How do I ask my husband to improve his appearance without hurting his feelings? We have been together for 14 years. My husband is a kind, incredibly generous, and hard-working man and a loving husband and father. He has never been into his looks and is completely disinterested in fashion. He will wear clothes until they are literally falling apart, stained, and full of holes. He has always left it months between haircuts. This is part of who he is and I’ve accepted it. He has never had particularly good dental hygiene, which I can’t understand because he showers every day. I love him dearly but I’m beginning to find myself less and less attracted to him. I’m panicking because I don’t want our marriage to suffer but I can’t think of a way of broaching the subject without hurting his feelings. I don’t want a supermodel, just a little effort for our relationship. How do I ask him to take better care of himself?
—Not Looking for Perfection