he is and is trying to make him into something else. Why, why are we even doing gifts? We have also asked repeatedly to stop doing gifts, but that's also not something MIL will even consider. I thought gift giving was supposed to be "I saw this and thought you would like it", not "I don't like your taste in clothes so here is a gift card to a clothing store that you will never go to".

Sorry, rant over. And it sounds like we're still doing Christmas even though hubby clearly feels uncomfortable about it. His family just doesn't care about what he thinks.

"Oh thanks Mom. We'll look forward to using these this summer."

Yep, your way is better than what I would say.

Or sell them. There are websites where you can sell giftcards for like 90% of value or something.

I gave my sister a gift I got from my ILs for her to regift. She is in the opposite situation, where she is expected to give ridiculous gifts that people don't really want to her ILs, so it worked nicely in that scenario.

Maybe, maybe next year is the year we finally don't give gifts. For me, Christmas as an adult is about being with each other and enjoying each other's company, and hubby agrees. But he needs to tell them this and talk with them, and either he doesn't or they ignore him.

Edited because it is Friday afternoon and words.dont.work

Another option - if everyone cannot get on board with no gifts - is pulling names. Secret Santa style.
Keeps it small and less expensive

Tried suggesting that one too. No go. We thought it would be a good compromise. I think SIL and MIL still want to give each other gifts and seem to think that if they do it the Secret Santa way, then they can't buy gifts for each other. But we don't care about that - give each other gifts on the sly, it doesn't affect us!

banana468 · December 2020

kerbohl said:

MissKittyDanger said:

kerbohl said:

MyNameIsNot said:

kerbohl said:

banana468 said:

kerbohl said:

Aside from cross-country skiing (in which I will fall repeatedly) I don't have too many plans for the weekend. I'd like to give my house a deep clean. Maybe put up our mini tree for once. My rabbit's cage is right beside where it will go, so maybe he will enjoy it.

I'm miffed at my MIL. I'm pretty sure once again she didn't listen to hubby at all about what he wants for Christmas or what he would like to do for Christmas. She knows he WILL NOT go out unnecessarily for this pandemic. We go grocery shopping about once every three weeks at this point to reduce exposure because that makes him more comfortable. So, it sounds like she bought him gift cards for Christmas? Because, yeah, he's really going to use those before the pandemic is over. It's a small thing to be miffed at, but this comes from years and years of her buying completely thoughtless gifts that just rub in the fact that she either doesn't know her son at all or doesn't like who he is and is trying to make him into something else. Why, why are we even doing gifts? We have also asked repeatedly to stop doing gifts, but that's also not something MIL will even consider. I thought gift giving was supposed to be "I saw this and thought you would like it", not "I don't like your taste in clothes so here is a gift card to a clothing store that you will never go to".

Sorry, rant over. And it sounds like we're still doing Christmas even though hubby clearly feels uncomfortable about it. His family just doesn't care about what he thinks.

"Oh thanks Mom. We'll look forward to using these this summer."

Yep, your way is better than what I would say.

Or sell them. There are websites where you can sell giftcards for like 90% of value or something.

I gave my sister a gift I got from my ILs for her to regift. She is in the opposite situation, where she is expected to give ridiculous gifts that people don't really want to her ILs, so it worked nicely in that scenario.

Maybe, maybe next year is the year we finally don't give gifts. For me, Christmas as an adult is about being with each other and enjoying each other's company, and hubby agrees. But he needs to tell them this and talk with them, and either he doesn't or they ignore him.

Edited because it is Friday afternoon and words.dont.work

Another option - if everyone cannot get on board with no gifts - is pulling names. Secret Santa style.
Keeps it small and less expensive

Tried suggesting that one too. No go. We thought it would be a good compromise. I think SIL and MIL still want to give each other gifts and seem to think that if they do it the Secret Santa way, then they can't buy gifts for each other. But we don't care about that - give each other gifts on the sly, it doesn't affect us!

That's what happened in my mom's family!

My mom, grandma and my aunt would go shopping together and then would hand things to each other in the car, "I know I didn't get you for Secret Santa but here:"

But then no one doubled up on giving gifts to guys like my dad who is not that easy to gift.

It worked well especially as everyone started to get older.

For my generation now, DH's brother proposed not giving gifts to each other. Their family comes out "ahead" because they have more kids to our two but it still means that we're not shopping for each other.

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