Hi all, looking for a little advice.
I chose my best friend as my one bridesmaid and I feel like she's being a dead-beat MOH. Yes she has helped put out some fires, put together some of my wedding music, was there when I bought my dress but she has also had a lot going on for months now and has been hyper focused on her issues. I've been the best friend I could be to her and to let her know I'm there, listen, etc but lately it's been too much. I spoke to her a few weeks back and told her how I felt and she was initially defensive but then felt bad...said she would try harder. Anyway, fast forward she offered to plan a bachelorette for me and has been talking to be about finances on how she's saving up so we can do whatever we want that weekend, etc and I feel uncomfortable. The vibe between us has been weird lately...last week I told her I was unsure about a couple people I invited and she told me she doesn't like them. We've been friends for almost 10yrs and I guess I didn't realize how self-centered she is until now. She does have a lot going on though...lost her dad in October and her brother is suicidal. HELP! I don't want this to sound selfish, but I feel like she is sucking the fun out of an already stressful time for me. Is there a polite way to tell her I changed my mind about a bridesmaid without her getting offended? I feel she has too much going on to even be there to support me.
This has been the wedding from the hell for me and it's very sad that it's my own.