Dear Prudence,
My wife recently admitted that she is not attracted to me physically or emotionally. She says she still loves me, but finds my lack of confidence has taken the spark from how she feels about me. We rarely have sex, and physical intimacy is all but gone. Sex has always been an issue for her due to her own personal body confidence issues, but now it is compounded by lack of interest in me. I’ll admit the last two years have left me … not in the best physical shape and mentally exhausted from dealing with kids and a pandemic. I’m not the person I was when we dated, which is the comparison she drew. We still have good communication and she says she does feel like she can tell me anything. She says she still loves me and wants to work on it, but is that possible? Am I stuck? How do I get back to that state of attraction? Are my self-confidence issues fixable?
— Confidence Has Left the Building