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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    Trash. 

    We were supposed to start Baby M at daycare this morning. After all the research and worry we were finally ready to go. Friday night I get texts that the center is immediately & indefinitely closed, but they hope to be back soon. Go on the state website and find the license was suspended and there were new, serious safety violations. We got my Mom an Airbnb for the week (she had moved out of the apartment because the owner sold it) so she’s here now but it’s been a weekend. 
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    oh man what a mess @charlotte989875
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    Holy shit @charlotte989875!  That's fucking insane and awful for you.  Especially since you were so apprehensive about doing the daycare thing anyway.  I'm so sorry.  What a nightmare.  

    Our weekend was pretty good.  Friday, we went shopping and to dinner.  We hung out at the neighbor's afterward. 

    Saturday, we slept in until 10 and it was glorious.  We went shopping again in the afternoon (DH needs new stuff to wear to work because his old job was khakis and polos and this job is casual, plus DefConn needs jeans).  We came home and had a pretty low-key night. 

    Sunday, FIL came over to watch football and he was in a pretty decent mood/well-behaved, LOL.    

    We got some maple kettle corn from Trader Joe's and I am obsessed with it.  I'm sad we didn't get 2 bags.  Ha.  
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    Holy shit @charlotte989875!  That's fucking insane and awful for you.  Especially since you were so apprehensive about doing the daycare thing anyway.  I'm so sorry.  What a nightmare.  

    Our weekend was pretty good.  Friday, we went shopping and to dinner.  We hung out at the neighbor's afterward. 

    Saturday, we slept in until 10 and it was glorious.  We went shopping again in the afternoon (DH needs new stuff to wear to work because his old job was khakis and polos and this job is casual, plus DefConn needs jeans).  We came home and had a pretty low-key night. 

    Sunday, FIL came over to watch football and he was in a pretty decent mood/well-behaved, LOL.    

    We got some maple kettle corn from Trader Joe's and I am obsessed with it.  I'm sad we didn't get 2 bags.  Ha.  
    That’s pretty much been my reaction all weekend long!

    How is he liking the new job?  
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    Wow, @charlotte989875, that's terrible! I'm glad your mom is there, but wowowow. 

    I had the boring weekend that I wanted. Did a little shopping, a small hike, and a lot of chill. I wish that meant waking up this morning full of energy and ready to kill this week, but I'm still tired. Getting older sucks. 
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    Oh my god @charlotte989875 what a nightmare!!  I know how nervous you were to send him anyway.  I hope you find somewhere that you like really soon!  We have really loved our Montessori school so far, not sure if you've checked out any near you (sometimes they can be cost prohibitive but they're comparable to most other types of care in our area).  Sending lots of good vibes for you all. 
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    Weekend was fun!  We went to the pumpkin patch/farm stand/carnival on Saturday morning and G had a blast (N just hung in the stroller, lol).  He picked out lots of pumpkins but his favorite part was pulling them all in the wagon and eating donuts.  Then we played in the rain for a lot of the afternoon.  We were wet, but G was giggling and having so much fun. 

    Both days we went for 2 hour drives in the afternoon because apparently my children are allergic to napping in the house on weekends.  They both sleep super well at night so I try not to complain too much.  Kind of fun exploring other areas of Chicagoland while they sleep and day dreaming about the 5-10 million dollar homes we kept driving by on the lake front.  Also kind of fun for H and I - it feels like a date of sorts which we desperately need.    

    MIL is passive aggressively mad at us bc we postponed plans with them so we could visit my parents next weekend.  The kids school is closed Monday the 11th and we didn't realize so having a built in long weekend is a no brainer for a 4 hour road trip - and my grandma hasn't met N yet.  I feel a little bad, but ILs live 40 minutes away and we see them all the time.  So it's the right choice.  

    Does anyone follow Skinnytaste on social or have the cookbooks?  I made her bagel "ball" recipe and they are SO good.  Basically her regular easy bagel recipe but baked like pockets with cream cheese inside. 

    Happy Monday!


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    charlotte989875 said:
    mrsconn23 said:
    Holy shit @charlotte989875!  That's fucking insane and awful for you.  Especially since you were so apprehensive about doing the daycare thing anyway.  I'm so sorry.  What a nightmare.  

    Our weekend was pretty good.  Friday, we went shopping and to dinner.  We hung out at the neighbor's afterward. 

    Saturday, we slept in until 10 and it was glorious.  We went shopping again in the afternoon (DH needs new stuff to wear to work because his old job was khakis and polos and this job is casual, plus DefConn needs jeans).  We came home and had a pretty low-key night. 

