First look poll

sucrets4 · June 2010

Thanks, own! See the cut on her nose? I apparently suck at cutting her fingernails and left a sharp edge. She sliced it open and started crying and I felt like a failure as a mom.

The scab just fell off yesterday, so I'm feeling a little bit better about myself, lol.

sucrets4 · June 2010

Oh, I also want to say that we didn't see each other the night before the wedding.

sarah0725 · June 2010

We're not going to do it, and I have a feeling we'll sleep in different beach houses that night (our families will be in different ones). FI is pretty adamant about seeing me for the first time when I walk up the aisle, and he's not adamant about too many things, so I think I better give him this one.

Brie2010 · June 2010

Did you do a first look? Yes
If so, are you glad you did? Yes, absolutely. It was one of the best wedding decisions I made.
If you did not, do you wish you had?
Other thoughts? I think people lean away from doing the first look because it will make walking down the aisle less special, and that, for us, was NOT the case. A first look is just that--he sees your dress, you see his tux, you have fun and are cute and take pictures. Ours was lighthearted and really fun. Walking down the aisle, I got really emotional, because that? Is about walking to go make this guy your husband, which is a whole different ball of wax entirely and way more meaningful.

And now I will AW our first look because I love it.

ohwhynot · June 2010

Sucrets, I did notice the little cut, but I wasn't going to say anything because my children had them all the time as babies. It happens; forgive yourself!

Brie, I absolutely love your first look photos. Yours and Rach's are the ones that come immediately to mind when I think of first look pictuers - i hope mine turn out half as well.

Brie2010 · June 2010

Thanks, OWN!

Kniblet · June 2010

Did you do a first look? Yes. We stayed apart the night before and met for our photos a few hours before the ceremony
If so, are you glad you did? Absolutely. Best decision we made. It calmed BOTH of our nerves and gave us a private moment together before the day started flying by us.
Other thoughts? I was slightly worried that it would take away from the walk down the aisle but it did nothing like that. I still cried walking towards him. I still felt all of the emotion that I expected.

JessAndTrav · June 2010

While I really like the idea of first looks and think the photos are always gorgeous, I'm glad that we didn't do it. I really did have "that moment" when I saw him with all the guests, all the decorations, the right music, etc. I truly wouldn't trade that moment for anything.

kikibaby · June 2010

We did a first look. It wasn't a huge thing- we did it in our hotel suite, with me coming out of the bedroom while he was in the living room. It was just a good time for us to take some pictures.

But, I think in retrospect I wouldn't do it. It was kind of pointless- in our case, the pictures aren't all that great or anything, and it was sort of rushed. Maybe if it had worked out better timing-wise, I'd have enjoyed it more.

JessAndTrav · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_first-look-poll?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:31d7349a-d589-4fa3-b10d-8f7c36bdd73dPost:601b7914-b815-42ba-917f-b04eac76a948">Re: First look poll</a>:
[QUOTE]I will never forget how deep it felt walking up to my husband on the steps (where we got married) and seeing eachother for the first time different actually during the ceremony.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

Oh, yes. This.

topchef33 · June 2010

I'm pretty sure we're going to do it.

october010bride · June 2010

Did you do a first look? Yes, we are signing the ketubah before the ceremony (jewish wedding contract) so we have to see one another before hand.

If so, are you glad you did? Since there's no way around it, I'm very excited for it. It will allow us a quiet moment before the craziness begins.

If you did not, do you wish you had? N/A

Other thoughts? I understand why a lot of people don't want to do them but at the same time I think they can just as emotional and exciting as seeing each other when you're walking down the aisle.

brookelynpaisley · June 2010

We didn't do one. We were married early in the day and there wouldn't have really been time unless we wanted to be up at 4am. In some ways I wish we had, because the pics are usually really sweet, but I still loved seeing my husband for the first time at the end of that aisle.

BioGirl21 · June 2010

We did a first look and I'm really glad that we did. I don't think it took away from the "specialness" of seeing each other for the first time when I walked down the aisle. I was feeling really jittery before everything started and the first look helped calm me down. It was nice to see DH before the ceremony, to hold him and talk to him and iron out some last minute details and get all of our pictures done so we could head to the reception right away. It was a great experience and I still felt amazed and bride-like while walking down the asile.(We haven't gotten out pictures back from the wedding yet, so I'm not sure how the pictures from it turned out.)

carrieoz_76 · June 2010

We're doing first look photos for a selfish reason and an altruistic reason. Selfish - it will be hot as hel.l and I want to get pics when we both look our freshest. Altruistic - I don't want to make our guests wait while we're off taking pics.

dmbdbk · June 2010

We're not married yet, but I'm leaning toward doing a first look. Initially, I didn't think we should see each other before I walked down the aisle, but we're getting married in the evening in October. After talking with the photographer, she pointed out that it might already be dark after the ceremony and harder to get good pictures.

mandysmear · June 2010

I wish we would have done one. It would have made for awesome photos and taken some of the nervousness away I think.

