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Best Man Vent

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Okay so the best man is my FI twin brother.  LOVE him.  He seriously is like the brother I've never had.  Anyways he tells us this week that he doesn't know if he is going to be able to go to the wedding..... SERIOUSLY?????!!!!! 

He got married last summer in hawaii.  We paid several thousands of dollars to go there because we wouldn't have missed it for the world....

He says that he doesn't know if he can get off from work.  Really we told everyone about a year prior to the wedding when/where the wedding was going to be.  And now you tell us that you can't get off from work? 

And to make matters worse this was the only reason FI wanted to invite people was because he wanted his twin there -which i totally get but know i'm kicking myself because i would have much preferred to have eloped.

With the wedding being on a Saturday evening, I'm really hoping that he'd at least be able to leave friday evening and come back on sunday.  But he is kind of cheap and flights/hotel for the weekend are 500$ for a cheapo hotel. 
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  • rachel801231rachel801231
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    That really sucks. Hopefully something will be able to be worked out.  As a person with extremely close family, I get it.  I know if either of our siblings had talked about missing our wedding, both our moms would be going off the deep end  because that's family and you just don't do that.  If it were do to financial  reasons, of course I would be a little more understandable, but to not go because you can't get off work, I would be upset.  Especially if it was someone that close to my FI I would totally be heart broken for him.  So here's to hoping it works out, and when all else fails (get his mom to talk to him lol)
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  • w+c3w+c3 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_march-2012-weddings_man-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:955e4823-0be1-44ef-9ee7-99a63794e103Discussion:7f1c2f4a-2a33-4dcd-aafe-57e9e8bafe92Post:98cfffbf-959c-4a02-bc71-54d6475ae537">Re: Best Man Vent</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think you should tell him exactly what you told us... that you wouldn't have had this type of wedding had it not been so important for him to be there.  He should really understand how much you both value his presence on your wedding day.  I find it hard to believe that it would be a financial issue if he could afford to get married in Hawaii!!  Hope it works out for you hun!
    Posted by cmac3504[/QUOTE]

    I agree with this.
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  • adrienne0925adrienne0925
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    I would have your FI have a talk about this with him.. Let him know how important it is to you and FI for him to be there!  He is the BEST MAN for god sakes!  I would also let him know that if he needs to cut his weekend trip short, that you  are willing to work with him...maybe he could come for one night instead of two if it's about the money??   I dunno, just an idea!
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  • amh04amh04
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_march-2012-weddings_man-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:955e4823-0be1-44ef-9ee7-99a63794e103Discussion:7f1c2f4a-2a33-4dcd-aafe-57e9e8bafe92Post:98cfffbf-959c-4a02-bc71-54d6475ae537">Re: Best Man Vent</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think you should tell him exactly what you told us... that you wouldn't have had this type of wedding had it not been so important for him to be there.  He should really understand how much you both value his presence on your wedding day.  I find it hard to believe that it would be a financial issue if he could afford to get married in Hawaii!!  Hope it works out for you hun!
    Posted by cmac3504[/QUOTE]

    I agree with this. I know how badly it sucks, everyone for us knew 8 months prior - now half of the family isn't even coming and my BM told me she couldn't get 1 day off of work to come. So I can completely relate to where your coming from.
    I would honestly just explain to him where you and your FI are coming from and how it really hurts that he is doing this and that you wouldn't of had this type of wedding if you knew he couldn't be there. I hope everything works out for you!!
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  • arrestclementinearrestclementine member
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    I talked to him this weekend.  I said that it would mean the world to us if you came.... He said that he was going to try but didnt know if he would be able to.  I'll understand if he doesn't come but I know that both myself and FI will be upset if he can't be there for whatever reason ... And to me it doesn't really matter about the wedding but he is just a fun person to be around and the party won't be the same without him!
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