    Sunday, FIL came over to watch football and he was in a pretty decent mood/well-behaved, LOL.    

    We got some maple kettle corn from Trader Joe's and I am obsessed with it.  I'm sad we didn't get 2 bags.  Ha.  
    That’s pretty much been my reaction all weekend long!

    How is he liking the new job?  
    It's going well. He's trying to match day shift this week so he can have his 4 day workweek and hopefully be trained enough for his boss to put him on his shift next week.  It does mean he's waking up between 3:30a and 4a.   But overall, he's happy about his decision to take this job.  Also, he got an e-mail with the list of the new mangers that just started and he thinks a guy he used to work with 2 jobs ago is now working at his place too.  

    @banana468 Chiquito has the cutest little face!! <3 
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    Oh!  We also got the boys beds this weekend @banana468 Chiquito is adorable :)  glad the ikea trip was worthwhile!

    We got these in white:
    You can flip it over when they're a bit older and it's higher off the ground.  We got one for N too just so we made sure they match since they'll share a room in a couple years!

    Anyone have twin mattress recommendations?  I'm all about the cheapest one that doesn't need a box spring but H wants to do some "research" about the best ones for kids.  
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    @charlotte989875 oh fuck! no! :( Are there home daycares around you can look at? That's awful.

    @banana468 holy ikea trip batman! lol


    Weekend was ok. Pretty lowkey.
    I took BK to gymnastics on Saturday morning.  She is definitely in something she enjoys and fairly good at despite not listening but I think that's just a skill she's gotta work on.
    The teacher was really good - it's a 2 & 3yr old group - and when she saw kids weren't listening to their parents, she'd hop in an help.

    BK was holding the rings and the teacher was having her lift her feet to "kick" her hands. BK has some really good upper body strength. She could hold herself and kick almost straight up!
    Also she was the only one who basically could do a handstand. {She doesn't have the balance yet so I'm a prop}
    Small world, the teacher is the daughter of one of BK's teachers :) 

    Afterwards there wasn't much. My back hurt so I took a shower. BK tends to crash early on Saturdays after gymnastics, so we all had a great nap lol

    Sunday BK didn't have a nap. We sent her to IL's place so M could take me driving {it was raining, so gives me some slick road practice}
    We went to lunch after and headed to bookstore nearby. I got 2 books for BK, some wall decor for her room and myself a hallowe'en mug :)
    Nearly burnt my friggen hand on the mug today, so idk if I'll be using it regularly :\ 
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    @charlotte989875 Wow, that really sucks!  Not a good start to a week at all - I hope things get figured out!  Daycare is rough.

    Weekend was okay until yesterday.  We got together with some friends on Saturday and then my niece had a birthday party yesterday.  When we got home, hubby let me know that he is struggling mentally.  I tried to help him out, but I also pointed out to him that I am not a therapist and I really really recommend that he talk to one on a regular basis.  But I don't think he will.  We're looking at buying into a business, and he's worried that people will hate him if he takes on a bigger role there, and then he started doubting that he has any real friends and that anyone actually loves him ... a bit out of my pay grade.  I guess I'm a little lost this morning, because there is only so much you can do to help before you have to tell people that they are at the stage where they need to help themselves and talk to someone professionally.  But to say that without sounding like you are just passing the buck, and knowing that the person you are saying to has a suspicion of anyone in the therapy profession.  

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    Casadena said:
    Oh!  We also got the boys beds this weekend @banana468 Chiquito is adorable :)  glad the ikea trip was worthwhile!

    We got these in white:
    You can flip it over when they're a bit older and it's higher off the ground.  We got one for N too just so we made sure they match since they'll share a room in a couple years!

    Anyone have twin mattress recommendations?  I'm all about the cheapest one that doesn't need a box spring but H wants to do some "research" about the best ones for kids.  
    That's genius.  Having it so that it flips over when they get older, and then you don't have to buy a different bed .... I love it.

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    @Casadena, we have an Ikea memory foam mattress on DefConn's bed and one on our guest bed (which is currently the kiddo's bed).  They're a double and a queen.  I don't think we spent more than $300 on each one.  I bet a twin would be a lot less. I found Ikea's mattress prices to be very reasonable. 

    Also, look at Costco if you're a member.  They have some decent mattress prices.  
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    Casadena said:
    Oh!  We also got the boys beds this weekend @banana468 Chiquito is adorable :)  glad the ikea trip was worthwhile!

    We got these in white:
    You can flip it over when they're a bit older and it's higher off the ground.  We got one for N too just so we made sure they match since they'll share a room in a couple years!

