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Tread lightly on TUESDAY

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Hope everyone in the path of the storm is digging out OK
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  • kvrunskvruns member
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    I bought a fleece pullover/hoodie this weekend and it is so warm. I'm always cold working so this is amazingly perfect. The small things in life! 

    I really do need to go through my closet, both to weed out things that don't fit and then the realization that I have so much stuff I haven't worn in years and probably never will. I'm bad about getting rid of stuff because of the "what if" in case I need something later and don't have it but realistically I know I have plenty. Someday I'll do it. 

    TV talk - started watching Imposters on Netflix and I really like it although I just started season 2 and it feels a bit like it jumped the shark. Maybe one season would have been better. Felt very Ocean's Eleven to me which was good although then I have to really pay attention 
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    Nothing like a good fleece/hoodie @kvruns.  I’m with you on weeding through clothes, it’s especially hard when so many times I’ve been stuck on what to wear and score with a random dress/sweater etc from the back of my closet I’d forgotten about.  So it’s hard getting rid of things you rarely wear but then they swoop in to save the day.

    We have a chance of more snow today but I’m hoping we’re done.  H took almost two hours between last night and this morning shoveling out the car, our sidewalk, etc.  The kids are on remote instruction today and my school is using its third (and final) built in snow day.  Hoping we’re all back tomorrow.
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    @ei34 how much snow did you get? I do wonder how built in snow days might change now that remote learning/hybrid is more prevalent
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    Happy Birthday @MyNameIsNot
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    @Casadena I forget, do you have child care options even just part-time to help with working from home? 
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    Happy Birthday @MyNameIsNot!

    We are going to need to dig out today from the snow.  We wound up with around at least a foot.   DH has not showered yet and he's in his "work pants" which means there will be snow blowing later.  

    That's good because the tutor will be here later AND I didn't get his birthday card yet and that's tomorrow.  I have his gifts that I need to wrap but it would be good to get something that the kids can sign. 


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    kvruns said:
    @Casadena I forget, do you have child care options even just part-time to help with working from home? 
    Nope.  He is starting back at "school" next week though so even though we're a bit nervous about exposure it will take a huge stress of both of us.  My mom helped a lot over the summer bc she's a teacher and would come stay with us for weeks at time and my MIL will help for a day or two occasionally if we both are slammed, but other than that we've been surviving at home just the three of us!
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    Happy bday @MyNameIsNot !

    @kvruns a good fleece/hoodie is necessary.


    It's been cold a.f here. Which is good because when M brings BK in the house, he is just carrying her - so she cannot stop and play in snow. She loves stamping in the snow lol we're not sure if it's a sound/texture thing, but if it's crunchy she prefers it.

    So idk if anyone is watching WandaVision, but we are and even though M and I have seen a few of the MCU movies, we realized we're missing a good chunk.
    So I wrote out a list of the MCU movies to watching in order.
    If we watch 2 per weekend (they're long movies), it will take us nearly 3 months.
    We watched Age of Ultron but apparently M missed a lot of Wanda and Vision stuff.

    My exam is Thursday and I'm currently anxious about it. I have more reading to review stuff this week, but I'll be glad when it's over. I just wanna move forward with this stuff ....


    Last night M & I were talking about BK and how the next year she'll be going through a lot of changes - not even just developmental, but personal. We'll be signing her up for kindergarten, she'll likely be fully trained, I'm fully anticipating her to drop naps so adjusting to that and/or quiet time, plus we'll have removed the side bar on her crib.
    We're looking at a new bed in general around 4 or 5 when we're looking at a whole room makeover.
    He jokingly grabs me and goes "we should make another!"
    My immediate made this face:

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    Happy Birthday @MyNameIsNot!

    @Casadena - tiffing is so hard!  DH blew tf up on Saturday night about something and I'm still not sure what set him off.  Glad it was over by Sunday.

    Hope all the East coasters are safe and digging out.

    I have someone coming in tomorrow to clean.  I'm hoping it works out and she can come every month.  I'll talk to her about wearing a mask while here - that's a reasonable ask, right?

    I got several things done this weekend that have been on the To Do list since moving.  I assembled a small shelving unit and sold another on FB Marketplace.  It was easy and I should sell more things on there.  Although I know not everyone makes it as easy as this buyer did - didn't haggle on price and came on time for driveway pick up.  Also more unpacking and organizing.  It'll take awhile to get that done.  
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    I'm not sure I could handle more than 5" of snow, much less the feet y'all are talking about!

    It's just cold and dreary here.  Not too much to report, really, just existing.  I'm having issues with one of my newer employees and I just wrote up a letter documenting the issue to HR.  IDK what will happen and I don't necessarily care, but it needed to be documented.

