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Did your H stay home?!>


My husband and I have two kids under 4, both in daycare. Two months ago, the company I worked at was unexpectedly bought out and I was part of a mass layoff. I picked up part-time work immediately, but am still searching for a full-time job. But my husband has been pushing me to quit my part-time job and pull our kids out of daycare to save on expenses until I get a new full-time job.

Money is especially tight because my husband was unemployed for nearly six months earlier this year before getting his current job, and our savings still haven’t recovered. But taking our kids out of daycare feels like a slippery slope—if they lose their spots, it might be hard to go back or find another daycare. Also, it’s hard to network, interview, or even apply for jobs with two little kids at home. My nightmare would be becoming a full-time stay-at-home mom. I’m convinced if I make this choice, I’ll be stuck until they hit kindergarten, at minimum. With some belt-tightening, we could keep the kids at their daycare for at least three more months. But my husband is convinced that keeping them in daycare with a parent at home is wasteful. Help!

Re: Did your H stay home?!>

  • levioosalevioosa member
    Knottie Warrior 5000 Comments 500 Love Its 5 Answers
    Um, if he was unemployed for six months why didn't he pull them out and stay home with them? The double standard is disgusting. 


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  • What was the plan when your H was unemployed?? 

    There are major studies that pulling kids out of daycare while unemployed isn't a help to the person.

    That said, is there a compromise?  Can you reduce the # of days they're in daycare so they have a spot while you keep working? 

    If not, pull out the data.  Show him how it's likely going to lead to longer unemployment if you do what he asks and you're not being treated as an equal if he thinks you should do something you didn't push him to do during identical circumstances. 
  • ei34ei34 member
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    This H lost any leg to stand on since the kids remained in daycare while he spent six months unemployed.  I'd hold firm and remind him of that. 
  • Could you ask about a reduced schedule or holding fee with the daycare to save spots??
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