    Anyone have twin mattress recommendations?  I'm all about the cheapest one that doesn't need a box spring but H wants to do some "research" about the best ones for kids.  
    BK has a twin mattress. The store may be Canadian but I can show you the style for reference.
    We considered the box ones but the price vs what we wanted ended up not being ideal.

    Canada Collection EQ 8 Mattress Only | Mattress Mart | Canada's Sleep Showcase

    In case link doesn't work, here are specs:
    This mattress offers a 7.5” foam core quilted with hollofil fibers. A firm core with a medium firm comfort. Never rolled up or boxed. Made in Ontario with low emission Certipur foams.

    • Gently firm support and feel.
    • 1.5″ quilt with cooling hollofil fibers.
    • Premium bamboo fabric top.
    • Certipur foam.
    • 5 year guarantee.
    • Designed and made with pride in Ontario.
    • 8” thick.
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    Side note; posing question to group - how would you feel?

    Found out through instagram, that M's cousin got married.
    We did not get an invite.

    M & BIL are very laid back and don't really care, but I feel things.
    It's not like BIL's wedding where it was scaled back for covid.
    Other cousins were invited.
    Unknown is M's dad was invited also.
    {family reference - M's dad is the blood relative. M's nanny is the matriarch}

    I asked M if he felt upset. He does not. He's surprised but not upset.
    "are you and BIL black sheep of the family?"
    "Yah basically."

    I kind of don't want to attend that side family meals anymore. Like we'll see M's nanny separately. Not the group.
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    MissKittyDanger said:
    Side note; posing question to group - how would you feel?

    Found out through instagram, that M's cousin got married.
    We did not get an invite.

    M & BIL are very laid back and don't really care, but I feel things.
    It's not like BIL's wedding where it was scaled back for covid.
    Other cousins were invited.
    Unknown is M's dad was invited also.
    {family reference - M's dad is the blood relative. M's nanny is the matriarch}

    I asked M if he felt upset. He does not. He's surprised but not upset.
    "are you and BIL black sheep of the family?"
    "Yah basically."

    I kind of don't want to attend that side family meals anymore. Like we'll see M's nanny separately. Not the group.
    People invite and don’t invite people to weddings for all sorts of reasons. If M isn’t upset I don’t see why you’d stop attending family meals over this. 
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    STARMOON44 said:
    MissKittyDanger said:
    Side note; posing question to group - how would you feel?

    Found out through instagram, that M's cousin got married.
    We did not get an invite.

    M & BIL are very laid back and don't really care, but I feel things.
    It's not like BIL's wedding where it was scaled back for covid.
    Other cousins were invited.
    Unknown is M's dad was invited also.
    {family reference - M's dad is the blood relative. M's nanny is the matriarch}

    I asked M if he felt upset. He does not. He's surprised but not upset.
    "are you and BIL black sheep of the family?"
    "Yah basically."

    I kind of don't want to attend that side family meals anymore. Like we'll see M's nanny separately. Not the group.
    People invite and don’t invite people to weddings for all sorts of reasons. If M isn’t upset I don’t see why you’d stop attending family meals over this. 
    We see them literally once a year - maybe twice - and they only do holiday meals ON the holiday {like ON xmas day - meaning if I wanna see my mum it's in the morning, or M wants to see his mum, also morning}
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    MissKittyDanger said:
    STARMOON44 said:
    MissKittyDanger said:
    Side note; posing question to group - how would you feel?

    Found out through instagram, that M's cousin got married.
    We did not get an invite.

    M & BIL are very laid back and don't really care, but I feel things.
    It's not like BIL's wedding where it was scaled back for covid.
    Other cousins were invited.
    Unknown is M's dad was invited also.
    {family reference - M's dad is the blood relative. M's nanny is the matriarch}

    I asked M if he felt upset. He does not. He's surprised but not upset.
    "are you and BIL black sheep of the family?"
    "Yah basically."

    I kind of don't want to attend that side family meals anymore. Like we'll see M's nanny separately. Not the group.
    People invite and don’t invite people to weddings for all sorts of reasons. If M isn’t upset I don’t see why you’d stop attending family meals over this. 
    We see them literally once a year - maybe twice - and they only do holiday meals ON the holiday {like ON xmas day - meaning if I wanna see my mum it's in the morning, or M wants to see his mum, also morning}
    I’m not saying I think you definitely should do holiday meals with these people. Just that this one lack of a wedding invite shouldn’t be why you stop. If the timing doesn’t work for you then don’t go. 
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    missJeanLouise said:
    MissKittyDanger said:
    STARMOON44 said:
    MissKittyDanger said:
    Side note; posing question to group - how would you feel?

