Wedding Woes

Terrible Tuesday

Terrible Tuesday has reared it's ugly ass head again.  My co-worker just informed me that he's looking for another job b/c he can't deal with the pressure.  I will admit to some schadenfreude about the situation, b/c dude walked in like cock of the walk thinking he was all that.  I honestly think he can't handle the fact that he isn't the smartest person in the room and isn't even top tier, but that's me being petty too.  I thought he was going to work out eventually and I spent a lot of time trying to make sure he did.  It IS a demanding job, but it's also a rewarding job.  I might grumble, as anyone does, that's any job.  I have also commented to a friend that I can no longer identify with the "I hate my job" memes and the like, b/c I really don't.  It only took me like...10 years to get into another job that I loved and could see myself retiring from.

Otherwise, SSDD.  My ulnar nerve seems to be settling down.  My new mattress was amazing.  It was so nice not to wake up multiple times in the middle of the night w/sciatica pain.  It's still a bit stinky.  I'll set up the new bed frame this weekend hopefully.

Re: Terrible Tuesday

  • I woke up feeling even worse than yesterday. WFH again - luckily my director is a total germaphobe and actively pressures us to stay home with even the slightest of illness - which i really appreciate. 

    H is in a mood and very obviously mad at me about something but he will not communicate with me about why and i dont' have the energy to pull it out of him. So we'll see how that shakes out. Hopefully he'll snap out of it. 

    Planning on a nap at lunch and i can't wait!

    @VarunaTT it's amazing how good you feel with a good mattress!!
  • Casadena said:
    I woke up feeling even worse than yesterday. WFH again - luckily my director is a total germaphobe and actively pressures us to stay home with even the slightest of illness - which i really appreciate. 

    H is in a mood and very obviously mad at me about something but he will not communicate with me about why and i dont' have the energy to pull it out of him. So we'll see how that shakes out. Hopefully he'll snap out of it. 

    Planning on a nap at lunch and i can't wait!

    @VarunaTT it's amazing how good you feel with a good mattress!!
    This is how my H gets too- and something I’m about to talk about in therapy today! I just don’t have the energy sometimes for that. Most times really.

    Hope he gets it together soon!
  • Tired Tuesday for me. J was up so much throughout the night and it’s still a few hours until I can get in a nap. He had a good streak of getting up, eating, and going right back to sleep- but not last night! 

    My middle of the night shows are alternating between Law & Order Organized Crime and Brooklyn 99
  • Yesterday was a busy day and my social battery was utterly depleted. My last appointment canceled which was a blessing and a curse because now I just have to do it later. My hair looks nice…it’s not what I asked for though and I feel like I’m never going to get what I asked for at this point. This is the third person I’ve tried. I don’t know what they’re seeing differently in the pictures than I am. SIL was like “huh, not bad, looks nice…but that’s not the photo you showed me.” I feel like giving up in the hair department. 

    Otherwise just dreading the rest of this week. I was so tired I was in bed at 8 and asleep by 9 which is unheard of for me. 


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  • Last interview down at a new position this morning.  It went really well, so now it just depends on how the other interviewees do.  I think I'll give them a run for their money.  I do hope I get this job, but at this same time, though my job is demanding and I think there will be more changes I don't like, if I don't get this other job I won't be horribly crushed.  Just .... slightly crushed, this new company and position seems to have a better work/life culture.
    Now the waiting game ....

    Glad that the new mattress is everything you dreamed of @VarunaTT!  Sorry, couldn't resist a sleep pun there.  A new mattress does make a world of difference.  And it'll be nice for you to get the new bed up soon as well.

    @Casadena Oh I hate that ... does he give the silent treatment when he is mad?  Or just snippy?  Mine gives the silent treatment.  Either way, snippy or silent treatment drives me nuts - just say what the issue is so we can work on it!  Hopefully he opens up for you soon, without you haven't to do anything to make him.