    Made an appointment to get new tires this weekend and get the last of the donations out of my apartment.  That'll really free up my space.  Hopefully K's mother can come get the last box of their stuff soon, though I'm seriously considering just driving out to their parents house and leaving it.  K's mother did say there was another box of stuff for me; I'm somewhat expecting it to be stuff K is sending back b/c they're an asshole and I'll end up throwing it away, but I don't really care, just need this last piece finalized.

    I watched the Winx Saga on Netflix.  It does get a little teeny bopper at times, but it's a pretty good story and I think there's equal time spent on the teachers as well as the kids.  The teachers at least have an interesting storyline too.
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    Jstump2 said:
    MissKittyDanger One year I filled a long tote up with snow, put it on the floor with towels, added some bowls and spoons and things and put mittens on my daughter and let her play with the snow inside when it was too cold to go out.
    that's a really good idea ... maybe we'll try that out. We have food colouring too
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    @Casadena, would getting a house cleaner to come in once a week or so help?  Though I could also see being worried about exposure.

    @MyNameIsNot, Happy Birthday!

    I have a really busy week.  Though not at work.  Work is slow as a barrel of molasses right now.  But I picked up more gas station audits.  My H and I need to go to Costco tomorrow.  And we need to have an important meeting with our neighbor on a win-win opportunity for everyone.  Details below: 

    I made a big decision last night!  Our good friend and neighbor approached us to buy her house.  I wasn't in a position to do it until after my cash-out refi.  I still kind of am not, but we think she'd be open to a down payment for half and seller-financing for the rest.  

    It's an up/down duplex.  The top unit is vacant and has been for years.  She lives in the bottom unit.  But it's a pretty unusual situation and here are the two catches.  She would want to remain living there until she passes away or is permanently put in a nursing home.  She is elderly and unfortunately in really poor health.  We would be financially comfortable enough to maintain the house for as long as she lives but, she probably doesn't have much time left.  The other catch is that, although the exterior and roof are in great shape, the interior is NOT.  The whole property will need to be gutted when the time comes.

    We would start renovating the upstairs unit after closing, though it would need to be self-funded...which would make the process a lot slower...because I don't think a lender would touch this while she has the right to stay in the property.  However, once she is no longer living in the property, I should be able to get a rehab loan.  Depending on what timeframe this happens in, it would take us another 6-12 months to totally renovate the house.  Then we would sell it and our profits would be in the 6-figures.  Overall, it's a very slow play, but an amazing opportunity in the end.  And the benefit to our friend is she would have a lot more cash-in-hand for her final years.

    We haven't set a day/time yet.  But now that we are a "go", we will be meeting with her this week to work out all the details.  We will then be using a real estate attorney to draw up the contract.  I already briefly spoke about this to the attorney at my title company when I did my cash-out refi.  I thought I was doing something crazy and totally out of left field.  But she told me contracts like what I described are done all the time (though usually amongst family members) and it's NBD, well worn territory.  So that was good to hear.

    It's been a possibility my H and I have been mulling over for the last few months.  But now that we have made a decision to move forward, we are really excited about it!  Assuming we are able to work out all the details with our neighbor, we could actually close in about 2-3 weeks!
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    Casadena said:
    H and I are tiffing again and it's annoying.  I think we're both just ready to not have to schedule every minute of every day to make sure the babe is getting what he needs and we don't miss anything important at work.  And our house is a mess and we both hate it but when H gets stressed he tends to blow up about tiny (to me) things like clothes being inside out in the hamper, or the shoes in the closet not being organized. 

    Better news - I'm reading the Outlander series again. I got about halfway through the 5th book a couple years ago and never picked it up again so I'm starting at the beginning.  So good.  Also, G and I took a super long walk yesterday afternoon and it felt so good to get out in the sun (even though there's like 2 feet of snow on the ground).  

    Happy birthday @MyNameIsNot!


    This is exactly our tiffs as well, and it’s exhausting. We’re tiffing about sleep training (again? still?) in the it’s my busiest week at work and the baby doesn’t like sleep training and H is frustrated. He deals with that by being annoyed that the house is messy because you can’t be annoyed at a baby, and I’m getting up with him all night. 
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    MNNEBride said:
    Happy Birthday @MyNameIsNot!

    @Casadena - tiffing is so hard!  DH blew tf up on Saturday night about something and I'm still not sure what set him off.  Glad it was over by Sunday.

    Hope all the East coasters are safe and digging out.

    I have someone coming in tomorrow to clean.  I'm hoping it works out and she can come every month.  I'll talk to her about wearing a mask while here - that's a reasonable ask, right?