    Found out through instagram, that M's cousin got married.
    We did not get an invite.

    M & BIL are very laid back and don't really care, but I feel things.
    It's not like BIL's wedding where it was scaled back for covid.
    Other cousins were invited.
    Unknown is M's dad was invited also.
    {family reference - M's dad is the blood relative. M's nanny is the matriarch}

    I asked M if he felt upset. He does not. He's surprised but not upset.
    "are you and BIL black sheep of the family?"
    "Yah basically."

    I kind of don't want to attend that side family meals anymore. Like we'll see M's nanny separately. Not the group.
    People invite and don’t invite people to weddings for all sorts of reasons. If M isn’t upset I don’t see why you’d stop attending family meals over this. 
    We see them literally once a year - maybe twice - and they only do holiday meals ON the holiday {like ON xmas day - meaning if I wanna see my mum it's in the morning, or M wants to see his mum, also morning}
    Then let that be the reason you don't attend. No need to use the wedding as an excuse. If your husband isn't bothered, you don't need to be offended on his behalf.
    I take the lead from DH on this stuff too.  Unless I'm directly affected by something then I do my best to take his lead on whatever the issue is.  
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    banana468 said:
    missJeanLouise said:
    MissKittyDanger said:
    STARMOON44 said:
    MissKittyDanger said:
    Side note; posing question to group - how would you feel?

    Found out through instagram, that M's cousin got married.
    We did not get an invite.

    M & BIL are very laid back and don't really care, but I feel things.
    It's not like BIL's wedding where it was scaled back for covid.
    Other cousins were invited.
    Unknown is M's dad was invited also.
    {family reference - M's dad is the blood relative. M's nanny is the matriarch}

    I asked M if he felt upset. He does not. He's surprised but not upset.
    "are you and BIL black sheep of the family?"
    "Yah basically."

    I kind of don't want to attend that side family meals anymore. Like we'll see M's nanny separately. Not the group.
    People invite and don’t invite people to weddings for all sorts of reasons. If M isn’t upset I don’t see why you’d stop attending family meals over this. 
    We see them literally once a year - maybe twice - and they only do holiday meals ON the holiday {like ON xmas day - meaning if I wanna see my mum it's in the morning, or M wants to see his mum, also morning}
    Then let that be the reason you don't attend. No need to use the wedding as an excuse. If your husband isn't bothered, you don't need to be offended on his behalf.
    I take the lead from DH on this stuff too.  Unless I'm directly affected by something then I do my best to take his lead on whatever the issue is.  
    Yup. I think it’s fine to be hurt you weren’t invited but if he doesn’t want to let this impact other events then I think you should follow suit. I’d honestly probably be a little hurt but know that invites happen/ don’t happen for a lot of reasons and try not to take it personally. 
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    @charlotte989875, I am so sorry to hear that!  I know how nervous you all already were about daycare. Your mom rocks!  I'm glad she was able to step in and help, so quickly.

    @ILoveBeachMusic, I didn't connect the dots that you all were in NM for the Balloon Festival!  That sounds like so much fun.  My ex-b/f from college was the ground crew for a hot air balloon company for quite awhile, though that was before I met him.  He learned how to fly them also, but never got his license.  Through his contacts, he took me up in a hot air balloon.  I loved it, though it was kind of freaky.

    @kerbohl, I'm sorry to hear about how much your H is struggling.  I hope he agrees to see a therapist and is feeling better soon.

    @missJeanLouise, so cute!  A kitten or puppy just showing up at our door is probably one of my H's biggest nightmares, lol.  He does not want another animal in our house, but would have a hard time resisting.  But that's nothing next to the even harder time he would have trying to take a precious, fuzzy baby away from me, lol.

    I did have the relaxing weekend I was hoping for.  Snacked, had cranberry mimosas, and made a dent on my recorded shows.
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    @kerbohl That's a rough spot your H is in. Glad he was able to bring it up and at least talk to you about it a bit. Hopefully he follows through and gets someone to talk to. If he seems hesitant, maybe explain it as someone who doesn't know him might be able to help better than you? {like a non-biased opinion}



    Thanks everyone. Tbh I have a lot more feelings about how that side of M's family is vs M because he just lets it all roll off.
    He doesn't get mad his dad never calls or anything but I do.
    Like ... things rarely bother him. Maybe he's bottling it up?

    He's a lot of "oh that's how things are"
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