LaceyMK · June 2010

I'm really excited to do a first look. I want to have his (and mine too) expression on film.
Also, if we do a first look we can get all those photos out of the way before the ceremony. No waiting for the guests.

Rosie109 · June 2010

Every decision made for our wedding has been cake for us, but the first look is the only thing that I am horribly torn about. I know he wants the first time he sees me to be at the wedding, and I respect and want that too, but I also want to get pictures taken before the ceremony so the wedding party can drink and enjoy themselves.

Its really troubling how much I am torn on this issue. I looked to my photographers for guidance and they said its our preference and that they have no preference either way.

pooh8402 · June 2010

we did not do a first look and there were no regrets. the moment we saw each other on the opposite ends of the aisle was just perfect. our photographer was actually able to get both of our expressions on camera because she is just that awesome.

wwnbw · June 2010

i can't decide if i really want to but we are going to because with the timing of everything else it's really the only way we can get our pictures in

Caronleola89 · June 2010

I never even thought about this until I read this poll! Now I am torn because I know I would love this moment but at the same time i had been planning on getting that "first look" picture as we were standing at each end of the aisle! oh man now I'm torn!

emilyinchile · June 2010

We didn't do one, and I'm glad. I believe when people say that doing one doesn't make walking down the aisle any less special, but both of us just had in our heads that we wouldn't see each other until that moment when we were about to get married. For us, it was right to keep that as the big reveal moment.

We still got plenty of pictures (and have a TTD session included in our package, so we'll get more pictures of us dressed up in cool locations). I used to wish that we wanted to do a first look just because I know it gives you more time, more photos and the chance to go to your cocktail hour, but I'm glad we stuck to what we both wanted and don't feel like we missed out at all.

BrilhanteBride · June 2010

We're not doing it. I wanted to. I think they are super cute plus you can get all the pictures out of the way and spend more time with guests. But my fiance said he was putting his foot down and there was no way it was gonna happen. He wants to see me for the first time when im walking down the aisle. He hasn't had much of an opinion on anything wedding realated. So I agreed.

JanoBean75 · June 2010

We're going to. Most of our photos are pre-ceremony anyway.

lemken · June 2010

We are doing first look pictures for a number of reasons. We are also staying apart from each other the night before, so it will be the first time we'll see each other for a while. Here's why I encourage a first look:

1) I know I am going to start sobbing the second I see him, I would rather have it be the 2 of us instead of hundreds of eyes.
2) I know I'm going to want to kiss him and hug him the first time I see him... I would rather have that be a private moment and not have to wait to kiss him properly at the end of our ceremomy.
3) We want to have fun immediately after the ceremony - not sit around and take more pictures.
4) We will look our best before the ceremony because we're having an outdoor wedding.
5) It gives us time to have a special moment before the wedding, for just the 2 of us to reflect and get excited for our next big step - we won't get that chance any other time after the ceremony.

I am a HUGE first look fan!

krmabojo · June 2010

We are getting them done. There is not going to be much alone time between on the day of the wedding so this is a way we can share some time together. We would do this if we had "first look" photos or not.

squirrly · June 2010

We did one, and I'm really happy with it. We got time to see each other, talk a bit, etc. It didn't make walking down the aisle to him any less special. If anything, it was better - We could really focus on the ceremony for what it was, rather than being distracted by dress/uniform/etc.

Other benefits: We had plenty of time to take photos at a couple of different places, we got to enjoy cocktail hour with our guests, and we got some really cool photos of that moment (in my married bio -- /> Pro Pics --> First Look).

e_jarrett · June 2010

We did a first look...and I'm so glad we did. I haven't seen the photos yet, but it was such a special and very emotional moment for both of us. We did them of me walking down the aisle of the church toward him. We both cried, it really was a great moment. We were able to get the majority of our photos done before the ceremony this way. It probably isn't for everyone, but I highly recommend it!

JohnCarrieC · June 2010

We're doing a first look. I actually love the idea. My friend got married just this last November and did it. It was really cute. I think it helped with emotions during the ceremony, and they got to take tons of pictures because they had all the time in the world. Then they got to go straight to the reception and have fun right away rather than taking pictures between ceremony and reception. I've had to wait 2 hours for the bride and groom to show to the reception because they were taking pictures at many weddings I've been to, and I don't want to be that couple.

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