Dear Prudence,
My girlfriend and I are queer. She quit her job because it was taking a toll on her mental health and I encouraged her because I make quite a bit of money at my job. That was nine months ago. Since then, my girlfriend has just taken to lying around the house and scrolling on social media. She doesn’t help with any of the housework and only walks our dog once in the afternoon (I take him out in the morning). I feel more like a single mother than a supportive partner. I am shouldering everything and getting my girlfriend to take out the trash or put up the dishes is like pulling teeth. She is talking to a therapist online, but I am at my breaking point here. We had a huge fight where she talked about wanting to stay home when we have kids. I told her if she couldn’t handle our home now, how would she deal with a baby? She locked me out of the bedroom and started to cry. I love her to death but things haven’t gotten better. They have only gotten worse. What do we do here?
—Got to Give