Hello Knotters!
( ** Edited: a bit of a rewrite for clarification)
Here is my predicament. My hubby-to-be has LOTS of friends and he wants a big party. I do not. My invites include my immediate family and a handful (literally about 5). I have always wanted a small wedding with those I hold near and dear and he would like a big celebration with invites to double the number of people - most of whom I haven't met.
So this is my plan where I think we can both experience our dream day. A small morning ceremony and light meal following for family and bridal party only. Maybe 35 people (our families combined are about 28 or so). Conservative and elegant, my style and suiting both our conservative/Christian parents. Ending around 3pm
After party/second reception in the evening for EVERYBODY! All our friends and acquaintances and his buddies that I don't know. Separate location, catered dinner and open bar, party from 6pm till its over. Is this appropriate for everyone? I would really appreciate the time after the wedding with my family - all of whom are flying in from out of town, and then later on focus on all of our friends and those I haven't met yet.
Would this be proper etiquette? I think it makes everyone happy. Thank you for your thoughts!!