My husband and I had a court house wedding back during the pandemic. I was aging out of my parents’ insurance and it seemed right at the time, rather than waiting and saving for a real wedding. But now, we are in a much better and stable financial situation and part of me always wanted my big day. We have a big family reunion coming up in the hometown of my grandparents. They are big church goers and the idea would be to have the pastor give us his blessing and then my husband and I would take everyone to a restaurant we would rent out. I would be wearing a white sundress with an orchid in my hair.
My grandparents and several family members are very happy to have this done—just not my own mother! She says it is a “cheat” because everyone knows we’ve been married for years and that it’s attention seeking behavior. The bizarre thing is, this is the woman who has been bitching and moaning about how she missed seeing her only little girl walk down the aisle! It would be a few minutes in front of the congregation and then having a party that we plan to pay for! This is very hurtful and confusing for me. It is causing me to have cold feet over the entire affair. Thoughts?