Hi all - Getting married in September, after a long postponement due to Covid. My SIL has four kids (two boys and two girls), and we had originally planned for them to be ringbearers and flower girls. However, the oldest girl is now 12, and it just occurred to me that she might be a little too old to be a flower girl. So I was thinking of calling her a junior bridesmaid, just so she doesn't feel awkward and embarrassed about being a tweenaged flower girl.
That being said, is it okay to still have her role be more similar to that of the flower girl? I'm thinking I'd give her a small bouquet to carry down the aisle instead of a basket of flower petals, so it's a little more grown up, but I'd still have her sit in the front row with her parents and younger siblings instead of standing up with the wedding party. Is that okay? And what should she wear? My bridesmaids' dresses are from BHLDN but they don't make junior dresses. Should I try to find something that looks like the bridesmaids' dresses anyway, or is it better to have something ivory like the flower girl?