Dear Prudence.
My stepsister was horrid to me growing up. She would use homophobic slurs against me, get her friends to lie and say I was staring at them in the changing room, and basically made my teens a living hell. Even a decade later, I avoid being in the same room as her if I can. She recently came out as gay and everyone in our family, except me, threw her a ticker tape parade. She is so “brave” and everyone is so proud of her. It honestly makes me sick.
She recently reached out to me to “clear the air.” Basically a non-apology where she soft-pedaled all her previous actions as a teen and using the excuse she was just a “confused kid.” I haven’t responded. What is there to say? I don’t forgive you for being the biggest bullying bitch to me because you happen to like girls now? You gave me nightmares? I hated going to school with you so badly it made me physically ill? She didn’t even contact me privately but on my open social media where our entire family saw and have been making comments to me. How do I deal with this?
— Don’t Forgive or Forget