  • @Casadena Oh I hate that ... does he give the silent treatment when he is mad?  Or just snippy?  Mine gives the silent treatment.  Either way, snippy or silent treatment drives me nuts - just say what the issue is so we can work on it!  Hopefully he opens up for you soon, without you haven't to do anything to make him.
    He just gets very short and crabby. No patience. Like he's just exasperated that we are existing in the same space. It's not new behavior, it's just exhausting that it falls on me to figure it out, talk to him about it, and then apologize if i did something. Like, just tell me i hurt your feelings or your frustrated or whatever and we can move past this shit faster. 
  • Casadena said:
    I woke up feeling even worse than yesterday. WFH again - luckily my director is a total germaphobe and actively pressures us to stay home with even the slightest of illness - which i really appreciate. 

    H is in a mood and very obviously mad at me about something but he will not communicate with me about why and i dont' have the energy to pull it out of him. So we'll see how that shakes out. Hopefully he'll snap out of it. 

    Planning on a nap at lunch and i can't wait!
    With all your family has gone through illness wise, even without germaphobe i'd be pushing you to stay home also <3
  • BK has nasty allergies. She's so stuffy, the poor girl.
    We've had a ton of snow melt so the moulds are starting :( We gave her allergy meds, and I think it's semi working.
    M told her school it's likely allergies, and they assumed since although sniffly her overall was same.

    We're doing breakfast for dinner for early vday because BK has Judo tomorrow.

    M got me the little lego tropical plant set for vday and I got it early because delivery lol M & BK get theirs tomorrow morning. I'm up first so I'll be setting it up as a surprise :)
    M wanted to get me the orchid one, but it's back ordered 2 months lol
    I build one over the weekend, and they're cute. Perfect size to put where ever.
    We got our tv re-mounted because we'd gotten a new t.v unit and i'm very excited once the top shelf is done. That will house our funko pops lol
  • Casadena said:
    @Casadena Oh I hate that ... does he give the silent treatment when he is mad?  Or just snippy?  Mine gives the silent treatment.  Either way, snippy or silent treatment drives me nuts - just say what the issue is so we can work on it!  Hopefully he opens up for you soon, without you haven't to do anything to make him.
    He just gets very short and crabby. No patience. Like he's just exasperated that we are existing in the same space. It's not new behavior, it's just exhausting that it falls on me to figure it out, talk to him about it, and then apologize if i did something. Like, just tell me i hurt your feelings or you’re frustrated or whatever and we can move past this shit faster. 
    This is my H, too. It’s so tough. He gets overwhelmed/frustrated about something, loses patience is snippy, but rather than just saying what’s he frustrated about he does that. We still eventually have to figure out what’s going on; I just wish we could do it without the snippiness and and  being crabby. 
  • Yup - DH gets like this too.  I frequently need to ask if this is his standard grump or if he's frustrated at something specific.

    And a lot of the time I just opt to give him space especially if I can't think of what I may have done.    I have taken to saying, "Dude use your words!" 

    That said, he's very clear on what can make him frustrated so I try to give him space and avoid the things that knowingly piss him off.  
  • Kids are home today for a snow day.  I said over and over "I have a meeting at 1.  Do not interrupt me." 

    Without fail, they came into my office just after 1 and I motioned them to get out.  After my meeting I walked over and said, "What was the ONE thing I stressed all day?  Why did you come into my office??" 

    Chiquita: "We just wanted to show you that we were going outside so that when you looked outside and saw us you'd know we were outside." 
  • BK has nasty allergies. She's so stuffy, the poor girl.
    We've had a ton of snow melt so the moulds are starting :( We gave her allergy meds, and I think it's semi working.
    M told her school it's likely allergies, and they assumed since although sniffly her overall was same.

    We're doing breakfast for dinner for early vday because BK has Judo tomorrow.

