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Wishing everyone a stress-free work day and an enjoyable weekend!
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  • ei34ei34 member
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    Just in from a marathon grocery run (Trader Joe’s, Costco, Target). Definitely need to do some cleaning around here.
    Weekend is a mix of fun but not overwhelming, tomorrow will be the US Open kids day (this whole week has been free fan days but it didn’t fit into our schedules) and then a luau-themed party tomorrow evening. Sunday is mass, cooking and hopefully some relaxing. 
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    I am exhausted just hearing about your marathon store run! @ei34

    Sending your good vibes and peace about the job offer! @Casadena

    It's Fridayyyy. My MA is out today and I am very sad about this. I hope my day isn't too chaotic but half the time they haven't even arranged coverage and thirty minutes after our first patient I'm trying to figure out why my patient isn't roomed yet and it's because they just didn't assign me anyone, even though they knew she'd be out. *eyeroll*

    I'm torn on what to do tonight. H wants me to go out to dinner with his parents (and him) after work. I really don't want to. The week is long and I just want to go to the gym after work and I really don't want to have to interact with anyone. Tomorrow we are going to my grandparents and have to be around my parents and back to back events after work just feels overwhelming. Otherwise SSDD. I need to get some stuff done this weekend for next weekend and I hope I have time. 


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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Considering the closest Trader Joe's is about 40 minutes away that would be a marathon for me! 

    I had an argument with a colleague I've worked with for 20 years because I flat out said I'm not going to do something that I think can be problematic to bite us in the rear without a waiver.  And the colleague was irritated that I basically told him no.  Sorrynotsorry - I need to stick to what we've specified for products and won't deviate because something feels better temporarily.

    And I'm irritated that the option was floated in the first place without prior discussion.  So I'm starting off with heart palpitations feeling like I can feel comfortable in my decision on paper and hope it doesn't come back to bite me. 
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  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    I woke up with a major headache yesterday.  Not migraine level, but still.  I told my work I'd be in a noon because I was pretty sure I'd be feeling better by then.  But then sent a noon e-mail that my headache was only slightly better but all around I was feeling worse.  I tried to force myself to totally relax, so I could have a bit of a mental health day also.  But that was fruitless.  Though I at least got 3 more hours of sleep!  

    But then that caused me to make a major calculated error.  I take one shot of long-acting insulin every morning.  I realized at 2:30pm I hadn't taken it.  Except now I can't or it will interfere with the shot I take the next day.  I surprisingly controlled my blood glucose pretty well throughout the day with short-acting.  My BG skyrocketed overnight and now I'm feeling so off and crappy and even threw up once, but I did come to work.  I took my normal dose of long about 4 hours ago, along with a chunk of short, but it's working slower than usual.  Definitely been improvement, but it's still too high.

    Fridays are my half-day anyway.  Technically I could leave right now, but I'm so behind from yesterday, I'm going to work an extra 1-2 OT hours to get the most crucial stuff done.

    But onto weekend plans.  My H made a lunch reservation on Sunday for a Thai restaurant with a lunch month special.  Other than that, not much else going on.
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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    I'm so mad I can barely type, but I have to get it out and since this involves a LOT of my social circle, I can't really vent anywhere else, so apologies and buckle up:

    I have a friend who I've known since he was 16, now 28, going though a divorce, J.  I have been good friends with his GF, L, then wife since they started dating, when he was 19? 20?  But of course, J is first.  He even lived with me for a bit when he was 19 because of some things in his life.  Just to say, I love this little dude as a brother (I call him little b/c he's a smol man) and I'd fight anyone for him.

