I live with a bunch of people. One of them is my boyfriend of four years. He has lived with my housemates for about 17 years—never deciding to start his own life. Recently, I don’t feel any connection with him. He is frequently overbearing, and forces me to let him lean on me, put his head on my shoulder, and hold his hand when I am busy doing something. I hate to feel cold, but it just feels like I’m his mom more than a romantic partner. He doesn’t have a job, nor will he get one. His car is constantly breaking down—so when we do try to go someplace together there’s always that stress. His parents pay for his car insurance, and my housemates have a rent agreement with him that he can stay rent free if he cleans the house and does necessary repairs. Needless to say, that stuff never really gets done either. How do I break up with him knowing that every time that I have tried he just doesn’t leave me alone until I say that we are back together? I would try to move out of here myself, but I can’t financially right now.
