Dear Prudence,
I’m a 41-year-old woman, and this is regarding a man who is 32. He has cut me off by “blocking” me everywhere, and I feel we have known each other too long for him not to give an explanation. We have known each other for 10 years. He asked me to marry him in 2015, but I decided I was making another go at the first year of medical school (from which I ultimately dropped out), so I regret turning down his proposal. He married the next girl he met on tinder in 2017. He and I had an affair in 2019-2020; at that point, he started asking me to pay him for our liaisons. I have given him probably $25k and more money here and there this year. He divorced her three years in.
My family got me to move out of Virginia away from him to NJ for the better part of three years because they didn’t like me paying him. Now, I’ve convinced my family to allow me to move back to Virginia, and he had said a few weeks ago he’d probably see me in a month, but now radio silence. I suspect he’s seeing someone else. I can’t imagine spending my life with anyone else. It’s as if I have been seeing this man for 10 years and I found no one else in the meantime. I need him to continue to see me or give the reason we cannot continue instead of just “blocking” me. How do I promote that?
—Too Long for Block or Breadcrumb