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how to tell father-in-law he pays for rehearsal?

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So here's my dilema..my soon to be father in law has more money than my parents do. However, my parents are helping out as much as they can to come up with money to help my fiance and I pay for the wedding. My soon to be FIL is divorced, so it's not like his wife can help tell him the ins and outs of wedding planning. So...how do my fiance and I ask him to help pay "his portion" of the wedding and pay for the rehearsal dinner?
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    edited December 2011
    You don't. You wait and see if he offers. If he doesn't, you and your FI pick up the tab.
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  • CassieeKCassieeK
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    edited December 2011
    You should never ask anyone to contribute to your wedding.
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  • RaptorSLHRaptorSLH member
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    edited December 2011
    What crfb said.  
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
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    edited December 2011
    In many circles, the groom's family still tends to pay for the RD. I don't know a single couple where the groom's family DIDN'T host the rehearsal dinner (ranging from ordering pizzas to 5-star multi- course events). Although PP are correct--you should never ask for money outright, your FI might want to ask his dad if he has any general RD suggestions, advice, thoughts, etc. for you guys and see if he gets the hint and where he takes the conversation. However, no one is obligated to pay for anything nor should you expect them to pay.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
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    edited December 2011
    To my knowledge there is also no "etiquette" for who pays for what. There is tradition, but in terms of etiquette anyone can pay for anything (or not). Also, there is a big difference between parents hosting an event and "giving money" (just something to keep in mind).
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