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Drive her when you can, but she can also uber.

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Dear Prudence,

My husband wants to lend our spare car to my sister-in-law so she can go to work. She does not have a good driving record, and just returned home from a rehab facility. My husband thinks it is a good idea to help her, but I do not. I said I can drive her to work a few days a week or lend her $500. What should I do?

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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Ask your husband if he's willing to write off the loss.

    Also, there is NO way that I would loan a car to someone with a poor record without consulting my insurance policy and hers and looking into your own liability.    That seems to be asking for trouble. 
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    banana468 said:
    Ask your husband if he's willing to write off the loss.

    Also, there is NO way that I would loan a car to someone with a poor record without consulting my insurance policy and hers and looking into your own liability.    That seems to be asking for trouble. 
    Nope nope nope. 

    When I was living with my parents my brother (who was not living with us at the time but under their policy) got into a huge accident while under the influence. Our insurance sent us a letter saying if he drove any of our vehicles and crashed they would not cover any of the expenses. I expressly excluded him on my policy so it was in writing. And told him if he ever drove my car I would report it as stolen. I work too hard to be responsible for those shenanigans. 

    Loaning her your car is a disastrous plan. Lending her $500 is very generous and you should know once you send that money, you’ll never get it back. If she refuses your offer to drive her to work…well that says a lot too. 


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    levioosa said:
    banana468 said:
    Ask your husband if he's willing to write off the loss.

    Also, there is NO way that I would loan a car to someone with a poor record without consulting my insurance policy and hers and looking into your own liability.    That seems to be asking for trouble. 
    Nope nope nope. 

    When I was living with my parents my brother (who was not living with us at the time but under their policy) got into a huge accident while under the influence. Our insurance sent us a letter saying if he drove any of our vehicles and crashed they would not cover any of the expenses. I expressly excluded him on my policy so it was in writing. And told him if he ever drove my car I would report it as stolen. I work too hard to be responsible for those shenanigans. 

    Loaning her your car is a disastrous plan. Lending her $500 is very generous and you should know once you send that money, you’ll never get it back. If she refuses your offer to drive her to work…well that says a lot too. 
    That was basically what I thought: loaning a car to someone who drives it under the influence is asking for problems.  Not only that, I'd wonder if in addition to the car possibly being trashed and all expenses being out of pocket, could they be sued by anyone hurt? 


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  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    I wonder if the husband or the LW realize how dangerous this is.  Like you all pointed out, the car is the least of it!  If the sister kills or badly hurts someone with the car, the owners of the car (them) will be included in the lawsuit.

    Fortunately, nothing bad ever happened.  But I had a friend who would let her b/f drive her car ALL the time, even though she knew he didn't care about driving drunk.  He even had his own car!  He just liked hers better.

    He was a bartender and would be sober when he was working.  But as soon as he got off work, would sometimes go drinking until the wee hours of the morning with his other service industry friends.  And then drive home.

    He was too tired one night and pulled over to the side of the road to sleep.  An officer came along and knocked on the window to question him.  It was technically drunk driving because the keys were in the ignition (something like that), but the cop gave him a break and gave him a ticket for a lesser charge.

    His lawyer got him a plea deal to pay a fine and go to alcohol awareness classes through the court.  On his first class, someone else got kicked out because they showed up drunk, smh.  

    You'd think that would be a wake-up call.  No.  He'd still drive drunk, even the same week he had a class.  The ticket hadn't phased him at all.  And my friend still let him drive her car!  Argh!  It's now an official court record that he doesn't use alcohol responsibly.

    I'm just glad they broke up before she got sued over that loser. 
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    banana468 said:
    levioosa said:
    banana468 said:
    Ask your husband if he's willing to write off the loss.

    Also, there is NO way that I would loan a car to someone with a poor record without consulting my insurance policy and hers and looking into your own liability.    That seems to be asking for trouble. 
    Nope nope nope. 

    When I was living with my parents my brother (who was not living with us at the time but under their policy) got into a huge accident while under the influence. Our insurance sent us a letter saying if he drove any of our vehicles and crashed they would not cover any of the expenses. I expressly excluded him on my policy so it was in writing. And told him if he ever drove my car I would report it as stolen. I work too hard to be responsible for those shenanigans. 

    Loaning her your car is a disastrous plan. Lending her $500 is very generous and you should know once you send that money, you’ll never get it back. If she refuses your offer to drive her to work…well that says a lot too. 
    That was basically what I thought: loaning a car to someone who drives it under the influence is asking for problems.  Not only that, I'd wonder if in addition to the car possibly being trashed and all expenses being out of pocket, could they be sued by anyone hurt? 


    Yup, they sure could. 


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