    M got me the little lego tropical plant set for vday and I got it early because delivery lol M & BK get theirs tomorrow morning. I'm up first so I'll be setting it up as a surprise :)
    M wanted to get me the orchid one, but it's back ordered 2 months lol
    I build one over the weekend, and they're cute. Perfect size to put where ever.
    We got our tv re-mounted because we'd gotten a new t.v unit and i'm very excited once the top shelf is done. That will house our funko pops lol
    I love those!  I have the orchid and the bonsai.  I just go the bonsai for Christmas and I put it together this week.  It's a lot of fun.  

  • banana468 said:
    Kids are home today for a snow day.  I said over and over "I have a meeting at 1.  Do not interrupt me." 

    Without fail, they came into my office just after 1 and I motioned them to get out.  After my meeting I walked over and said, "What was the ONE thing I stressed all day?  Why did you come into my office??" 

    Chiquita: "We just wanted to show you that we were going outside so that when you looked outside and saw us you'd know we were outside." 
    Sound reasoning, lol.  

  • @MissKittyDanger I can't remember how old BK is, but I double my Zyrtec during mold upticks.  I swear, that is the WORST allergy and it makes me miserable in so many ways.
  • kerbohl said:
    BK has nasty allergies. She's so stuffy, the poor girl.
    We've had a ton of snow melt so the moulds are starting :( We gave her allergy meds, and I think it's semi working.
    M told her school it's likely allergies, and they assumed since although sniffly her overall was same.

    We're doing breakfast for dinner for early vday because BK has Judo tomorrow.

    M got me the little lego tropical plant set for vday and I got it early because delivery lol M & BK get theirs tomorrow morning. I'm up first so I'll be setting it up as a surprise :)
    M wanted to get me the orchid one, but it's back ordered 2 months lol
    I build one over the weekend, and they're cute. Perfect size to put where ever.
    We got our tv re-mounted because we'd gotten a new t.v unit and i'm very excited once the top shelf is done. That will house our funko pops lol
    I love those!  I have the orchid and the bonsai.  I just go the bonsai for Christmas and I put it together this week.  It's a lot of fun.  
    Since i have the tropical one, i made this red flower - it's very pretty and it's great for my personal version of ADHD of unable to focus on things long, and results quick lmaoooo
  • kerbohl said:
    BK has nasty allergies. She's so stuffy, the poor girl.
    We've had a ton of snow melt so the moulds are starting :( We gave her allergy meds, and I think it's semi working.
    M told her school it's likely allergies, and they assumed since although sniffly her overall was same.

    We're doing breakfast for dinner for early vday because BK has Judo tomorrow.

    M got me the little lego tropical plant set for vday and I got it early because delivery lol M & BK get theirs tomorrow morning. I'm up first so I'll be setting it up as a surprise :)
    M wanted to get me the orchid one, but it's back ordered 2 months lol
    I build one over the weekend, and they're cute. Perfect size to put where ever.
    We got our tv re-mounted because we'd gotten a new t.v unit and i'm very excited once the top shelf is done. That will house our funko pops lol
    I love those!  I have the orchid and the bonsai.  I just go the bonsai for Christmas and I put it together this week.  It's a lot of fun.  
    Since i have the tropical one, i made this red flower - it's very pretty and it's great for my personal version of ADHD of unable to focus on things long, and results quick lmaoooo
    I've been finding them particularly helpful if I'm feeling stressed.  This is something so calming about having them snap together and you see it slowly taking shape.  Puzzles do the same, but they get broken down whereas these I put around the house.  I highly recommend the orchid, it was great.

  • @Casadena ugh I do not miss exH’s mood swings at all, all the vibes your way!
    Hooray for the improved sleep and the workplace contentment at long last @VarunaTT
    Snow day here.  We did get a good amount and it’s wet and heavy, so shoveling wasn’t much fun, but the rest of the day was. 

  • VarunaTT said:
    @MissKittyDanger I can't remember how old BK is, but I double my Zyrtec during mold upticks.  I swear, that is the WORST allergy and it makes me miserable in so many ways.
    she'll be 6 in May - so far the reactin allergy is going well, which doesn't surprise me because that's best one for my own also.
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