Dear Prudence,
My husband and I had been struggling with trying to conceive for the last five years, or at least, I thought we were. It turns out that he had a vasectomy before we met and never said anything to me. I found out when we were at his brother’s.
His brother talked about how he and my sister-in-law didn’t want any more kids after the birth of their third one, and asked my husband if he recalled the name of the doctor who performed his vasectomy. It was all I could do to keep from bursting into tears. I stormed out and drove home without him. After my BIL dropped him off at home, my husband tried to explain himself by claiming he didn’t think he wanted kids when he had it done. Supposedly, there was “never a good time” to tell me. When I told him I was leaving him, he offered to get it reversed if I agreed to stay. Despite my better judgment, I told him I needed some time to think.
I’m going to be 37 in less than a month. On the one hand, my chances of finding a new partner in time to have a child are low. On the other hand, my husband deceived me in a major way. Should I take him up on his offer or listen to my instincts and get out?