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Inviting Co-Workers, but not ALL co-workers

laurendonlaurendon
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I have a pretty big list of co-workers that I would like to invite. If it were a perfect world, I'd be able to afford inviting them all, but I can't. How do I get around the weirdness of having one co-worker find out that they weren't invited, when another was. Do I put a nicely worded note in with their save the date to keep it on the DL? Do I hand them the save the dates in person and tell them? Advice???
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  • MayboneMaybone member
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    I'm only inviting my boss and his wife, and 3-4 of my coworkers.  The invites will go to their homes. I'm inviting people I've hung out with outside of work only. Everyone else will understand that I cannot afford to invite everyone (hey, they work with me!)

    I would not mention anything about keeping it a secret. The Ettiquette girls may be better at telling you what to say about coworkers questioning why they weren't invited, etc.
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  • MandiNewMommyMandiNewMommy
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    They should understand but you will always have someone who wants to talk sh*t or gets their feelings hurt.  For my frist wedding I invited who I wanted to.  If I dont like you or we dont really talk other than work stuff why would I invite you to my wedding? 
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  • DanieKADanieKA member
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    I think your co-workers that aren't invited should be adult about it and understand. Presumably you are only inviting the co-workers you are close with or friends with. If I wasn't one of those people, I'd understand. Weddings aren't cheap and I wouldn't expect an invite just because we get paid from the same company. 

    I do agree with Mandinewmommy, that at least one person is going to get butthurt for no reason. You've just got to stand your ground. Be friendly about it, but you just can't invite everyone. Anyone who doesn't understand that is just pissed they're missing the party, and they don't really care about you or your fiance as a couple.
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  • oxdelaneyoxdelaney member
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    I think it's only natural that a few coworkers will be invited to events. I have never been offended if I am not invited to various events and I would hope that no one would get offended if/when I don't invite them.

    I'm realizing that weddings offend a lot of people lately! I have a couple girls upset that they're not my bridesmaids :(
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2013-weddings_inviting-co-workers-but-not-all-co-workers?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:26a515ec-8009-4599-b81d-5edee3b3fb3cDiscussion:2a2101c2-05ac-4480-bd20-e41fb4e8dd4fPost:4a44d228-c50e-4c32-a5d2-32995e6bb232">Re: Inviting Co-Workers, but not ALL co-workers</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think it's only natural that a few coworkers will be invited to events. I have never been offended if I am not invited to various events and I would hope that no one would get offended if/when I don't invite them. I'm realizing that weddings offend a lot of people lately! I have a couple girls upset that they're not my bridesmaids :(
    Posted by oxdelaney[/QUOTE]

    1. I love your dog.
    2. I've noticed this too.  Personally, I don't expect invitations to things unless I'm family.  I'm close to a couple girls at work, so I'll probably invite them but even though everyone at work knows I'm getting married, I doubt all of them expect an invite.  Just don't invite everybody but like one person, that would be rude.
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  • oxdelaneyoxdelaney member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2013-weddings_inviting-co-workers-but-not-all-co-workers?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:26a515ec-8009-4599-b81d-5edee3b3fb3cDiscussion:2a2101c2-05ac-4480-bd20-e41fb4e8dd4fPost:e0c2f971-722e-42af-a6b1-41162b8d1a7a">Re: Inviting Co-Workers, but not ALL co-workers</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Inviting Co-Workers, but not ALL co-workers : 1. I love your dog. 2. I've noticed this too.  Personally, I don't expect invitations to things unless I'm family.  I'm close to a couple girls at work, so I'll probably invite them but even though everyone at work knows I'm getting married, I doubt all of them expect an invite.  Just don't invite everybody but like one person, that would be rude.
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    </div><div>Thank you :) :) :)

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