    I got several things done this weekend that have been on the To Do list since moving.  I assembled a small shelving unit and sold another on FB Marketplace.  It was easy and I should sell more things on there.  Although I know not everyone makes it as easy as this buyer did - didn't haggle on price and came on time for driveway pick up.  Also more unpacking and organizing.  It'll take awhile to get that done.  
    I think that's a reasonable ask.  Though, if any family members are going to be at home while that person is there, they should wear a mask also.
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    @short+sassy a cleaner would maybe help and I've thought about suggesting that.  But i really think that once we have a chance to breathe every day when G is at daycare everyday things will settle and we'll have more time to clean PLUS the house just won't get as messy everyday without a toddler tornado running through every room of the house all. day. long. 

    @charlotte989875 ugh i'm sorry about that - it's so frustrating.  Sleep training was hard and we tried a few times before we both really stuck with it.  But both people have to be on board or it just won't work.  What exactly is your H frustrated about?  Is he not getting enough sleep (lol at that) or just thinks baby SHOULD be sleeping through the night?

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    Happy birthday @MyNameIsNot!

    My morning is starting off great. We had three people call off on our busiest day of the week. And patients are upset because, no, you can’t come into the clinic if you have had known exposure. It’s not a hard concept to grasp. Also I broke a nail this morning. Ugh. 

    Otherwise SSDD. My legs are dead from my hiking over the past three days so I’m planning on an easy arm workout tonight instead of my usual double walk and weight workout plan. 


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    Casadena said:
    H and I are tiffing again and it's annoying.  I think we're both just ready to not have to schedule every minute of every day to make sure the babe is getting what he needs and we don't miss anything important at work.  And our house is a mess and we both hate it but when H gets stressed he tends to blow up about tiny (to me) things like clothes being inside out in the hamper, or the shoes in the closet not being organized. 

    M & I argue with there is stuff backed up but it's usually frustration. Clutter drives my anxiety and he can easily ignore it.
    So what's starts with "Can you help?" turns to "you're lazy a.f" very quickly on my end.

    We're slowly getting into better habits but covid has made things feel wonky.
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    Casadena said:
    @short+sassy a cleaner would maybe help and I've thought about suggesting that.  But i really think that once we have a chance to breathe every day when G is at daycare everyday things will settle and we'll have more time to clean PLUS the house just won't get as messy everyday without a toddler tornado running through every room of the house all. day. long. 

    @charlotte989875 ugh i'm sorry about that - it's so frustrating.  Sleep training was hard and we tried a few times before we both really stuck with it.  But both people have to be on board or it just won't work.  What exactly is your H frustrated about?  Is he not getting enough sleep (lol at that) or just thinks baby SHOULD be sleeping through the night?

    He thinks baby should be sleeping longer, doesn’t want baby to develop poor sleep habits -mainly falling asleep on us- which I get. But like it takes more than a few days for it to work (if it’s going to) and he wants it to work yesterday. 
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    @short+sassy would you rent the top unit out after you rehab it or would it stay empty until your friend is no longer living there? 

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    charlotte989875 said:
    This is exactly our tiffs as well, and it’s exhausting. We’re tiffing about sleep training (again? still?) in the it’s my busiest week at work and the baby doesn’t like sleep training and H is frustrated. He deals with that by being annoyed that the house is messy because you can’t be annoyed at a baby, and I’m getting up with him all night. 
    How much does tot weigh and how old is he?

    To give some reference, BK was 9m when she finally gave us 9hrs of sleep, and until nearly a year ago she was still on bottle before bed to settle.

    If you have sound machine {suggestion for the Hatch!} then definitely do it. I found it made a huge difference with BK. She's not sensitive to sounds, but I find it helps her settle and stay down better.
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    kvruns said:
    @short+sassy would you rent the top unit out after you rehab it or would it stay empty until your friend is no longer living there? 

    No, she doesn't want anyone living above her.  

    I actually hadn't thought about the possibility of the upstairs unit being finished and she is no longer living downstairs.  A positive of renting it out would be earning some more income while we do the downstairs renovation.  But I'm more leaning against it.

    It could be a "plus" for a potential future buyer.  But it could just as easily, and maybe more likely, be a "minus".  By far, the main goal is a sale, so I want everything to stay pristine.

    It will be a higher end renovation than what we have done before because the comps support that for a sale, so that will be pretty fun and a little different.  Including knocking down walls.  Yeah, lol!  Each unit is about 1600 square feet.  Right now, the kitchen in the bottom unit is miniscule.  It's a short, galley kitchen.  We will take out the two walls around it (please don't be load bearing, lol), plus the room next to it.  Open it up to the living room.  Add a big island and lots of cabinets on the back wall.  Granite...hmmm, maybe concrete...countertops.  Hardwood floors in the living areas.  This house is going to be way nicer looking than my own, lol.
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    oh OK so this house is more of a flip/investment, she gets her $$ to spend now (vs it going to her estate) and you presumably get a better deal now than you would once it went to her estate. 

    I hope she is able to protect the $$ in the event she goes to a nursing home and needs Medicaid to help pay for it. 
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