    It's been ugly since the beginning, but it's taken a turn that has me so furious, I'm shaking.  J is a transman.  He has started living as a man, gosh...at 21? 22? Maybe earlier, because he came out fairly soon after he stopped living with me.  Gender marker changed on license, passport, birth certificate, many surgeries, medications, etc.   They have been negotiating their divorce settlement and this is in CA.  Nothing really matters except that L has now basically threatened to out him in divorce proceedings by saying his surgeries were purely voluntary and while, out of respect for his privacy, she won't say what they are, she is willing to answer questions about them.  This **** used to work for one of the major trans advocacy networks in the nation and still works at a NFP political LGBTQ+ organization.  Beyond that, calling them voluntary is absolute bullshit.  After jumping though the hoops to get THREE different letters from 3 different doctors in their specialties, therapy, and all of the other bullshit, insurance considering them medically necessary, that he had to do, and she's pulling this?  There has only been another time in my life when I can say I literally saw red around the edges of my vision -- now there's 2.  This hits me on entirely too many levels and I've blocked her out of my life now.  And I REALLY want to tell everyone because L and I worked in the same local circles when they still lived here, but I have to respect J's wishes (he does not live as an out transman, he lives as a man and doesn't discuss his transness).  J did give me permission to tell our mutuals because again, we all ran in the circles and J is special to many of my friends as well for myriad of reasons.  ETA:  And L is seen as an impressive advocate for our community by many, even though she doesn't live here anymore.  

    Okay...I'm breathing a bit better now.  I hope it all made sense.  

    I was trying to take a PTO day today, but my supervisor is out and I couldn't figure out how to get it into the system.  Plus I still had about half an hour to make up.  Basically all to say I have a raging headache now and I'm glad I worked actually, because I'd be stomping around my house with angry energy and no where to direct it.  No big plans for the weekend except working on my new sewing project.
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    @banana468 Thank you for summarizing my wall of text, yes.
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    That's utterly terrible @VarunaTT!  I'd be having such a hard time not putting L on blast for being a bigoted hypocrite.  Thanks for the breakdown @banana468.  

    Good luck @Casadena!

    CONGRATS @charlotte989875!!

    Another busy Friday.  IDK what it's been about the last 2 weeks, but it's slow all week until the end.  NO ONE wants to work this much on a Friday.  LMAO

    We're taking the boat out tomorrow.  Sunday, we'll be pulling stuff together for Labor Day.  

    Speaking of sewing projects, I need to start looking at my stash and figure out what I want to order for fall/winter stitching.  I also need to frame a couple of projects that I made for my nieces since they are moving into their apartment in about a week. 
     
    Have a great weekend, y'all!   
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  • ei34ei34 member
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    Congrats @charlotte989875!
    Ugh J is lucky to have you @VarunaTT but I’d be beside myself too.  L sucks. Poor J. Do you think the medical documentation from the different drs will help? I hope?
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    J is handling it way better than I am, to be honest.  In the grand scheme of things, this little stunt doesn't change any of the facts, it's just gross manipulation on L's part.  I told J that I get to be mad on his behalf and that sometimes that's what friends are for too, to carry this part so he can be logical about it.  I'm just stunned, shocked, honestly hurt too because I would've never believed L capable would do something so transphobic, and angry.
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    That is beyond awful Varuna. What an absolute trash human. All of that is infuriating, and it's also extra infuriating that she's seen as an ally when clearly it's all just lip service. I'm glad J has you. This has to feel like such a betrayal for him. 


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    Congrats! @charlotte989875 was this the internal offer or the external one? 


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  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    @Casadena, Congrats on the job offer!  Do you have time to wait and see what happens with the outside job?

    @charlotte989875, congrats on taking the new job!  I know you have really been wrestling with if you wanted it.  

    @VarunaTT, I'm sorry this has been such a huge betrayal for J!  I totally understand why you are seeing red.  Especially since she was your friend too and originally such a strong ally.  

    I remember you had "sometime in the medium future" plans to move to Fresno, where you were close friends with a couple who lived there.  Are these the same people?
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    VarunaTT said:
    J is handling it way better than I am, to be honest.  In the grand scheme of things, this little stunt doesn't change any of the facts, it's just gross manipulation on L's part.  I told J that I get to be mad on his behalf and that sometimes that's what friends are for too, to carry this part so he can be logical about it.  I'm just stunned, shocked, honestly hurt too because I would've never believed L capable would do something so transphobic, and angry.
    We don't want to believe the people that we love can hurt us especially when that's literally not her job.

    I hope J has a quality attorney through this to navigate the legal grenades she's tossing. 
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  • lunabastetlunabastet member
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    Thank u ! How was your weekend btw?
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